What percentage of people have the capacity to stay in and excel in a monogamous relationship?

[Anonymous]

^ is it even that fun anymore? 7 years is no longer new and exciting in affair land. And you both have aged. Sounds awful.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m not looking for affirmation. It’s an anonymous board. I was simply trying to gauge how many people in the US are suffering from trauma to the point where they can’t live a virtuous monogamous life. I guess DCUM isn’t the best place. It was just a reflection after seeing how hard women and men had it in the past trying to start a life here that it seems odd we have people like Elon Musk who have everything and just have affair after affair. It really wasn’t anything related to me. I didn’t ask how much better I was than anyone. If anything I feel I fall short of my more perfect family members. I just wasn’t aware how much trauma others went through till I became an adult. You are right I was naive. But it is a symptom of a greater cutural failing if so many of our children are growing up in broken homes and we can’t seem to rise above the trauma ourselves as a society.

Musk is an example of a man is as faithful as his options. Women will bang because he’s rich, just like Bezos and every Hollywood actor and famous musician...

So Bill Gates is not faithful and Mark Z, Obama?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m not looking for affirmation. It’s an anonymous board. I was simply trying to gauge how many people in the US are suffering from trauma to the point where they can’t live a virtuous monogamous life. I guess DCUM isn’t the best place. It was just a reflection after seeing how hard women and men had it in the past trying to start a life here that it seems odd we have people like Elon Musk who have everything and just have affair after affair. It really wasn’t anything related to me. I didn’t ask how much better I was than anyone. If anything I feel I fall short of my more perfect family members. I just wasn’t aware how much trauma others went through till I became an adult. You are right I was naive. But it is a symptom of a greater cutural failing if so many of our children are growing up in broken homes and we can’t seem to rise above the trauma ourselves as a society.

Musk is an example of a man is as faithful as his options. Women will bang because he’s rich, just like Bezos and every Hollywood actor and famous musician...

So Bill Gates is not faithful and Mark Z, Obama?

Obama was not. They had very well-documented marital problems. I would bet $100 infidelity was involved in those years (pre-public office).

[Anonymous]

Mark Z has cheater written all over him. I bet he banged Sandberg.

[Anonymous]

How do you legitimately prove someone has been faithful to their spouse? What "proof" would there be of fidelity? Seems like of all the things OP listed this is the one that depends on people being honest, and people lie all of the time ESPECIALLY about this kind of thing. But, you want to be superior so go off.

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Anonymous wrote:What an obnoxious, self-righteous post. And your family might be fooling you, like Jerry Falwell Jr. fooled the entire Liberty community. You don't know what's happening within someone else's life or marriage.

Yes, I really do. I'm sorry but there has been no infidelity, no lying, no poor money management. There really are people that are nice to each other and have the skills to make a marriage work. And even going through cancer and people in the family dying from war. You are welcome to think as you do, but I'm generally curious how many people actually have the capacity to make it through marriage without major problems that they cause themselves.

You THINK you do. What you're really saying is that you don't *know* of any infidelity, lying or poor money management. Doesn't mean it hasn't happened. Big difference. But keep your judgmental blinders on. You'll feel much better about yourself.

I'm sorry you are not that close to your family. I am and there is legitimate proof that these things haven't happened. Again there really are people that don't have mental issues and trauma to the point of neglecting or harming others. I'm trying to understand how large that population is. I'm sorry for your hurt, I'm sure it was passed down.

NP. You're so clueless. I've been having an affair for 7 years and not a soul knows.

HAHA, all my friends who have affairs say that, my best friend had multiple 1 night stand and she thinks I don't know.

I remember one friend walked in the door of my apartment and I said "what have you done now"... she was like... how do people know... people just know.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m not looking for affirmation. It’s an anonymous board. I was simply trying to gauge how many people in the US are suffering from trauma to the point where they can’t live a virtuous monogamous life. I guess DCUM isn’t the best place. It was just a reflection after seeing how hard women and men had it in the past trying to start a life here that it seems odd we have people like Elon Musk who have everything and just have affair after affair. It really wasn’t anything related to me. I didn’t ask how much better I was than anyone. If anything I feel I fall short of my more perfect family members. I just wasn’t aware how much trauma others went through till I became an adult. You are right I was naive. But it is a symptom of a greater cutural failing if so many of our children are growing up in broken homes and we can’t seem to rise above the trauma ourselves as a society.

Musk is an example of a man is as faithful as his options. Women will bang because he’s rich, just like Bezos and every Hollywood actor and famous musician...

So Bill Gates is not faithful and Mark Z, Obama?

Obama was not. They had very well-documented marital problems. I would bet $100 infidelity was involved in those years (pre-public office).

OR the infertility issues were hard on their marriage. Doesn't have to mean someone stepped out. Also people are trash and someone would have blabbed.

[Anonymous]

I would say that 50% are faithful.

I would say 25% actually have no desire to cheat and 25% have the desire but don't because they are moral and mentally stable.

The other 50% I would say 25% of them would like to be faithful but because of childhood sexual abuse, abusive parents, bi-polar disorder, etc they cheat but wish they could stop.

