In laws suddenly snubbing me after a decade

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ask DH if he told them he’s filing for divorce.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your DH has been complaining about you to them.

Ding ding ding!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your DH has been complaining about you to them.

I hate to say it, but this is the only thing that I can think of given the additional info that you provided. It is odd that DH would be acting like nothing has changed when a very specific thing has changed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, please call your DH out on the nonsense that nothing is different and its just your imagination. HE needs to address this as this is HIS family that changed their behavior towards YOU and HE knows the reason why and isnt telling.

OR he is clueless. (Not impossible, just unlikely.)

Really? I think most men are clueless!

They aren't clueless. They just know if they pretend to be you'll let them off the hook and they don't have to do any work. Few people are actually this socially inept.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I hope this isn’t true for you, but my in laws have been radicalized the past couple years by Fox News, Newsmax, etc. Our previous 15 years of a great relationship has deteriorated over the past year or so. I’m sure the pandemic and not seeing each other over (just once in the last year) contributes. But I think they’re mad at us for something (staying away when they live their lives pretty normally? Voting for Biden? Something more- whatever QAnon told them we did??)

Just here to say I relate to this. FIL in particular has been extremely hostile towards us for supporting Biden and BLM. It has changed our dynamic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your DH has been complaining about you to them.

This is the only right answer. Sorry, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I hope this isn’t true for you, but my in laws have been radicalized the past couple years by Fox News, Newsmax, etc. Our previous 15 years of a great relationship has deteriorated over the past year or so. I’m sure the pandemic and not seeing each other over (just once in the last year) contributes. But I think they’re mad at us for something (staying away when they live their lives pretty normally? Voting for Biden? Something more- whatever QAnon told them we did??)

I don’t mean to make this thread political, but have you considered the possibility that cnn, msnbc, and the like have also radicalized your views a bit farther left? We’re such a divided nation but I think it’s super telling when cnn is so willing to label a bunch of yelling yokels armed with cell phones for taking selfies as an “insurrection” but totally ignores that President Clinton commuted the sentence of a woman (Susan rosenberg) who literally BOMBED the senate building in 1983. Sure, it’s a bit of “whatabout-ism” but c’mon man! What *about* it??? She went on to serve as vice chair for Thousand Currents which handles fundraising for the BLM Global Movement. But yeah, nothing to see there. We need to be sure to stop the rise of right-wing radicalization.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I hope this isn’t true for you, but my in laws have been radicalized the past couple years by Fox News, Newsmax, etc. Our previous 15 years of a great relationship has deteriorated over the past year or so. I’m sure the pandemic and not seeing each other over (just once in the last year) contributes. But I think they’re mad at us for something (staying away when they live their lives pretty normally? Voting for Biden? Something more- whatever QAnon told them we did??)

Just here to say I relate to this. FIL in particular has been extremely hostile towards us for supporting Biden and BLM. It has changed our dynamic.

Sorry but he’s *just* as worried (if not more so) about you drinking the kool-aid as you are about him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I hope this isn’t true for you, but my in laws have been radicalized the past couple years by Fox News, Newsmax, etc. Our previous 15 years of a great relationship has deteriorated over the past year or so. I’m sure the pandemic and not seeing each other over (just once in the last year) contributes. But I think they’re mad at us for something (staying away when they live their lives pretty normally? Voting for Biden? Something more- whatever QAnon told them we did??)

I don’t mean to make this thread political, but have you considered the possibility that cnn, msnbc, and the like have also radicalized your views a bit farther left? We’re such a divided nation but I think it’s super telling when cnn is so willing to label a bunch of yelling yokels armed with cell phones for taking selfies as an “insurrection” but totally ignores that President Clinton commuted the sentence of a woman (Susan rosenberg) who literally BOMBED the senate building in 1983. Sure, it’s a bit of “whatabout-ism” but c’mon man! What *about* it??? She went on to serve as vice chair for Thousand Currents which handles fundraising for the BLM Global Movement. But yeah, nothing to see there. We need to be sure to stop the rise of right-wing radicalization.

Please tell me how your characterization of January 6 as: "a bunch of yelling yokels armed with cell phones for taking selfies as an “insurrection”"

is objective when it literally ignores the actual deaths and injuries to police defending the Capital that occurred? It ignores this is the first time the confederate flag has been brought in the U.S. Capital. The fact that the "yokels" we breaking windows, carrying a noose, and yelling for the Vice President.

Yes, there were yokels with cell phones. But there was ALSO a lot more than that. And they did disrupt a cornerstone of our constitutional process.

Your dismissiveness is telling.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I hope this isn’t true for you, but my in laws have been radicalized the past couple years by Fox News, Newsmax, etc. Our previous 15 years of a great relationship has deteriorated over the past year or so. I’m sure the pandemic and not seeing each other over (just once in the last year) contributes. But I think they’re mad at us for something (staying away when they live their lives pretty normally? Voting for Biden? Something more- whatever QAnon told them we did??)

I don’t mean to make this thread political, but have you considered the possibility that cnn, msnbc, and the like have also radicalized your views a bit farther left? We’re such a divided nation but I think it’s super telling when cnn is so willing to label a bunch of yelling yokels armed with cell phones for taking selfies as an “insurrection” but totally ignores that President Clinton commuted the sentence of a woman (Susan rosenberg) who literally BOMBED the senate building in 1983. Sure, it’s a bit of “whatabout-ism” but c’mon man! What *about* it??? She went on to serve as vice chair for Thousand Currents which handles fundraising for the BLM Global Movement. But yeah, nothing to see there. We need to be sure to stop the rise of right-wing radicalization.

I'll bite: no. And ftr, your analogy is ridiculously stupid and NOT the same thing. At all. So is your description of the "yokels." COmpletely fabricated description of what they were and how they acted - and don't take my word for it. Take that of law enforcement.

You're ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

I bet hubs has told them it's you that's "taking covid so seriously" and keeping the family away. Not that I think you're in the wrong - but so many husbands I know has downplayed the social distancing and blame the wives when they turn down invites, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I bet hubs has told them it's you that's "taking covid so seriously" and keeping the family away. Not that I think you're in the wrong - but so many husbands I know has downplayed the social distancing and blame the wives when they turn down invites, etc.

I agree and it's as infuriating as it is cowardly.