Is it possible for a married woman to be friends with a single guy?

[Anonymous]

Everyone knows of the relationship statuses involved. Woman is in a sad and difficult marriage but isn’t leaving for various reasons. Single guy is not hyper local (45 miles or so) but they share common interests and ethics. So he reaches out just to be friends. Is this possible?

[Anonymous]

You're going to have an affair.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You're going to have an affair.

Yep.

[Anonymous]

To the question in your title: absolutely! I have many such friends.

To the question in your OP: absolutely not. This is just a pre-planned emotional and/or physical affair.

[Anonymous]

That’s a tricky one. I was in your shoes and ended up having an affair, then leaving my H for my friend. We’re still together.

I don’t think being in a bad marriage should mean you can’t have friends, though. I’m grateful my friend helped me get out of my bad marriage.

The biggest thing to look at is - does he prioritize your needs and what is best for *you*? If not, he’s not a good friend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To the question in your title: absolutely! I have many such friends.

To the question in your OP: absolutely not. This is just a pre-planned emotional and/or physical affair.

This!

[Anonymous]

I predict trouble.

[Anonymous]

Would said woman tell of her friendship to her h?

[Anonymous]

Many married women were friends of mine. Once I slept with them, their husbands got mad and they were never allowed to speak to me again. Oh well...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To the question in your title: absolutely! I have many such friends.

To the question in your OP: absolutely not. This is just a pre-planned emotional and/or physical affair.

This!

+2

I am a married woman with several single guy friends. Some of them my DH is also friends with, some are people I met at work or know from another part of my life that are more "my" friends but my DH knows about them and has zero issues with our friendship. I actually just got back in touch with an old friend who is recently divorced. When I went to meet him for coffee to catch up, my DH and I were joking that he was reaching out in the hopes I was looking for a side piece. It was funny. It was actually just a friend trying to get back in touch with people after a tough relationship, no shady business at all.

But I'm happily married and am not interested in any of my friends, single or otherwise. If I were miserable in my marriage and actually attracted to one of these guys, it's a recipe for an affair or divorce, obviously. But the problem is the marital unhappiness and the attraction to this other person. Not the "friendship".

[Anonymous]

I think you know the answer.

[Anonymous]

Even if you think it’s just friends, you’re going to be so mad at him when you realize how badly he wants in your pants and that he thinks he has a shot.

[Anonymous]

She gonna get the D big time and it will be hawt.

[Anonymous]

Totally! When I was single, I was friends with married guys and as a married woman, I am friends with single guys (and married guys - I don't discriminate).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To the question in your title: absolutely! I have many such friends.

To the question in your OP: absolutely not. This is just a pre-planned emotional and/or physical affair.

This!

+2

I am a married woman with several single guy friends. Some of them my DH is also friends with, some are people I met at work or know from another part of my life that are more "my" friends but my DH knows about them and has zero issues with our friendship. I actually just got back in touch with an old friend who is recently divorced. When I went to meet him for coffee to catch up, my DH and I were joking that he was reaching out in the hopes I was looking for a side piece. It was funny. It was actually just a friend trying to get back in touch with people after a tough relationship, no shady business at all.

But I'm happily married and am not interested in any of my friends, single or otherwise. If I were miserable in my marriage and actually attracted to one of these guys, it's a recipe for an affair or divorce, obviously. But the problem is the marital unhappiness and the attraction to this other person. Not the "friendship".

Nice try, but married women should not be going on coffee dates with single men. Of course he was trolling for a side piece.