popular vs. unpopular continues into motherhood

[Anonymous]

"Goodness...it's quite surprising that you don't get a lot of kind smiles from people. I mean, your post makes clear that you're nothing but warm and fuzzy! Or, you know, crazy in a bitchy sort of way. WOW."

Deflect and deny, local. It must be me. Snort.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"Goodness...it's quite surprising that you don't get a lot of kind smiles from people. I mean, your post makes clear that you're nothing but warm and fuzzy! Or, you know, crazy in a bitchy sort of way. WOW."

Deflect and deny, local. It must be me. Snort.

Not the PP, but yes, it's you. No doubt about it. It's not D.C. It's you. How people treat you is a reflection of how they see you. If people seem consistently negative and unfriendly to you, it's because you are negative and unfriendly.

[Anonymous]

And lo ye shall know the Hipster Mom by the loft of her puffer and the cut of her daisy dukes ...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Deflect and deny, local. It must be me. Snort.

Snort indeed! I am in no way a local - in geographic origin, education, or otherwise. Yes, dear, it is you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Deflect and deny, local. It must be me. Snort.

Snort indeed! I am in no way a local - in geographic origin, education, or otherwise. Yes, dear, it is you.

I have to agree - I am constantly having pleasant interactions with complete strangers and am always shocked to hear of people complain about how folks are rude here. In my personal experience - the ones complaining about rude people and poor experiences are the ones that treat other people poorly. Reap what you sow. Now driving is a totally different story.

[Anonymous]

Yes, everyone knows DC is full of the nicest moms in the country. It's highly unlikely you will run into a clique of mean, frumpy moms here; and if you do, it's your fault.

[Anonymous]

Hands down, the nicest moms in the DC area shop at the Whole Foods on River Road. Then they head over to American Plant Food. I have the bruises and door dings to prove it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hands down, the nicest moms in the DC area shop at the Whole Foods on River Road. Then they head over to American Plant Food. I have the bruises and door dings to prove it.

omg - what is it about the women that shop at Whole Foods on River Road? Every time I leave that place, I have a new story for DH about how one of my fellow shoppers verbally accosted me for invading her personal space (i.e., opening the freezer door next to hers). And I'm a local, and don't generally see that behavior anywhere else. (Except from men in their 60s at the Arlington Road Giant.)

[Anonymous]

There is no such thing as popular vs. unpopular as adults for me. I guess I am secure enough to truly only want to hang out with people who like me. I have never, as a grown woman, sought the company of those I felt were trying to snub me (and really haven't felt snubbed, actually). I can clue in to who I have les in common with, and I would never push it. Life is too short and with work, family, and things I like to do on the side, there is simply no time for this sort of thing in my life.

I can't say the same about childhood - probably a mixture of insecurity, not knowing as much about who I was, plus being forced into circumstances (like school, etc.), and having lots of free time.

As an adult, I can honestly say I've never been hurt by co-workers going out to lunch without me, etc. Everyone is really friendly, and I go out with my friends (when I do go out to lunch, I honestly prefer working out or running an errand during that time and having some "me" time most days) and I assume people go out with their good friends. Same with mom groups, etc. I had a great mom group during maternity leave, and choose to stay in touch with two moms. I think the some women in the group still gets together but I have no interest (or time really). Not snubbing them, but don't feel snubbed either.

Maybe it's different for SAHMs, but I don't think it would be for me. I would just make friends with people who wanted to be friends with me!

[Anonymous]

"Not the PP, but yes, it's you. No doubt about it. It's not D.C. It's you. How people treat you is a reflection of how they see you. If people seem consistently negative and unfriendly to you, it's because you are negative and unfriendly."

Nope. Not in person. Nice try though. D.C. is not for everyone. Especially if they are educated, socially astute and accomplished. What passes for manners here is inexcusable.

[Anonymous]

Snort indeed! I am in no way a local - in geographic origin, education, or otherwise. Yes, dear, it is you.

Nope, "sugar". Nice try. I've even had locals admit how much of a pissing contest it can be here. Case in point. Tiresome.

