If he is gay, sure |
News flash to the OP - if the male friend were not physically attracted to you on some level, he would not be wasting his time. |
Normally I would agree but we've never met. Have made no concrete plans to meet either. |
Definitely can be. Not if either party is angling for anything other than friendship, though.
The single guys who are my friends are all part of a larger group of friends and we rarely ever see each other one on one. |
The only two close male friends I’ve had, who never made any kind of move, ended up both being gay. |
Why are you trolling the internet for guys OP? |
Oh, honey, he doesn't need to have met you in person to be physically attracted to you or think he is and might want to sleep with you. But this is very different than your OP. You OP made it seem like this was a long-standing friendship. You are escaping an unhappy marriage by playing around on the internet and bonding with men you find there. Given these new revelations, it's also highly likely that the common beliefs you think you share are just his tactics to get you to sleep with him. Leve this man and internet distractions alone. Work on yourself, maybe get therapy, decide if you want to stay in your marriage or not. Don't involve yourself in an affair emotional or otherwise, that is likely to bring more drama and pain to your life. If you choose to leave your marriage leave from a place of strength no chaos. |
I'm not. He reached out to me. |
solid advice..thanks. |
How? |
He messaged me on FB. We're in a lot of the same groups based on shared interests. |
+1 exactly this |
And you seriously think that he messaged you so he could explore your common interest in baseball, photography, politics, or whatever these shared interests are? Why can't he talk about those topics with people he already knows? Just imagine how ridiculous he would look if he reached out to a guy whom he had never met on that basis. |
Maybe I’m naive but I’ve reached out to other women based on this topic of shared interest. I don’t think there was some master plan to get in my pants and anyway, it’s not like we are meeting in person. It’s all online. |
I’m a woman and I’ve reached out to moms just based on commonalities I see in posts. I also think men and women can be friends, I’m really good friends with a coworker dad and his wife, he’s like a female version of me but I get to see how their family handles kiddos and we swap stories and vents.
Now….the story seems strange are you sure you’re not being catfished by your unhappy marriage husband? Men don’t tend to reach out to strangers unless they’re angling for something OR it’s not really them. Does the profile seem legitimate? |