The other 25% you have the thought they would not get caught, selfish and morally corrupt crowd. They cheat and think they have the right to and don't GAF. Some of those also are bipolar, etc but they think they are deserve to cheat and they have done some mental gymnastics to justify it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m not looking for affirmation. It’s an anonymous board. I was simply trying to gauge how many people in the US are suffering from trauma to the point where they can’t live a virtuous monogamous life. I guess DCUM isn’t the best place. It was just a reflection after seeing how hard women and men had it in the past trying to start a life here that it seems odd we have people like Elon Musk who have everything and just have affair after affair. It really wasn’t anything related to me. I didn’t ask how much better I was than anyone. If anything I feel I fall short of my more perfect family members. I just wasn’t aware how much trauma others went through till I became an adult. You are right I was naive. But it is a symptom of a greater cutural failing if so many of our children are growing up in broken homes and we can’t seem to rise above the trauma ourselves as a society.

Musk is an example of a man is as faithful as his options. Women will bang because he’s rich, just like Bezos and every Hollywood actor and famous musician...

So Bill Gates is not faithful and Mark Z, Obama?

Obama was not. They had very well-documented marital problems. I would bet $100 infidelity was involved in those years (pre-public office).

Everybody has marital problems, not everybody cheats... but leave O out of it. Mark Z/Bill Gates... bunks your logic

[Anonymous]

I like to think MOST people who get married do so with the goal of staying faithful and staying together for life. But we plan and God laughs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I like to think MOST people who get married do so with the goal of staying faithful and staying together for life. But we plan and God laughs.

OP isn’t laughing.
OP is god like.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Reading these threads makes me wonder why there are so many dysfunctional people who can't do well in relationships. My entire extended family just doesn't have these issues although we each acknowledge we have many faults of our own that we work on daily. We work hard, we save our money, we listen to and forgive others, and we try to be decent Christians and human beings that don't take more than we give and don't overpower anyone. We start and continue relationships with the plan to make it through life with its ups and downs. Is it just our society that offers too many temptations or do people have more mental issues than before? What is the source of the dysfunction? I'm seeing it in friends, in the news. Everywhere.

My mother came from a broken home, her parents divorced when she was two, and her single, working mother raised her. Yet my mother and my father had a faithful, strong, and devoted marriage until the day he passed away. Monogamy and lifetime faithfulness is about factors in addition to your childhood traumas, it is a daily choice we make.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m not looking for affirmation. It’s an anonymous board. I was simply trying to gauge how many people in the US are suffering from trauma to the point where they can’t live a virtuous monogamous life. I guess DCUM isn’t the best place. It was just a reflection after seeing how hard women and men had it in the past trying to start a life here that it seems odd we have people like Elon Musk who have everything and just have affair after affair. It really wasn’t anything related to me. I didn’t ask how much better I was than anyone. If anything I feel I fall short of my more perfect family members. I just wasn’t aware how much trauma others went through till I became an adult. You are right I was naive. But it is a symptom of a greater cutural failing if so many of our children are growing up in broken homes and we can’t seem to rise above the trauma ourselves as a society.

Musk is an example of a man is as faithful as his options. Women will bang because he’s rich, just like Bezos and every Hollywood actor and famous musician...

So Bill Gates is not faithful and Mark Z, Obama?

Obama was not. They had very well-documented marital problems. I would bet $100 infidelity was involved in those years (pre-public office).

Everybody has marital problems, not everybody cheats... but leave O out of it. Mark Z/Bill Gates... bunks your logic

Cheating was our marital problem which is crazy. We were best friends. We get along great, always laughing. We had a great, frequent sex life (several times per week). We both stayed very fit and took care of ourselves. We saw eye to eye on everything—$, education, parenting, etc. We had no financial issues and both contributed to work and home life. He cheated for variety and issues with his self. It is often the result of something inside one person. It’s a fallacy that cheating can’t happen in a good marriage. It makes people feel safer to think so.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m not looking for affirmation. It’s an anonymous board. I was simply trying to gauge how many people in the US are suffering from trauma to the point where they can’t live a virtuous monogamous life. I guess DCUM isn’t the best place. It was just a reflection after seeing how hard women and men had it in the past trying to start a life here that it seems odd we have people like Elon Musk who have everything and just have affair after affair. It really wasn’t anything related to me. I didn’t ask how much better I was than anyone. If anything I feel I fall short of my more perfect family members. I just wasn’t aware how much trauma others went through till I became an adult. You are right I was naive. But it is a symptom of a greater cutural failing if so many of our children are growing up in broken homes and we can’t seem to rise above the trauma ourselves as a society.

Musk is an example of a man is as faithful as his options. Women will bang because he’s rich, just like Bezos and every Hollywood actor and famous musician...

So Bill Gates is not faithful and Mark Z, Obama?

Obama was not. They had very well-documented marital problems. I would bet $100 infidelity was involved in those years (pre-public office).

Everybody has marital problems, not everybody cheats... but leave O out of it. Mark Z/Bill Gates... bunks your logic

Everybody does NOT have marital problems. Jesus.

[Anonymous]

I'd say 100% of people *have the capacity* to be faithful and monogamous. I'd say people may not have the desire to do so, however. It is a choice.