Boyfriend giving me silent treatment

[Anonymous]

I remember when my ex did this to me. I was furious and posted about it here. Some posters said it is a personality thing. Some posters shared a similar consensus here. I wish I would have taken the advice of what was hard to do and ended it right then and there even though my heart didn’t want to. I would have saved both of us wasted time. Ignoring someone is so distasteful, passive, bullish and cowardly all at the same time.

Love someone who respects their self enough to be honest about problems with you. Commit to someone who knows how to preserve the good in a relationship and not sabotage what isn’t already threatened by a lack of emotional maturity or logical practice. The basic rules of engagement for a healthy partnership are pretty simple and easy; if they don’t show that to you something is off. The older the man/woman the worse the trait is because it is deeply entrenched into their character and unlikely to lead to a behavioral changé.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He is showing you exactly who he is - he’s great when everything is perfect for him, and become emotionally abusive when it’s not. If you stay with him, you will spend your life walking on eggshells to avoid upsetting him, always giving up what you want/need to keep peace with him. He is doing you a huge favor by showing you this side of himself so early. Please don’t waste any more time on this relationship - end it.

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He is showing you exactly who he is - he’s great when everything is perfect for him, and become emotionally abusive when it’s not. If you stay with him, you will spend your life walking on eggshells to avoid upsetting him, always giving up what you want/need to keep peace with him. He is doing you a huge favor by showing you this side of himself so early. Please don’t waste any more time on this relationship - end it.

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This behavior will not improve unless he is willing to do counseling. Find a new man.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:RUN. That never gets better.

Listen to the above poster. Married a guy like this and the silent treatments only got longer and worse. We ended up divorcing after 6 1/2 years. It was horrible during the entire marriage. RUN, NOW and run fast

+1. Except I stayed longer. I would have one conversation about how this is not an appropriate way to deal with feelings. If it happens again, be gone.

[Anonymous]

First argument and THREE stinking days of silence. Too much. He has huge issues, and you don't want to be a part of it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:First argument and THREE stinking days of silence. Too much. He has huge issues, and you don't want to be a part of it.

We need a red flag thread. Every red flag and what it means or could implicate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 months. We get along great and have really good time together. We recently had our first fight and he had been giving me the silent treatment for 3 days. I’ve never dealt with this before. How do I handle? Is everything just over? We really having a great time up until this point.

Yup it's over. Please run FAST away from this immature jerk. I made the mistake of staying and getting married to someone like this and it ended in a really horrible divorce. Please save yourself the trouble.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:RUN. That never gets better.

Listen to the above poster. Married a guy like this and the silent treatments only got longer and worse. We ended up divorcing after 6 1/2 years. It was horrible during the entire marriage. RUN, NOW and run fast

+1. Except I stayed longer. I would have one conversation about how this is not an appropriate way to deal with feelings. If it happens again, be gone.

Maybe if it had been a day. Three days? No way. It's time to move on.

[Anonymous]

What was the fight about?

[Anonymous]

OP, come back and tell us what you think about all the comments!

[Anonymous]

It’s Saturday night, her boyfriend is probably “talking” to her again. Snake bait.

[Anonymous]

Giving you the silent treatment is an emotionally abusive, manipulative tactic that people use as a way of punishing others.

Your boyfriend should be communicating w/you effectively.
Instead he is trying to hurt you for whatever he has an issue with.

Someone who thinks in this manner is often not a person w/good character.
They tend to be very immature, unfair + manipulative overall.

Be glad that at five months - his true colors have reared their ugly head.
Break up w/this louse stat & find someone who is mature enough to not penalize you when they do not agree w/you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 months. We get along great and have really good time together. We recently had our first fight and he had been giving me the silent treatment for 3 days. I’ve never dealt with this before. How do I handle? Is everything just over? We really having a great time up until this point.

Break up. Sorry this abusive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Giving you the silent treatment is an emotionally abusive, manipulative tactic that people use as a way of punishing others.

Your boyfriend should be communicating w/you effectively.
Instead he is trying to hurt you for whatever he has an issue with.

Someone who thinks in this manner is often not a person w/good character.
They tend to be very immature, unfair + manipulative overall.

Be glad that at five months - his true colors have reared their ugly head.
Break up w/this louse stat & find someone who is mature enough to not penalize you when they do not agree w/you.

This is such good advice.

[Anonymous]

Hard to say without knowing what the fight was about. We don’t know either side of the story.