When guys date younger women in your experience are they really dating their maturity age?

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Anonymous wrote:Nope. He's just looking for someone who is still interested in being nasty in bed.

It really is that simple. And she looks good doing it.

Guy here. These two posts nail it (no pun intended).

It's really this simple. We are talking dating, right? I mean, hot and high sex drive is basically all men need for dating and younger women have this, on average. I am not picking on older women. I readily concede I had a better body and more sexual stamina as a younger man and if women were picking mates on those factors alone, younger me is better

Marriage and family bring a whole different dynamic in play.

But it’s not age it’s maturity. Why are 28 yo cheating on their 28yo wife/girlfriend with a 22 year old?

It’s more about ego than sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:At the end of the day, most men don't care about your advanced degree (and I say this as someone with an advanced degree) or your salary or job. They care that you are kind, pretty, caring and easy to talk to without it ending up as a debate or an argument. Full stop.

Guy here. I’d agree with this. I just want a nice, pleasant person that I’m attracted to.

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Anonymous wrote:At the end of the day, most men don't care about your advanced degree (and I say this as someone with an advanced degree) or your salary or job. They care that you are kind, pretty, caring and easy to talk to without it ending up as a debate or an argument. Full stop.

This they need to feel smarter, better, etc.

They can’t date up or an equal.

That’s an inaccurate generalization.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:At the end of the day, most men don't care about your advanced degree (and I say this as someone with an advanced degree) or your salary or job. They care that you are kind, pretty, caring and easy to talk to without it ending up as a debate or an argument. Full stop.

Guy here. I’d agree with this. I just want a nice, pleasant person that I’m attracted to.

Same. Woman. I think people like you and I are ... normal? Like most people. Not all. Most.

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Anonymous wrote:That's like asking whether women who marry financially successful men are gold diggers. Sure, some are but all else being equal, women are attracted to success and men are attracted to looks. Younger people are more superficially attractive than older.

It’s not just looks. Men value sex and younger women have unbreakable sex drives.

Not true. I stayed a virgin thru my 20s and most of my 30s.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nope. He's just looking for someone who is still interested in being nasty in bed.

It really is that simple. And she looks good doing it.

Guy here. These two posts nail it (no pun intended).

Why do dcumers assume all 20 somethings are slim tall models? I was fat thru my 20s and most of my 30s. Got in shape in my late 30s. Look better now than then.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a couple of experiences with this, but hate to generalize about why men do things broadly or how all men are.

I dated a guy for a few months about a year ago that is in his early 50s, but very good looking and very fun and "young." A former pro athlete. I'm in my late 30s. His most recent exGF was in her late 20s, has an ex wife who was 20+ years younger, and also found out he lived with a girl who was a senior in college while he was in his late 40s. He's a good person, but has a number of issues, maturity being one. I think he was having serious issues with aging and not being Mr Pro Athlete any more and still wanting to live that life. He was still very much in the bar/party scene and when I asked him, he straight up told me he never felt any lifestyle or maturity gaps between him and the 20-something women he usually dated. Which was telling.

The other man I know is 35 and very, very religious. He's so stuck in the word, he has had absolutely no life experience, no long term relationship, no experience dating. He just announced he finally has a girlfriend. She's 18 and graduated high school last year. Honestly, maturity wise, she's probably appropriate for him.

Op here. You make the most sense!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Men need to feel important and that people look up to them.

When they marry up or their equal they feel inadequate.

When they date below them or somebody younger, they can show them a lot and feel like somebody is looking up to them.

A chick can bang a guy every day of the week but in the end she (by being better than him) makes him feel small he will be unhappy.

He can get an <uglier, younger, older, fat> chick who is just so happy to have somebody and fawns all over him he is much happier. It's not about age or looks or maturity, it's about feeling better than them.

I agree and it sounds extremely narcissist of men!


Dogs> men

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I grew up in a college town and lots of girls thought it made them cool in high school if they had a college age boyfriend. My mom used to say - “if they want to date HS girls, there is probably a reason girls their own age won’t date them”.

I think that’s sound advice for many ages. Middle aged men might date women in their 20s because they are hot, but it’s also because older women probably won’t put up with whatever selfish, cheating, workaholic BS got them divorced in the first place.

Exactly. Dcum women need to take notes from you!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:At the end of the day, most men don't care about your advanced degree (and I say this as someone with an advanced degree) or your salary or job. They care that you are kind, pretty, caring and easy to talk to without it ending up as a debate or an argument. Full stop.

This they need to feel smarter, better, etc.

They can’t date up or an equal.

That’s an inaccurate generalization.

Besides the blue moon unicorn it’s extremely accurate.

[Anonymous]

Very few women my age (mid-50s) are my equal. I date younger women because they look better, want to have more sex, and because they don't have bad attitudes (yet). I'm currently dating a woman three years younger than me who is a unicorn: looks like she is 30, has an amazing body with no sagging, wrinkles or cellulite, and she has a great attitude.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Very few women my age (mid-50s) are my equal. I date younger women because they look better, want to have more sex, and because they don't have bad attitudes (yet). I'm currently dating a woman three years younger than me who is a unicorn: looks like she is 30, has an amazing body with no sagging, wrinkles or cellulite, and she has a great attitude.

Translation

I only date people that agree with me all the time and don’t intellectually challenge me because when they do I quite often can’t back it up with anything and get angry. I then just imagine they are too stupid to understand my side.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Very few women my age (mid-50s) are my equal. I date younger women because they look better, want to have more sex, and because they don't have bad attitudes (yet). I'm currently dating a woman three years younger than me who is a unicorn: looks like she is 30, has an amazing body with no sagging, wrinkles or cellulite, and she has a great attitude.

You are correct on this point. Based on this post alone, I can assure you that they are much, much better than you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Very few women my age (mid-50s) are my equal. I date younger women because they look better, want to have more sex, and because they don't have bad attitudes (yet). I'm currently dating a woman three years younger than me who is a unicorn: looks like she is 30, has an amazing body with no sagging, wrinkles or cellulite, and she has a great attitude.

Translation

I only date people that agree with me all the time and don’t intellectually challenge me because when they do I quite often can’t back it up with anything and get angry. I then just imagine they are too stupid to understand my side.

That's a good thing. You forgot the part about, " looks like she is 30, has an amazing body with no sagging, wrinkles or cellulite, and she has a great attitude." It's a great combination.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have a couple of experiences with this, but hate to generalize about why men do things broadly or how all men are.

I dated a guy for a few months about a year ago that is in his early 50s, but very good looking and very fun and "young." A former pro athlete. I'm in my late 30s. His most recent exGF was in her late 20s, has an ex wife who was 20+ years younger, and also found out he lived with a girl who was a senior in college while he was in his late 40s. He's a good person, but has a number of issues, maturity being one. I think he was having serious issues with aging and not being Mr Pro Athlete any more and still wanting to live that life. He was still very much in the bar/party scene and when I asked him, he straight up told me he never felt any lifestyle or maturity gaps between him and the 20-something women he usually dated. Which was telling.

The other man I know is 35 and very, very religious. He's so stuck in the word, he has had absolutely no life experience, no long term relationship, no experience dating. He just announced he finally has a girlfriend. She's 18 and graduated high school last year. Honestly, maturity wise, she's probably appropriate for him.

Op here. You make the most sense!

You want this to make the most sense. What your posting was all about. Thees guys above are FLAWED, badly so. They are not representative of the majority.