Is 32F and 55M too large of an age gap?

[Anonymous]

Yes. We have a saying in my womens group. Don't have sex with 60 year old men until you are 60. Meaning at some point when you are 60 you will have sex with 60 year old men. Don't push this timeline sooner when you are a younger woman.

[Anonymous]

Depends on the money..

[Anonymous]

know 2 couples with an age gap of 20, both ladies are in their early 40s. One set have been together for almost 10 years, the other been together 5 years. So far so good. Both ladies know what is coming in the next 10 years. Both gents are fit, health conscious. But the love is strong that they treasure their time before they get to the inevitable. It may work, but really do depend on the ppl and personalities involved.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It passes the 1/2 your age plus 7 rule, so it must be fine.

55 / 2 = 27.5
27.5 + 7 = 34.5
32 < 34.5

I don't think it passes the math test for whatever that's worth.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Seems to work for David Brooks.

Knot, tied: New York Times columnist David Brooks wed Anne Snyder, his former research assistant, on Sunday.

The couple’s relationship sort-of went public in an inauspicious way — Politico noted in a wink-wink 2015 piece that the conservative columnist had devoted an outsized amount of verbiage in the acknowledgements of his book “The Road to Character” to Snyder, who is 23 years his junior. But all’s well that ends with bells, and Atlantic Media owner David Bradley and his wife, Katherine Bradley, threw a rehearsal luncheon for the couple on Saturday, we’re told (that poolside tent saw a lot of activity this weekend), followed by a Sunday ceremony at the Arboretum.

It’s the first marriage for Snyder, 32, now a freelance writer and director of a Houston, Tex., non-profit initiative. Brooks, 55, acknowledged his split from first wife, Sarah Brooks, in early 2015. They have three children.

Didn’t he pretend to convert to Christianity to lure her into bed, then wrote books about it to sell to bible thumpers? Brooks is such a creep.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Much too great. My husband is 6 years older than I am, and sometimes -- like when I was 39 and he was 45 -- those years are like dog years. We're both in our 50s now, and it seems more equal, but I'm sure when he's mid-60s, the gap will seem huge again.

Ha, this is us. I'm 41 and he's 47. Sometimes he seems really 80s, lol, whereas I don't remember much of the 80s--our cultural references are pretty different. However, he looks young and is very athletic and we're a good match despite this, but the age gap is very apparent sometimes. I can't imagine a 20+ year age gap.

Same, at 35 and 45. It's mostly not an issue, but I would never want to have more than a 10 year gap. That was my absolute upper limit when dating, I really can't imagine 23 years.

[Anonymous]

I think it's okay. I'm 35 he's 51 I will say that sometimes I'd like to travel more and he's very career-focused and just wants to relax.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it's okay. I'm 35 he's 51 I will say that sometimes I'd like to travel more and he's very career-focused and just wants to relax.

Most rooms aren’t worried about NOW. Then mean in 10 years or so.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it's okay. I'm 35 he's 51 I will say that sometimes I'd like to travel more and he's very career-focused and just wants to relax.

Most rooms aren’t worried about NOW. Then mean in 10 years or so.

This, I'm freaked about being a 40 year old mom with a 50 year old dad to a newborn and we started dating younger than this with a smaller (but not insignificant) age gap. This sounds like a nightmare to me from a family perspective. If it's a pure sugar daddy kind of thing and he is loaded (and won't make you sign a prenup!), you do you, but this would not be my ideal family setup.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It passes the 1/2 your age plus 7 rule, so it must be fine.

no it doesn’t

[Anonymous]

I am a 56 yo male. The notion of being with someone that age is frightening. Why?

Well, kids. I am done raising kids, and am just dealing with college. A 32F will probably want kids. While presumably I am biologically capable of being a parent again, that would delay things like retirement 10+ years (I can not imagine being 70 with a kid in HS, or 75 with one in college). And I was a very involved father.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Much too great. My husband is 6 years older than I am, and sometimes -- like when I was 39 and he was 45 -- those years are like dog years. We're both in our 50s now, and it seems more equal, but I'm sure when he's mid-60s, the gap will seem huge again.

My situation is similar. My husband is 7 years older than me. I think a lot has to do with personality. I am active, I have hobbies, I do a lot of stuff. He suffered a TBI a few years ago and has slowed down even more than usual. We are 53 and 60, but I feel 40 and he acts like he's 80.

OP, nothing is promised. Your age difference seems to big for me, but if he's the love of your life, enjoy your time together now. Better to have perfection for a few years than never. But please do be aware health (mental and physical) can change on a dime, and that may become difficult to deal with. You may be a caregiver for much longer than you imagine.

[Anonymous]

If you are looking for a marriage with kids, then it’s too much. We have an age gap of 12 years here and there are days when that’s too much. We were older when we got together and had both done lots and lots of things already that many people save for retirement, like lots of travel. But we had our kid at 40 and 52 and there are many days now in teenagerhood where we say “we are too old for this crap” and he really is. He’s in good health and fit, but he’s slowing down and we both know it’s never going to get better. I couldn’t even imagine adding another 10 year difference into the mix.

Now if you don’t want kids and aren’t on a timeline for marriage, then go have fun. Despite what many of these silly women say on this site, older men are not repulsive to look at, and they do very well in bed. They also care more about how you’re doing.

[Anonymous]

Seems perfect to me

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Seems to work for David Brooks.

Knot, tied: New York Times columnist David Brooks wed Anne Snyder, his former research assistant, on Sunday.

The couple’s relationship sort-of went public in an inauspicious way — Politico noted in a wink-wink 2015 piece that the conservative columnist had devoted an outsized amount of verbiage in the acknowledgements of his book “The Road to Character” to Snyder, who is 23 years his junior. But all’s well that ends with bells, and Atlantic Media owner David Bradley and his wife, Katherine Bradley, threw a rehearsal luncheon for the couple on Saturday, we’re told (that poolside tent saw a lot of activity this weekend), followed by a Sunday ceremony at the Arboretum.

It’s the first marriage for Snyder, 32, now a freelance writer and director of a Houston, Tex., non-profit initiative. Brooks, 55, acknowledged his split from first wife, Sarah Brooks, in early 2015. They have three children.

So he cheated on his wife with his employee?