Older parents getting remarried/complicated situation

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wonder what kind of annuity is "free" for a spouse. Everyone I'm aware of reduces the retiree's portion to provide for a spouse.

And I'm not aware of any that would not have a reduced or nonexistent benefit for a second spouse if the first was entitled to any of it.

Just curious.

Not OP but I couldn't tell you. But I CAN tell you about how when your older parent gets remarried and then passes away, and you get jack shit from his estate...

+1. Tell her at the end of vacation because if she finds out that the estate is going to this new wife (legally due to the marriage unless he has a prenup or redoes his will) she will FLIP OUT. Not because she hasn't processed her own divorce (though that could be the case) but because she will be pissed he could be screwing his kids on his estate.

But as some say, none of your business.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wonder what kind of annuity is "free" for a spouse. Everyone I'm aware of reduces the retiree's portion to provide for a spouse.

And I'm not aware of any that would not have a reduced or nonexistent benefit for a second spouse if the first was entitled to any of it.

Just curious.

Not OP but I couldn't tell you. But I CAN tell you about how when your older parent gets remarried and then passes away, and you get jack shit from his estate...

+1. Tell her at the end of vacation because if she finds out that the estate is going to this new wife (legally due to the marriage unless he has a prenup or redoes his will) she will FLIP OUT. Not because she hasn't processed her own divorce (though that could be the case) but because she will be pissed he could be screwing his kids on his estate.

But as some say, none of your business.

I believe a prenup of some kind was in place. He was very adamant that there would be no awkwardness. Who knows.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wonder what kind of annuity is "free" for a spouse. Everyone I'm aware of reduces the retiree's portion to provide for a spouse.

And I'm not aware of any that would not have a reduced or nonexistent benefit for a second spouse if the first was entitled to any of it.

Just curious.

Not OP but I couldn't tell you. But I CAN tell you about how when your older parent gets remarried and then passes away, and you get jack shit from his estate...

So you believe you were entitled to his estate? Where was that a given? I know some adult kids who are deserving of jack shit since they have nothing to do with their remarried parent, and the "gold digger" spends many years caring for their spouse. Adult kids are nowhere to be found during the rough times but sure show up with outstretched hands when the estate needs to be settled.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wonder what kind of annuity is "free" for a spouse. Everyone I'm aware of reduces the retiree's portion to provide for a spouse.

And I'm not aware of any that would not have a reduced or nonexistent benefit for a second spouse if the first was entitled to any of it.

Just curious.

Not OP but I couldn't tell you. But I CAN tell you about how when your older parent gets remarried and then passes away, and you get jack shit from his estate...

So you believe you were entitled to his estate? Where was that a given? I know some adult kids who are deserving of jack shit since they have nothing to do with their remarried parent, and the "gold digger" spends many years caring for their spouse. Adult kids are nowhere to be found during the rough times but sure show up with outstretched hands when the estate needs to be settled.

It cuts both ways. My Dad remarried and prioritized his new wife & her family over mine & my sister's. When he got sick, it was on her to do the heavy lifting at the hospital. She benefited financially and I didn't have to hire a caregiver. Game over.