Annoying Wedding Invitation Today

[Anonymous]

Have your 14 year old babysit any of the other kids not invited but that need to tag along for a fee....aka have them dropped off at the hotel room with some pizzas and a few movies lined up.

And keep your phone on do not disturb until you're ready to be disturbed.

[Anonymous]

Group texts are super annoying.

Full stop.

[Anonymous]

Seriously, either go or don’t.
Mute the text thread. This is not a crisis nor is it rocket science.

[Anonymous]

You sound awful.

[Anonymous]

1. Learn to use the DND or mute function on your phone. Seriously, you sound ancient when you complain about a phone beeping for 15 minutes.
2. Why would your 14 year old need a babysitter or for a parent to stay home? Can she not just spend the night in the hotel watching Netflix and eating pizza?

[Anonymous]

What's wrong with your kid that he or she cannot:

a) spend the night with a friend at home?

b) stay home with spouse?

c) come with but spend a few hours during the wedding on his own?

Presumably you are not always with him 24-7?

Breastfeeding baby I get, but a fourteen year old?

You don't like them. We are in a pandemic. Just do them a favor and RSVP no.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:At 6:30 am today. First day in person school while getting out of shower my phone starts beeping from texts one after another. Trying to get kid up, breakfast, work.

My drama Queen cousin announces her kid in person wedding on December that was delayed, like 40 people on the group text. Then a link to book hotel now with code today if you want to make sure. She adds in no kids. Meanwhile three of us are at last kid stage. I have a 14 year old and other two away at college. After beeping 15 minutes. I finally reply it is a six hour drive and a weekend thing with it being adult only I have to get back to you if we all can attend or one parent stays home.

She literally was looking for us to book rooms and rsvp on a 6:30 am Monday.

She is a bit of a nut. But is she clueless. Why not send during weekend or later in the day?

I thought some type of school emergency or Covid warning. The women is 60 and retired. Her child is 27. Oddly came from mom not the 27 year old. We are first cousins so I don’t get it. No one has little kids. We are talking maybe you 2-3 tweens still at home. Last kids among all the first cousins. And wedding is an overnight thing for everyone.

I would not have responded as the group text got me involved as another person asked what am I doing my kid. I have no baby sitting or relatives nearby.

Mail a invite or send an email lady. Who puts everyone on the spot at 630 am

I don't think she's the drama queen/nut in the family...

[Anonymous]

There is pent up demand for weddings postponed by Covid, as well as travel generally. Maybe they suddenly got an opening for the wedding and wanted to let people know quickly before the hotel gets fully booked.

As for the mother sending the text, that seems normal to me. We hosted/paid for DD's wedding and the invitations came from us. That was a formal wedding and just before covid so obviously we didn't have to resort to text messages, but with weddings being rescheduled more than once over the last year the traditional approach doesn't make sense.

[Anonymous]

In what universe can your 14yo not stay in the hotel room and watch a movie and eat room service or pizza, and you and DH can take turns texting or popping up to the room to check in?

RSVP yes or no. Get over it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What's wrong with your kid that he or she cannot:

a) spend the night with a friend at home?

b) stay home with spouse?

c) come with but spend a few hours during the wedding on his own?

Presumably you are not always with him 24-7?

Breastfeeding baby I get, but a fourteen year old?

You don't like them. We are in a pandemic. Just do them a favor and RSVP no.

Is there a reason you've decided to overreact to this? OP just said that she needed to figure out what she was doing with her 14-year-old, not that it posed some kind of insuperable obstacle. She wasn't asking about that, anyway. She was just venting that someone was blowing up her phone with a group text at 6:30 in the morning pushing people to make hotel reservations immediately for December wedding. People on here are so b***y.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You clearly don't like these relatives so skip it. If a text message annoys you, I can only imagine how you will do at the actual event.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What's wrong with your kid that he or she cannot:

a) spend the night with a friend at home?

b) stay home with spouse?

c) come with but spend a few hours during the wedding on his own?

Presumably you are not always with him 24-7?

Breastfeeding baby I get, but a fourteen year old?

You don't like them. We are in a pandemic. Just do them a favor and RSVP no.

Is there a reason you've decided to overreact to this? OP just said that she needed to figure out what she was doing with her 14-year-old, not that it posed some kind of insuperable obstacle. She wasn't asking about that, anyway. She was just venting that someone was blowing up her phone with a group text at 6:30 in the morning pushing people to make hotel reservations immediately for December wedding. People on here are so b***y.

Hi OP, pot meet kettle. Seriously, you are the one who posted the rant about your cousin and described her as a nut job and drama queen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There is pent up demand for weddings postponed by Covid, as well as travel generally. Maybe they suddenly got an opening for the wedding and wanted to let people know quickly before the hotel gets fully booked.

As for the mother sending the text, that seems normal to me. We hosted/paid for DD's wedding and the invitations came from us. That was a formal wedding and just before covid so obviously we didn't have to resort to text messages, but with weddings being rescheduled more than once over the last year the traditional approach doesn't make sense.

+1

[Anonymous]

My single cousin calls me on a whim and expects me to agree to book international trips with her months in advance right then and there. Some people are just like this. DND is your friend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What's wrong with your kid that he or she cannot:

a) spend the night with a friend at home?

b) stay home with spouse?

c) come with but spend a few hours during the wedding on his own?

Presumably you are not always with him 24-7?

Breastfeeding baby I get, but a fourteen year old?

You don't like them. We are in a pandemic. Just do them a favor and RSVP no.

Is there a reason you've decided to overreact to this? OP just said that she needed to figure out what she was doing with her 14-year-old, not that it posed some kind of insuperable obstacle. She wasn't asking about that, anyway. She was just venting that someone was blowing up her phone with a group text at 6:30 in the morning pushing people to make hotel reservations immediately for December wedding. People on here are so b***y.

Hi OP, pot meet kettle. Seriously, you are the one who posted the rant about your cousin and described her as a nut job and drama queen.

??? Not the OP. I think maybe the OP is blowing this out of proportion, but I don't get the people piling on her about her kid. If you plan a no-kids wedding, it's normal that people with kids will have to figure out arrangements of some kind -- kid comes and stays back at the hotel, or spends the night with a friend (takes planning), or one spouse says home with kid.