"I have to agree - I am constantly having pleasant interactions with complete strangers and am always shocked to hear of people complain about how folks are rude here. In my personal experience - the ones complaining about rude people and poor experiences are the ones that treat other people poorly. Reap what you sow. Now driving is a totally different story."

Nope. wrong again. But you do have some insight into the sociopathic mind and antisocial tendencies. At least someone here is educated. Driving is an indication of their subconscious anger. Case in point. Well proven!

[Anonymous]

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:sock puppet.

Probably not. If you believe messages are from trolls or sock puppets, please use the "report" button to let me know about it rather than unnecessarily disrupting a thread.

Jeff, most of the time I agree with you but I gotta call you on your attitude here-you just wrote a blog about how another talented sock puppeteer has invaded the hallowed halls of DCUM. You pointed out a of couple of examples, but how do we know which is which? We are not privy to IP addresses like you are. You really think I'm going to hit the report button (which I thought was for spam) every time I suspect a post not to be genuine? I'd need a third index finger. Would it be more reasonable for you to alert us everytime a thread is being sockpuppeted? What about when something is simply made up? I just don't think it's fair in this current atmosphere to accuse someone of suggesting someone else is a sock puppet as "unnecessarily disrupting a thread". I guess I'm just confused here-who are the disrupters-the sock puppets themselves or the ones accusing them without all the knowledge you have?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"Not the PP, but yes, it's you. No doubt about it. It's not D.C. It's you. How people treat you is a reflection of how they see you. If people seem consistently negative and unfriendly to you, it's because you are negative and unfriendly."

Nope. Not in person. Nice try though. D.C. is not for everyone. Especially if they are educated, socially astute and accomplished. What passes for manners here is inexcusable.

I'm assuming you're meaning to suggest that these are your attributes. Could you please describe your education, what you consider "social astuteness" to be, as well as what constitutes being "accomplished"? You see, I'd probably think of myself as educated, socially astute, and accomplished, but I'm not shunned by anyone, so I must not share your exalted level of any of these qualities.

Certainly DC is not for everyone - and you will find that yes, no one will like you if you project an attitude that you're above everyone, or walking in with the assumption that everyone is negative and unfriendly. You'll get exactly what you expect. It's apparent that you believe only your beauty, kindness and welcoming demeanor show through in your interactions with others. I suggest you add "expert in denial" to your list of attributes.

[Anonymous]

The "D.C. is awful" poster is my least favorite DCUM poster. I even like Angry Nanny better. It's an old, boring, ridiculous argument, D.C. Hater. I know that there is more than one person here who doesn't like the area, but this poster is the worst. She's at it all the time and she's recognizable because she doesn't know how to use the quote function.

D.C. Hater, if people here are as awful to you as you claim, it's because you're awful.

Yours truly,
A Southerner (And yes, D.C. Hater, I know. That makes me even stupider, less educated and less mannered than all these horrid D.C. locals.)

[Anonymous]

"The "D.C. is awful" poster is my least favorite DCUM poster. I even like Angry Nanny better. It's an old, boring, ridiculous argument, D.C. Hater. I know that there is more than one person here who doesn't like the area, but this poster is the worst. She's at it all the time and she's recognizable because she doesn't know how to use the quote function.
D.C. Hater, if people here are as awful to you as you claim, it's because you're awful.
Yours truly,
A Southerner (And yes, D.C. Hater, I know. That makes me even stupider, less educated and less mannered than all these horrid D.C. locals.)"

BWHAHAHAHHAHAHA! Whatever. Keep guessing, hater. You are one of the unbearable. There are a lot of people NOT from here, just so you know. You might want to come out of your rock sometime. Do you still think the South won that awful Civil War? Or do you still call it the War of Northern Aggression? Do you keep Slaves in your basement? Or do you limit it to spitefully driving 10 MPH in the left lane of the beltway? Why are Southerners so ignorant, anyway? Do tell why they hate so much and are so angry. We are dying to know. Oh wait, I think we already know. Good luck, you'll need it.