Annoying Wedding Invitation Today

[Anonymous]

Can the older college age siblings come home to watch younger that weekend? Does the 14 y/o have a friend to stay with? How was cousin putting you on the spot by sending out the information first thing in the morning, was she texting constantly to see if everyone received it? If it didn't say "no kids" would you have all these feelings?

[Anonymous]

Why is everyone responding with childcare solutions? I don't read the OP as being about whether or not she can attend the wedding without her 14-year-old, but about being annoyed at being put on the spot at 6:30 am.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why is everyone responding with childcare solutions? I don't read the OP as being about whether or not she can attend the wedding without her 14-year-old, but about being annoyed at being put on the spot at 6:30 am.

I think people are responding because it’s really easy to handle a 14 year old and really shouldn’t affect OP’s decision about going. And, it’s a text message; how is that being put on the spot? Just don’t answer it until you are ready. If pushed, say you need to think about it. It’s just not a big deal, so people can’t understand why OP is posting at all and are trying to help.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why is everyone responding with childcare solutions? I don't read the OP as being about whether or not she can attend the wedding without her 14-year-old, but about being annoyed at being put on the spot at 6:30 am.

I think people are responding because it’s really easy to handle a 14 year old and really shouldn’t affect OP’s decision about going. And, it’s a text message; how is that being put on the spot? Just don’t answer it until you are ready. If pushed, say you need to think about it. It’s just not a big deal, so people can’t understand why OP is posting at all and are trying to help.

Which is exactly what OP did. She was just annoyed at being pressured, especially since it was 6:30 on a workday. Overreaction, sure, but not unreasonable. And it might affect her decision about what hotel room to book -- if it's just her v. all three of them. So she wants to talk to her husband and decide what they are going to do -- is there anyone who wouldn't do that?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You know you can ignore the group text and leave the conversation so it doesn't bother you with all the pinging or silence the notifications for that text? Then get back to your relative when you have the time.

You can't if the group is a mix of iphone and android. It is annoying and stupid. People should only do it in a chat app, so you can delete or leave.

[Anonymous]

You can make sure your phone is silent before a certain time. You didn't have to respond immediately. You didn't have to voice your childcare problems to a bride who is planning a wedding.

I would have ignored the text. Finished up my busy morning. And take some time between now and the RSVP date to decide the best way to manage the 14 year old or to skip the wedding. Kid-free weddings are hard on some guests, but such is life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You know you can ignore the group text and leave the conversation so it doesn't bother you with all the pinging or silence the notifications for that text? Then get back to your relative when you have the time.

You can't if the group is a mix of iphone and android. It is annoying and stupid. People should only do it in a chat app, so you can delete or leave.

You can still “hide alerts” in a mixed group, which is better than nothing. I also have do not disturb on from 10pm to 8am every night.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You clearly don't like these relatives so skip it. If a text message annoys you, I can only imagine how you will do at the actual event.

It's a group text at 6:30am. That IS annoying. Can't you read? You're annoying too.


--not OP.

DP. By 6:30, I have been up for an hour and a half. A bunch of texts at 6:30 from someone would be no big deal.

[Anonymous]

Just mute that specific text group- you don’t have to put your whole phone on do not disturb. Just slide your finger over on that group chat and silence it.. they can beep away and you hear nothing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You clearly don't like these relatives so skip it. If a text message annoys you, I can only imagine how you will do at the actual event.

It's a group text at 6:30am. That IS annoying. Can't you read? You're annoying too.


--not OP.

DP. By 6:30, I have been up for an hour and a half. A bunch of texts at 6:30 from someone would be no big deal.

NP. No one in my entire house wakes up before 7:30am including the dog.

[Anonymous]

It’s dumb to be annoyed about an early morning text. It’s on you that notifications/sound were on!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s dumb to be annoyed about an early morning text. It’s on you that notifications/sound were on!

You can be both responsible for turning your sounds off AND also annoyed at idiots group texting.

A family member group texted a save the date for a bar mitzvah to 40 or 50 people. And then a bunch of people felt compelled to reply all “great thanks!” “Wouldn’t miss it!” etc X40 or 50 people. It was SO annoying.

Some things should be emailed not texted.

[Anonymous]

It's annoying but maybe the hotel gave her an ultimatum (group rate?) for everyone with a short lead time. Possibly, she was trying to save guests some money or is extremely anxious that they have somewhere to stay.

Also, I don't know how isolated your cousin has been, but many of us have been lonely, bored, chronically stressed, over excited by *any* social opportunity, and out of practice-- it might be that we all need a little grace as we get back out into the world.

[Anonymous]

My family will send mega group texts. It’s not uncommon for someday to reply days later and say they missed the 100 messages because they had it silenced and if there was anything important, can someone summarize because they won’t read them. No one is offended.

Turn off all sounds on your phone and learn how to stop notifications from a group text. Responding to something like this is not an emergency.

[Anonymous]

How rude of her, OP. However please remind yourself that the bride and groom are NOT responsible for this crazy person's communication style.