Is 32F and 55M too large of an age gap?
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Anonymous
| Or not that big of a deal? Thank you. |
Anonymous
| Considering i am 33 and my dad is 55, absolutely. Could not imagine the dynamic. |
Anonymous
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It's pretty big. Think about it this way in about 10 years, he will be approaching retirement. At 42, you are hitting the peek of your career. He's ready to sleep late, volunteer, and enjoy the life he's worked for. Your ready to finally cash in on the career you've built.
At 32, you want kids. At 55, he's done raising kids. When he's 80, you'll 57--still not at retirement age while he might be looking at no longer driving or even needing assistance. At 67, when you hit retirement and are ready to reap the benefits of what you've worked for, he'll be 90. You're ready to travel and volunteer and his body might be failing him. |
Anonymous
| Much too great. My husband is 6 years older than I am, and sometimes -- like when I was 39 and he was 45 -- those years are like dog years. We're both in our 50s now, and it seems more equal, but I'm sure when he's mid-60s, the gap will seem huge again. |
Anonymous
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He’s old enough to be your dad...
If you want to embrace your daddy issues and have fun it’s fine. If you’re looking for marriage it’s way way too old. If you want to have kids you need to start dating appropriate, and available men — you do not have the tine to mess around! Of course, the opposite is also true: if you don’t want kids, you have all the time in the world to mess around with inappropriate men. The world is you oyster! Enjoy! |
Anonymous
| Yes. Way too big of a gap. |
Anonymous
| Have you seen him naked? That will be your answer. Middle age is not kind to bodies, even relatively fit ones. Enjoy tight 30-year-old bodies while you can. |
Anonymous
I don't think you can say that a 23 year age gap is not that big of a deal, but that doesn't mean it's too large of an age gap. I think it's more about what you are both looking for in life. 32 is young. I know you may feel like that's not the case because you're not 25, but really, you could easily be in your late 40's before you really notice your aging if you take care of yourself - so 15-18 years. And do you want to have children? (or more children if you have them?). I think a 55 year old that is in good health and is committed to a healthy lifestyle can easily stay energetic and vital until their 70's. My parents are like this. They are now nearing 80 and the normal decline with age is noticeable in both of them, more so with my father. That said, I'm talking about needing a bit more sleep, a little slower in conversation, etc. Minor things, but they are both still healthy and completely have all their faculties. |
Anonymous
| Too much of an age gap. Different generations. Unless he is very rich, have already married twice and have kids by 2 baby mamas and lots of hook ups with pornstars and you are a washed up nude sex worker East European model. In that case, you can tolerate his saggy bits to get your papa and mama to USA. |
Anonymous
| Eww |
Anonymous
Seems to work for David Brooks.
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Anonymous
| Depends on how many millions he has. |
Anonymous
| Yes. |
Anonymous
| I know a few couples with this kind of age gap. They seem ok. |
Anonymous
Exactly. |