Communication Frequency

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Woman here. I hate texting. I have better things to do, I don't text during work, and I hate feeling like I'm at someone's beck and call. I also think it spoils men - they get attention without having to make any real effort.

If you want to talk more, invite her out more.

Do you expect phone calls or real dates?

I’m not a fan of phone calls. I don’t know many guys who are into them, either. In my experience, everyone is distracted and trying to multitask on phone calls (myself included).

If I’m going to invest myself, my time, and my effort into someone, I expect real dates. But I’m a cheap date - I’d rather do something like hiking or going to a museum. Cooking/takeout Netflix is also good. I only like restaurant/movie type dates maybe once or twice a month, and I pay for myself.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Woman here. I hate texting. I have better things to do, I don't text during work, and I hate feeling like I'm at someone's beck and call. I also think it spoils men - they get attention without having to make any real effort.

If you want to talk more, invite her out more.

Do you expect phone calls or real dates?

I’m not a fan of phone calls. I don’t know many guys who are into them, either. In my experience, everyone is distracted and trying to multitask on phone calls (myself included).

If I’m going to invest myself, my time, and my effort into someone, I expect real dates. But I’m a cheap date - I’d rather do something like hiking or going to a museum. Cooking/takeout Netflix is also good. I only like restaurant/movie type dates maybe once or twice a month, and I pay for myself.

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[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Wait. So you're barely reaching out but you want her to initiate more? Why not bring up the topic of a relationship and see where her head is?

It's only been a few months.

I'll be very honest OP. As a woman my interest in you would be close to zero. Take some initiative. If you want to see and talk to her more call her, ask for more dates. Stop with the wishy washy games.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Wait. So you're barely reaching out but you want her to initiate more? Why not bring up the topic of a relationship and see where her head is?

It's only been a few months.

I'll be very honest OP. As a woman my interest in you would be close to zero. Take some initiative. If you want to see and talk to her more call her, ask for more dates. Stop with the wishy washy games.

How is it a game, he sees her a few times a week?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Wait. So you're barely reaching out but you want her to initiate more? Why not bring up the topic of a relationship and see where her head is?

It's only been a few months.

I'll be very honest OP. As a woman my interest in you would be close to zero. Take some initiative. If you want to see and talk to her more call her, ask for more dates. Stop with the wishy washy games.

How is it a game, he sees her a few times a week?

He just seems wishy-washy to me, like he's bean-counting. I guess I'm a bit old fashioned in that I like a man to be very direct with his interest, OP just seems lukewarm to me, it's been months of this texting a few dates a week, he wants more, but doesn't want initiate. That's just not what I'm looking for, and I would not see OP as someone with a serious interest, maybe someone I would pass the time with.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Wait. So you're barely reaching out but you want her to initiate more? Why not bring up the topic of a relationship and see where her head is?

It's only been a few months.

I'll be very honest OP. As a woman my interest in you would be close to zero. Take some initiative. If you want to see and talk to her more call her, ask for more dates. Stop with the wishy washy games.

How is it a game, he sees her a few times a week?

He just seems wishy-washy to me, like he's bean-counting. I guess I'm a bit old fashioned in that I like a man to be very direct with his interest, OP just seems lukewarm to me, it's been months of this texting a few dates a week, he wants more, but doesn't want initiate. That's just not what I'm looking for, and I would not see OP as someone with a serious interest, maybe someone I would pass the time with.

Would you expect him to write you a love letter? Or just have a relationship talk by now?

[Anonymous]

Keep doing what you're doing OP.

Women are always looking for an issue. If he's a bit too needy, red flag. If he doesn't text/call based on her perfect calculation, "he's not into me." Goldie Locks syndrome. You can still mention in a text that you'd love to hear her voice and ask if you can call her at a certain time. Plan something unique for your next date.

Can't win, so take her lead.

Signed- woman

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Anonymous wrote:Wait. So you're barely reaching out but you want her to initiate more? Why not bring up the topic of a relationship and see where her head is?

It's only been a few months.

I'll be very honest OP. As a woman my interest in you would be close to zero. Take some initiative. If you want to see and talk to her more call her, ask for more dates. Stop with the wishy washy games.

How is it a game, he sees her a few times a week?

He just seems wishy-washy to me, like he's bean-counting. I guess I'm a bit old fashioned in that I like a man to be very direct with his interest, OP just seems lukewarm to me, it's been months of this texting a few dates a week, he wants more, but doesn't want initiate. That's just not what I'm looking for, and I would not see OP as someone with a serious interest, maybe someone I would pass the time with.

Would you expect him to write you a love letter? Or just have a relationship talk by now?

Relationship talk. I don't need love letters. Like I said, OP doesn't seem like bad guy, Just wishy washy, like someonr I'd continue to go out with and have a nice time, while I was still looking because I'd assume he's not that interested.

It could also be the lady is not looking for anything serious and is totally fine with how things are, though that still places the onus on OP to speak up if he wants more.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Wait. So you're barely reaching out but you want her to initiate more? Why not bring up the topic of a relationship and see where her head is?

It's only been a few months.

I'll be very honest OP. As a woman my interest in you would be close to zero. Take some initiative. If you want to see and talk to her more call her, ask for more dates. Stop with the wishy washy games.

