DW lays in bed with 4 year old at naptime

[Anonymous]

LOL we do this every weekend day with our 4yo. Either DH or I will lie down with her and take a nap ourselves. Planning to make it last as long as we can. She still naps independently during the weekdays with her nanny.

[Anonymous]

Completely fine! I did with my three and one started as young teen traveling abroad for mission trips, junior year high school year abroad, and now overseas university. This has nothing to do with creating an independent child.

I was SAH until 4 th grade. Those years go so fast. Let them have this!

[Anonymous]

What is the problem??? Naptime with your kids is the best! Its so nice to be quiet with them and snuggle and take a nap yourself. My kids who have aged out of regular naps still ask me to snuggle with them on the weekends. I will never ever say no! I know I only have a few more years of this and then it'll be gone for good.

[Anonymous]

He's 4.

A lot of parents seem to have this bizarre idea of how independent their very young children need to be. It's totally okay if a 4 year old likes having his mom nearby when he naps. If it was impacting his sleep at night or becoming an imposition on your wife, that's different. If they both just enjoy the closeness and it's helping extend his napping phase, it sounds fantastic. Kids that age need lots of love and cuddles and the security of knowing they are loved and protected by their parents. Like, developmentally, that's where they are at. They need that reassurance as often as you can give it. It sounds like your wife has found a great way to provide in a way that she also enjoys and that contributes to your child getting needed rest and relaxation. What a gift.

Parents who fixate on PK-age kids being "independent" or who think that snuggling with a parent at that age is not "age appropriate" should read a few parenting books. A 4yo is an extremely young child. He's been alive for less than 50 months. Come on.