I need an attitude adjustment after receiving this $$$ gift.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP - I've been in the same situation with my husband. I have a 2 carat diamond rink sitting in my drawer that I can't stand. It was an anniversary gift after I'd said what I would like is a band with 3 small diamonds. It's absolutely not the sort of thing I'd ever choose to wear and we didn't have the money to spare either. And for those of you who think we're being ungrateful - that's not the case at all. With my husband at least, it's because he either doesn't listen to what I'm saying or he hears me, but thinks he knows better than I do what I should want. Most of my gifts would make you think they're from someone who has never met me.

OP here - it's also a similar situation with my engagement ring. When we got married we had very little money and I told him I didn't want a diamond, and didn't even care if I got a ring at all. He spent $15,000 on a solitaire "because it's a good investment." (Which it is not.) At the time it really shook me because I felt like it was such an irresponsible thing to do. I've had terrible stress about money since we got married because of that. And now that (admittedly beautiful) $15K ring sits in a box in my underwear drawer.

And whoever made that comment about disposable income and daycare - I work both because I have to and because I like to. But our kid goes to daycare because it's what is best for him. My husband's business had a good year but there is so much else to spend money on right now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can't get over how unappreciative some of you are! Everything doesn't have to be practical, planned, and requested by you. I love receiving special, surprise gifts that my husband has picked out. We both do that.

This!!!! No wonder your husbands cheat!

Troll.

[Anonymous]

Use the store credit to buy many smaller presents and keep them in a gift cabinet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can't get over how unappreciative some of you are! Everything doesn't have to be practical, planned, and requested by you. I love receiving special, surprise gifts that my husband has picked out. We both do that.

This!!!! No wonder your husbands cheat!

Yea. That's why husbands cheat. You ingrate./s

[Anonymous]

you people suck. poor men. NO WOMAN should say no to diamonds. ever.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:you people suck. poor men. NO WOMAN should say no to diamonds. ever.

Idiotic.

[Anonymous]

I don’t know why so many husbands buy gifts that they can not afford. Husbands out there, please stop doing this. We love you but now we have to spend the next few months (or longer) jointly overwhelmed by our finances.

When we have money to burn, you do you, boo. For now, please just be financially responsible so we can all relax.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:you people suck. poor men. NO WOMAN should say no to diamonds. ever.

Idiotic.

Yes, please. Skip the mortgage payment this month and pull our kids out of preschool so I can enjoy my ***diamonds***.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t wear jewelry but get only jewelry as gifts from DH. I gave up.

same here. he just must have heard it's the thing to do no matter what.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Try to think about how he bought you this gift from a good place in his heart. Although, yes, I would be unhappy in your situation, too. I'm sorry you can't return them, my DH bought me diamond earrings after my baby was born, and I was able to exchange them for a ring, a necklace, and a more simple pair of gold earrings. I still wear the three pieces I picked out, 13 years later, just about every day, and my DH wasn't offended at all by my exchange. Your DH, like mine, probably just wants you to be happy, so if you can exchange them for other, more practical items, do it!

I don't think those guys do that "from a good place in their heart". I think they do it to show off to their friends. That's the only reason that would make any sense at all. Especially in OP's case where she explictly said she didn't want it and he gave it to her anyway.

[Anonymous]

Imagine if your DH was spending $5K on hookers or drugs! BOOM! Instant attitude adjustment.

Wear your earrings, put on some makeup, take a nice selfie using a selfie app, send him the picture, say thank you, give him a kiss, drink some wine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:you people suck. poor men. NO WOMAN should say no to diamonds. ever.

Idiotic.

Yes, please. Skip the mortgage payment this month and pull our kids out of preschool so I can enjoy my ***diamonds***.

"Men grow cold as girls grow old and we all lose our charms in the end;
But square cut or pear shape -- these rocks don't look their shape;
Diamonds are a girl's best friend."
That's what PP makes me think of.

I was also going to post the SNL skit ("A Lexus December to Remember") which I was laughing SO HARD over.

I do feel like expensive jewelry is often the lazy man's gift. My husband bought me some expensive gold jewelry, after I'd spent a year going through awful issues due to a GOLD ALLERGY. It's like he had not paid any attention at all to the reason for my horrible health problems...I just said "I can't wear this due to my allergy to gold" and put it in a drawer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Imagine if your DH was spending $5K on hookers or drugs! BOOM! Instant attitude adjustment.

Wear your earrings, put on some makeup, take a nice selfie using a selfie app, send him the picture, say thank you, give him a kiss, drink some wine.

Wow this is gross

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would be so unhappy.

I would be thrilled!

Did you read the part where she can’t wear them?

[Anonymous]

OP, DH and I buy our own gifts. $600 budget for the entire year. Tell your partner what they got you when you order it. Open it together. Joke that they have great taste, and always get you the perfect thing.