How is it a game, he sees her a few times a week?

He just seems wishy-washy to me, like he's bean-counting. I guess I'm a bit old fashioned in that I like a man to be very direct with his interest, OP just seems lukewarm to me, it's been months of this texting a few dates a week, he wants more, but doesn't want initiate. That's just not what I'm looking for, and I would not see OP as someone with a serious interest, maybe someone I would pass the time with.

Would you expect him to write you a love letter? Or just have a relationship talk by now?

Relationship talk. I don't need love letters. Like I said, OP doesn't seem like bad guy, Just wishy washy, like someonr I'd continue to go out with and have a nice time, while I was still looking because I'd assume he's not that interested.

It could also be the lady is not looking for anything serious and is totally fine with how things are, though that still places the onus on OP to speak up if he wants more.

Isn't two months premature for that?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Wait. So you're barely reaching out but you want her to initiate more? Why not bring up the topic of a relationship and see where her head is?

It's only been a few months.

I'll be very honest OP. As a woman my interest in you would be close to zero. Take some initiative. If you want to see and talk to her more call her, ask for more dates. Stop with the wishy washy games.

How is it a game, he sees her a few times a week?

He just seems wishy-washy to me, like he's bean-counting. I guess I'm a bit old fashioned in that I like a man to be very direct with his interest, OP just seems lukewarm to me, it's been months of this texting a few dates a week, he wants more, but doesn't want initiate. That's just not what I'm looking for, and I would not see OP as someone with a serious interest, maybe someone I would pass the time with.

Would you expect him to write you a love letter? Or just have a relationship talk by now?

Relationship talk. I don't need love letters. Like I said, OP doesn't seem like bad guy, Just wishy washy, like someonr I'd continue to go out with and have a nice time, while I was still looking because I'd assume he's not that interested.

It could also be the lady is not looking for anything serious and is totally fine with how things are, though that still places the onus on OP to speak up if he wants more.

Isn't two months premature for that?

Assuming you are both 30 something, no it isn't too soon.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Wait. So you're barely reaching out but you want her to initiate more? Why not bring up the topic of a relationship and see where her head is?

It's only been a few months.

I'll be very honest OP. As a woman my interest in you would be close to zero. Take some initiative. If you want to see and talk to her more call her, ask for more dates. Stop with the wishy washy games.

How is it a game, he sees her a few times a week?

He just seems wishy-washy to me, like he's bean-counting. I guess I'm a bit old fashioned in that I like a man to be very direct with his interest, OP just seems lukewarm to me, it's been months of this texting a few dates a week, he wants more, but doesn't want initiate. That's just not what I'm looking for, and I would not see OP as someone with a serious interest, maybe someone I would pass the time with.

Would you expect him to write you a love letter? Or just have a relationship talk by now?

Relationship talk. I don't need love letters. Like I said, OP doesn't seem like bad guy, Just wishy washy, like someonr I'd continue to go out with and have a nice time, while I was still looking because I'd assume he's not that interested.

It could also be the lady is not looking for anything serious and is totally fine with how things are, though that still places the onus on OP to speak up if he wants more.

Isn't two months premature for that?

Assuming you are both 30 something, no it isn't too soon.

May be too late

[Anonymous]

OP, if there aren't enough sparks during your several-times-a-week visits, texting isn't going to help.

Have you made the move? Are you having sex? You should either the having great sex, by now, or no amount of texting is going to help.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, if there aren't enough sparks during your several-times-a-week visits, texting isn't going to help.

Have you made the move? Are you having sex? You should either the having great sex, by now, or no amount of texting is going to help.

Have a sex date

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, if there aren't enough sparks during your several-times-a-week visits, texting isn't going to help.

Have you made the move? Are you having sex? You should either the having great sex, by now, or no amount of texting is going to help.

I disagree. I think the issue is you need to upfront you want a relationship

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Anonymous wrote:Wait. So you're barely reaching out but you want her to initiate more? Why not bring up the topic of a relationship and see where her head is?

It's only been a few months.

I'll be very honest OP. As a woman my interest in you would be close to zero. Take some initiative. If you want to see and talk to her more call her, ask for more dates. Stop with the wishy washy games.

How is it a game, he sees her a few times a week?

He just seems wishy-washy to me, like he's bean-counting. I guess I'm a bit old fashioned in that I like a man to be very direct with his interest, OP just seems lukewarm to me, it's been months of this texting a few dates a week, he wants more, but doesn't want initiate. That's just not what I'm looking for, and I would not see OP as someone with a serious interest, maybe someone I would pass the time with.

Would you expect him to write you a love letter? Or just have a relationship talk by now?

Relationship talk. I don't need love letters. Like I said, OP doesn't seem like bad guy, Just wishy washy, like someonr I'd continue to go out with and have a nice time, while I was still looking because I'd assume he's not that interested.

It could also be the lady is not looking for anything serious and is totally fine with how things are, though that still places the onus on OP to speak up if he wants more.

Isn't two months premature for that?

Assuming you are both 30 something, no it isn't too soon.

Is the exclusive talk the same thing? Haven't done either