I can never be genuinely nice to a guy without him or others thinking that I am interested

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Men always read sex into everything. But it could easily be that your coworker is just jealous of your guys' friendship (she could have a crush on this guy) and is trying to make you feel self conscious.

I am very extroverted and talk to everyone and have had this problem again and again. If someone wants to flatter themselves that I have a crush on them, it doesnt bother me. Usually they see that that's my MO with everyone, and any ego boost they may have gotten goes away fast. It's just a part of life when you're nice or friendly to men- it's wishful thinking on their part.

Correct. If you are a non-overweight female who is also nice, any normal guy will be thinking "Potential Sex!"
It means nothing really, you are not that special, within 3 seconds of your shutdown, his attention moves on to the next non-overweight / nice female.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's driving me nuts. For a starters I am a lesbian(somewhat femme presenting), so I am not interested in men AT ALL. I started a new job and there is a guy who is more extroverted than myself who I tend to talk to often, mostly because he talks a lot. I am an introvert and I definitely have easier conversations with extroverts since they keep the conversation going so to speak. Also, he seems to talking about many things that I enjoy like sports and many of the women on my team aren't into that. Anyway, a female coworker asked if I liked this guy and I was shocked! She said you're so nice to him and you two talk a lot. I mentioned that I'm just making conversation and we literally sit next to one another, so of course we talk a lot. Plus I am a nice person without any ulterior motives. There is no reason for me not to be. This literally happens with many guys who I connect with in a professional situation. In my last job, a coworker thought I was flirting with a (married) guy because I said that he looks nice with glasses(I wear them as well)! I don't understand. I feel like I should avoid men altogether.

Most women are pretty cut throat with guys. If the woman is not interested in the man she treats him badly, is disrespectful, etc. If you get along with a male colleague other women assume you are making a move. They are just projected. I find men are easier to be friends with vs women.

[Anonymous]

If you are a non-overweight female who is also nice, any normal guy will be thinking "Potential Sex!"
It means nothing really, you are not that special, within 3 seconds of your shutdown, his attention moves on to the next non-overweight / nice female.

...until he sees you again. Because once a man thinks you're into him it's impossible to prove otherwise.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Let people know you're gay. End of problem.

Ha, no.

Some guys take this as a challenge. They want to be the 'dick [penis] that fixes you' and makes you straight.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Let people know you're gay. End of problem.

Ha, no.

Some guys take this as a challenge. They want to be the 'dick [penis] that fixes you' and makes you straight.

Either that or they think they’ll be the special guy you invite for a threesome. It’s like there’s no such thing as lesbians in some men’s minds, just women they haven’t slept with yet.

[Anonymous]

What I found interesting is that I assumed you were stating initially that the men though you are interested. You aren't stating that. You are stating that other females think you are interested. I think women are more interested in relationships and who is angling for who.... plus they clearly think you are straight. Why are you so interested in what the women are thinking- are you into any of them?

[Anonymous]

#gay