popular vs. unpopular continues into motherhood

[Anonymous]

17:08 did!

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Anonymous wrote:Now I know this has been discussed over and over but I need to bring it up. Let's set the stage, I know I might appear to look like a snobby bitch that cares a lot about appearances. I am very nice and open to meeting new people though. So today I was at the park and was attempting to make small talk with a group of moms that had also just met. They looked rather frumpy dumpy but hey I was up for some chatter. They shunned me, didn't want to talk to me. As I walked away I hear them discussing my son who admittedly looks like a fratstar in training. I feel I was just victim or reverse discrimination. Dorks...

I'm betting that they knew what you were thinking. They could read your disdain and didn't want to talk to you. I know some people who do not realize how transparent their emotions are to others. You may be one of those.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Now I know this has been discussed over and over but I need to bring it up. Let's set the stage, I know I might appear to look like a snobby bitch that cares a lot about appearances. I am very nice and open to meeting new people though. So today I was at the park and was attempting to make small talk with a group of moms that had also just met. They looked rather frumpy dumpy but hey I was up for some chatter. They shunned me, didn't want to talk to me. As I walked away I hear them discussing my son who admittedly looks like a fratstar in training. I feel I was just victim or reverse discrimination. Dorks...

In my experience, if it looks like a duck...

[Anonymous]

PP, well said!

[Anonymous]

what on earth is a fratstar?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:what on earth is a fratstar?

aka loser

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:truthfully I don't care, I was trying to get over that stuff and not be judgy but they brought it right back out.

Still "trying" all these years later? Yikes. I think that battle has been lost, in your case. Just give up and be who you are.

My crowd of sarcastic/hipster/globetrotting moms (who, in our frayed-cuff jeans and down vests, probably look frumpy/dorky to you) are just as happy keeping to ourselves, as we are being graced by the presence of an aging prom queen.

Does not = cut offs...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Trying to imagine hipsters in cutoff shorts and down vests?? What the? In what kind of weather?

Actually, no joke, hipsters are wearing jorts (jean shorts) now. I think I might be too old to figure out if it's ironic or not. I used to be a hipster but the shelf life on hipsters is pretty short! I outgrew it at about 30. Now it's back to all Jcrew all the time, which was my high school style. Ah, the circle of life.

PS. Who cares?

PS2. OP, you crack me up. Are you serious? Is it possible that you were dressed to your idea of the nines to go to the playground? Either way, I'm gonna go out on a limb and suggest that you probably had the stink of someone trying way too hard (in all areas) and people generally resist that. If you're a nicer person than you've made yourself sound, try again. I will say this, they sound like shitty people as well if they really made fun of your son just because they thought you were a heel. So...screw them! And also, maybe next time, be more casual and genuinely friendly in your approach, and try not to approach women like some sort of benevolent fashionista who will deign to hang out with them and their jorts.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like one mean person ran into another group of mean people. OP's post is obnoxious, but the frumpy moms were making fun of her son. I'm going to stay away from all of them, I think.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like one mean person ran into another group of mean people. OP's post is obnoxious, but the frumpy moms were making fun of her son. I'm going to stay away from all of them, I think.

OP could have just made the whole thing up.

[Anonymous]

i do think that some women resist talking to thin/beautiful women because they are jealous and threatened. I am sorta thin and ok looking but whenever I look remotely good I find it harder to meet women (in a platonic sense! tee hee)

[Anonymous]

Painful.

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OP, welcome to D.C. - NOT a friendly place. Have you SEEN their facial expressions? They look like they have been sucking lemons (read: no sex) for the last forty of their thirty something years.

If you look friendly, they generally look right through as is they have a point to prove (point being: they are miserable and think you have something they don't). They irony - they just are not that smart to be thinking that much to begin with. But they think they are, so let them. Locals flame away.

Manners are taken as a license to be a doormat. Check any manners at the door.

I reiterate, these are NOT happy people.

But why bother if they don't interest you to begin with, really? Move on.

Maybe find people from where you are from - so you can relate? Does your professional/grad school have an alumni chapter here? Supposedly it's "diverse" here. Snort.

Anyway, I know what you mean. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

A fratstar is someone who looks like the cliche of a douchey frat boy. It's kind of a putdown.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

OP, welcome to D.C. - NOT a friendly place. Have you SEEN their facial expressions? They look like they have been sucking lemons (read: no sex) for the last forty of their thirty something years.

If you look friendly, they generally look right through as is they have a point to prove (point being: they are miserable and think you have something they don't). They irony - they just are not that smart to be thinking that much to begin with. But they think they are, so let them. Locals flame away.

Manners are taken as a license to be a doormat. Check any manners at the door.

I reiterate, these are NOT happy people.

But why bother if they don't interest you to begin with, really? Move on.

Maybe find people from where you are from - so you can relate? Does your professional/grad school have an alumni chapter here? Supposedly it's "diverse" here. Snort.

Anyway, I know what you mean. Good luck.

Goodness...it's quite surprising that you don't get a lot of kind smiles from people. I mean, your post makes clear that you're nothing but warm and fuzzy! Or, you know, crazy in a bitchy sort of way. WOW.