Is it possible for a married woman to be friends with a single guy?

[Anonymous]

I'm a happily married woman who has a single male friend. We are colleagues and share many interests. We enjoy speaking with each other and can hang out and have fun. The truth is he's a better conversationalist than my DH and we have a lot more in common.

Having said that, I would never cheat. And, my friend would never make a pass. We are really just friends.

It isn't always sexual.

[Anonymous]

Can a single woman be friends with a married man? Adulting is hard ya’ll

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can a single woman be friends with a married man? Adulting is hard ya’ll

I’m single with a very good married male friend but the friendship is really sports oriented. We compete in mixed doubles tennis tournaments at a pretty high level. A few times a year we travel to tournaments where there are other teams in the same boat - one married and one single or two married but to different people. If anything is going on I’m not aware of it and my partner has never made any kind of move on me.

[Anonymous]

Sure they can be friends. However, 99% of the time if given the opportunity the guy would go for more than that. I find women are incredibly naive about this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sure they can be friends. However, 99% of the time if given the opportunity the guy would go for more than that. I find women are incredibly naive about this.

Most women vastly underestimate the male sex drive. Whatever you think, multiply times 10.

[Anonymous]

You don't need our permission to do what you want. Go ahead and bang him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To the question in your title: absolutely! I have many such friends.

To the question in your OP: absolutely not. This is just a pre-planned emotional and/or physical affair.

I agree with this. I’ve had 3 really good male friendships during my marriage.

(1) a guy I met in my apartment building. Sometimes we’d grab a beer. When he eventually met the woman he married she also became a friend. We’ve since moved from the area, but he was a friend for a few years.

(2) a guy I rarely see who was a childhood friend - if we’re in our hometowns I like catching up.

(3) a guy whose a good friend of my husband’s. We usually see each other all together or our family hangs out with him. But I consider him a friend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here...been talking to him for over a month now. This was not a good idea. And yet, I haven't stopped.

What happened, OP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sure they can be friends. However, 99% of the time if given the opportunity the guy would go for more than that. I find women are incredibly naive about this.

I know this is an old comment but what difference does this make? So what if the guy wants to have sex with me? If he doesn't make a move and I have no interest I don't see a problem with being friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sure they can be friends. However, 99% of the time if given the opportunity the guy would go for more than that. I find women are incredibly naive about this.

I know this is an old comment but what difference does this make? So what if the guy wants to have sex with me? If he doesn't make a move and I have no interest I don't see a problem with being friends.

I think it is a silly comment, too. Between attraction and action there are a million steps. There are tons of attractions and crushes out there, the issue is if you act on them. Comments like that make it very difficult for men and women to be in the workplace together, just because one of you feels whatever at some moment does not mean we need to go back to chastity belts and burkas. You handle it like an adult, that’s all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sure they can be friends. However, 99% of the time if given the opportunity the guy would go for more than that. I find women are incredibly naive about this.

I know this is an old comment but what difference does this make? So what if the guy wants to have sex with me? If he doesn't make a move and I have no interest I don't see a problem with being friends.

I think it is a silly comment, too. Between attraction and action there are a million steps. There are tons of attractions and crushes out there, the issue is if you act on them. Comments like that make it very difficult for men and women to be in the workplace together, just because one of you feels whatever at some moment does not mean we need to go back to chastity belts and burkas. You handle it like an adult, that’s all.

Thank you!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sure they can be friends. However, 99% of the time if given the opportunity the guy would go for more than that. I find women are incredibly naive about this.

I know this is an old comment but what difference does this make? So what if the guy wants to have sex with me? If he doesn't make a move and I have no interest I don't see a problem with being friends.

ANd I'm sure you wouldn't all be hurt when you find out the guy you thought was your super close friend who just got you was just all those things to try and sleep with you, and then he drops you when he gets a girlfriend or wife.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here...been talking to him for over a month now. This was not a good idea. And yet, I haven't stopped.

How's the cheating going?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sure they can be friends. However, 99% of the time if given the opportunity the guy would go for more than that. I find women are incredibly naive about this.

I know this is an old comment but what difference does this make? So what if the guy wants to have sex with me? If he doesn't make a move and I have no interest I don't see a problem with being friends.

ANd I'm sure you wouldn't all be hurt when you find out the guy you thought was your super close friend who just got you was just all those things to try and sleep with you, and then he drops you when he gets a girlfriend or wife.

I never assume that somebody wanted to be friends with me just because he wanted to sleep with me, but even if I thought that, no I wouldn't be hurt. Friendships come and go all the time. I have had male friends drop me when they get a girlfriend or wife and it is a bit of a bummer, but I'm happy for them that they found somebody.

Also I don't have "super close friends" who are men, not just because I"m married but also because I don't have time. It's hard enough to get in a weekly date with my husband.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sure they can be friends. However, 99% of the time if given the opportunity the guy would go for more than that. I find women are incredibly naive about this.

I know this is an old comment but what difference does this make? So what if the guy wants to have sex with me? If he doesn't make a move and I have no interest I don't see a problem with being friends.

ANd I'm sure you wouldn't all be hurt when you find out the guy you thought was your super close friend who just got you was just all those things to try and sleep with you, and then he drops you when he gets a girlfriend or wife.

It’s not like this isn’t an experience that’s unusual for women (more single women but married too) and it’s definitely not a reason to avoid friendship with somebody.

Honestly if I get the good things from a friendship, it doesn’t matter that there was a hope that it would turn physical. I just appreciate the good times.