Is 32F and 55M too large of an age gap?

[Anonymous]

^^^ Yes, it appears that David Brooks is both hypocritical and narcissistic.

[Anonymous]

OP, the age difference is not an issue now, but it will start to become one (for you) when your husband enters his 60s to mid-60s. Men age rapidly in that decade, including sexually, and you will still be young. If it is a true and enduring love, that may not be an issue for you, but go into this marriage eyes wide open.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Much too great. My husband is 6 years older than I am, and sometimes -- like when I was 39 and he was 45 -- those years are like dog years. We're both in our 50s now, and it seems more equal, but I'm sure when he's mid-60s, the gap will seem huge again.

Yes. I have the pp’s age gap but I don’t share her opinion about a gap of six years. My sister however married a man with this age gap. On their first anniversary he was diagnosed with Parkinson’s disease and now she had to hire aides for the week and on the weekend she is his nursemaid. His grown kids refuse to even take him for a weekend. She is waiting for him to die so she can be free but in the meantime she has become an alcoholic from the stress.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:^^^ Yes, it appears that David Brooks is both hypocritical and narcissistic.

David, a Jew, went to church with his very young Evangelist assistant for years trying to lower her guard and get into her pants. He's a sick man.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^^^ Yes, it appears that David Brooks is both hypocritical and narcissistic.

David, a Jew, went to church with his very young Evangelist assistant for years trying to lower her guard and get into her pants. He's a sick man.

OMG. Didn’t know this about him. Puts him in a different light.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^^^ Yes, it appears that David Brooks is both hypocritical and narcissistic.

David, a Jew, went to church with his very young Evangelist assistant for years trying to lower her guard and get into her pants. He's a sick man.

OMG. Didn’t know this about him. Puts him in a different light.

Any man this one that pursues a women that young is gross.

So yes OP, the age gap is too big. Especially is you value having a sex life with your spouse. Sex with men 50+ will likely involve some degree of erectile dysfunction.

[Anonymous]

This was the age gap my parents had and it worked for them. It was a second marriage for both. My mom was a few weeks from turning 32 and my dad was 54 when they got married. He had several adult kids from the first marriage. My mom had no kids from her short-lived first marriage. It worked because he was willing to have another child and because it was a good personality fit. They were married just shy of 34 years.

There were definitely some tradeoffs, but not all of them were strictly age related. My mom was definitely "stuck" doing a lot of care giving in the last few years, but the worst of the health issues came after she retired. Of course none of us have any guarantees about health no matyer our age.

[Anonymous]

I'm 43 and my GF is 21 so I'll let you know in 10 years.

[Anonymous]

Rinse him, then leave.

How could this benefit YOU in any way?

[Anonymous]

I’m 52 and my BF just turned 70. He’s in great shape and if you did not know his age you‘d guess 55. But he’s 70 and time eventually catches up to you. We both know that this isn’t a lifetime relationship so we are just enjoying what we have today.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^^^ Yes, it appears that David Brooks is both hypocritical and narcissistic.

David, a Jew, went to church with his very young Evangelist assistant for years trying to lower her guard and get into her pants. He's a sick man.

OMG. Didn’t know this about him. Puts him in a different light.

The creep then wrote books and gave paid speeches about flirting with Christianity, i.e. pandering to Bible thumpers. "I saw the light" no, you wanted to screw your 30 year old subordinate. He's a real demonic piece of trash.

[Anonymous]

Too large of a gap.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It passes the 1/2 your age plus 7 rule, so it must be fine.

It actually doesn't pass that rule.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m 52 and my BF just turned 70. He’s in great shape and if you did not know his age you‘d guess 55. But he’s 70 and time eventually catches up to you. We both know that this isn’t a lifetime relationship so we are just enjoying what we have today.

This is the way to look at it.

Both DH and I are in our 50s, but he's 8 yrs older, and his body is really starting to look like a man headed into 60. I still get mistaken for mid 40s. Of course, I still love him, and we still have sex, but physically, I'm not attracted to his body. I'm sure it will be worse when he hits the 60s. There are of course outliers, but for the most part, people look their age, or older. I'm sure in about 5 years when I hit menopause (I haven't yet), I will start to look more like I'm 60, too. I'm under no illusion there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^^^ Yes, it appears that David Brooks is both hypocritical and narcissistic.

David, a Jew, went to church with his very young Evangelist assistant for years trying to lower her guard and get into her pants. He's a sick man.

OMG. Didn’t know this about him. Puts him in a different light.

The creep then wrote books and gave paid speeches about flirting with Christianity, i.e. pandering to Bible thumpers. "I saw the light" no, you wanted to screw your 30 year old subordinate. He's a real demonic piece of trash.

I just saw pictures. She looks like she could be his daughter. Gross.