Chrissy Teigen surprise natural conception. Sigh.

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Anonymous wrote:I dislike her and this only intensifies it.

Wow you have issues.

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Anonymous wrote:I did 5 rounds of IVF. Last round worked. I wouldn’t expect anyone to tiptoe around me re their pregnancies. It’s their business to share when they want to.

I don't mind when women vent here but can't stand the jerks who insist everyone around them must be miserable and everyone around them MUST NOT GET PREGNANT because they can't.Vent away but don't make your friends feel like crap because you can't get pregnant. I also went through hell to get pregnant and attended more baby showers during that time than any human should endure. Friends tried to be kind and plenty said stupid things but I didn't blame them for me not being pregnant. I knew they didn't know what to say and they wished they could help me. To the person who said this makes you hate CT, what did she do to stop you from getting pregnant? Get therapy.

[Anonymous]

Lol, I would like to hear from someone who never had success tell us we shouldn’t feel the way we do. Easy to judge the losers when you ultimately won.

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Anonymous wrote:I dislike her and this only intensifies it.

Wow you have issues.

Yep. My issues are infertility and jealousy. Oooooh you really burned me, PP.

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Anonymous wrote:I did 5 rounds of IVF. Last round worked. I wouldn’t expect anyone to tiptoe around me re their pregnancies. It’s their business to share when they want to.

Cool story, bro.

Good grief, what the hell is wrong with you? I’m not the PP you’re responding to and while I get the sadness and resentment that is understandably part of infertility (because - would have to likely spell this out for you - I struggled with infertility for 4 years and a total of 7 IUIs and 8 IVF rounds to get to two pregnancies). But “Cool Story” as a response to someone pointing out that the resentment isn’t legit is such a jerk move. Go away and how dare you?

It’s not pizza; one woman can get a slice without depriving you of yours.

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Anonymous wrote:Lol, I would like to hear from someone who never had success tell us we shouldn’t feel the way we do. Easy to judge the losers when you ultimately won.

Don’t turn on women who go through infertility treatments and get pregnant. Easier said than done - sure. But no one wants to be part of this club and essentially shaming women who get through a journey to a child is pretty twisted. One day that will be you and you’ll understand. You just don’t realize that yet.

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Get a clue, not everyone has a happy ending and gets their baby. Infertility amnesia is real and you are a prime example. Sometimes the struggle is not all worth it in the end and it just f**king hurts when someone else gets a miracle (for a third, no less) that you would kill for. So feel free to skip this thread if you just want to tell us about your two kids and preach about pieces of the pie.

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Anonymous wrote:Get a clue, not everyone has a happy ending and gets their baby. Infertility amnesia is real and you are a prime example. Sometimes the struggle is not all worth it in the end and it just f**king hurts when someone else gets a miracle (for a third, no less) that you would kill for. So feel free to skip this thread if you just want to tell us about your two kids and preach about pieces of the pie.

Exactly.

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Anonymous wrote:I did 5 rounds of IVF. Last round worked. I wouldn’t expect anyone to tiptoe around me re their pregnancies. It’s their business to share when they want to.

I don't mind when women vent here but can't stand the jerks who insist everyone around them must be miserable and everyone around them MUST NOT GET PREGNANT because they can't.Vent away but don't make your friends feel like crap because you can't get pregnant. I also went through hell to get pregnant and attended more baby showers during that time than any human should endure. Friends tried to be kind and plenty said stupid things but I didn't blame them for me not being pregnant. I knew they didn't know what to say and they wished they could help me. To the person who said this makes you hate CT, what did she do to stop you from getting pregnant? Get therapy.

OP is absolutely entitled to feel this way and gets to be a “jerk”. Read the room- this is an IF message board.

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I don’t believe celebrities. Their PR team crafts nice stories for us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Get a clue, not everyone has a happy ending and gets their baby. Infertility amnesia is real and you are a prime example. Sometimes the struggle is not all worth it in the end and it just f**king hurts when someone else gets a miracle (for a third, no less) that you would kill for. So feel free to skip this thread if you just want to tell us about your two kids and preach about pieces of the pie.

As someone in the IF club I get the resentment and anger but don’t see lashing out at other posters on this forum as a legit response. Sure, hate on CT. But when other posters provide a perspective - and these are posters who acknowledge their own struggle with IF - lashing out isn’t right or kind.

And yes, as much as it killed me when friends / family got pregnant so easily and especially those with the “whoops! babies”, it was comforting and sanity saving to remind myself that their pregnancies weren’t factors on whether or not I would eventually get pregnant. Because they aren’t.

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Jesus, we have quite enough “perspective.” Please please please, stay out of a venting thread if you can’t keep yourself from judging and criticizing people for venting. NOBODY NEEDS YOUR PERSPECTIVE. WE HAVE HEARD IT ALL.

And hey PP who had 2 kids in 4 years, guess how many babies I’ve had in the last 4 years? Go on, guess....

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Anonymous wrote:Jesus, we have quite enough “perspective.” Please please please, stay out of a venting thread if you can’t keep yourself from judging and criticizing people for venting. NOBODY NEEDS YOUR PERSPECTIVE. WE HAVE HEARD IT ALL.

And hey PP who had 2 kids in 4 years, guess how many babies I’ve had in the last 4 years? Go on, guess....

Sorry PP. That really sucks. I suspect people offering views that veer from "I hate Christy Teigen" are also trying to vent not undermine you or dismiss your pain. They might just have a different beef / gripe / view and want to join the conversation - that's different than judgment / critique. You might benefit from therapy if you're not in it already rather than an open forum where people will weigh in with different views than your own. I found it helpful and it allowed me to just keep my conversations 1:1.

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Anonymous wrote:Lol, I would like to hear from someone who never had success tell us we shouldn’t feel the way we do. Easy to judge the losers when you ultimately won.

This is such a distorted, corrosive mindset. Seriously. Nobody who has experienced IF is judging anyone for the pain and resentment they feel about other people's pregnancies. Step away from this forum if the prospect of people sharing their opinion is an issue for you.

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Anonymous wrote:I understand that this is crushing.

I do think that there is some evidence that if a woman can get pregnant with assistance if can sometimes kick-start natural things, and this isn't guaranteed but also not uncommon.

+1 this happened to my cousin. IVF for first two pregnancies, surprise oops third pregnancy.

I know 3 women this happened to.