Do private schools require (or request) financial aid families with SAHM get a job? If yes, how?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I love this forum!

“Isn’t our school wonderful with giving sooo much FA!”
“We don’t even know who gets FA. It doesn’t matter since we are such a supportive community!”
“All the kids are treated the same regardless of FA.”

lol

You figure out who gets FA, you gossip about it and you treat FA families differently. Guaranteed your kids pick up on your attitude and take it to school with them.

FA families are different - they get the same product for less than what we pay for it. And a reminder, private school is a luxury good. There are FREE school available to everyone. If you can't afford private school, DON'T GO.

If you don't believe that financial aid should exist, DON'T GO TO A SCHOOL THAT OFFERS IT.

Easy!

OP, they typically impute $40k of income to non-working parents.

It doesn't sound like you like this family much, so you should find different friends.

[Anonymous]

Most schools tell you how much they impute the non working parent. Exceptions include care for elderly parents or a disabled relative, or a child younger than school age. The schools we have applied to assign $25,000 or more for a SAHP.

[Anonymous]

I have been a treasurer on the board of two schools and learned never to make assumptions about anyone else’s financial or family situation. Many people’s finances are not what they seem to be. Anybody can apply for financial aid and it’s between the school and the family who gets what. If you have questions about your school’s aid policy, you should ask them. Most privates give a percentage off of tuition versus a full ride so everyone has a steak in the school.

Right now with distance learning, schools love SAHMs. Every family offers different value at different times to the school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:+1 We are at a k-8 and we know a few families that have SAH(MOM) and they get aid. It drives us all crazy. In one family, her kids are in middle school and high school years and this has been happening since k.

How do you know they get aid?

[Anonymous]

I believe that if one parent is unemployed by choice, then they add a poverty level income( 30k a year ) to the HHI before awarding FA

So if Mom is a law professor making say 150k and her husband is unemployed then the school would consider their HHI to be 180K, not just the Mom’s salary

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We're not a financial aid family but we're close with a family who is. I went to college with the mom, who constantly complains about private school's aid offer. She doesn't work and her husband isn't making big bucks. It was understandable when the youngest was a toddler, I guess, but youngest is now in 2nd grade, so there's no excuse that she can't work a part-time job. I wasn't sure how or if private schools nudge aid families that it's expected both work? Is it just written on forms or do they come out and tell you directly? Because clearly she hasn't gotten the hint.

For the record, her pre-Corona routine was spent posting all day on Facebook, Starbucks visits, walking neighborhood with another (far wealthier) SAHM, and aimlessly browsing Target, Whole Foods and Trader Joes until the kids needed to be picked up from school.

I just don't get how someone could be so clueless that the rest of her girlfriends are working all day (to pay for private), while she's idle, yet thinks her kids deserve a full boat of aid. It's bugs me so much. Is it entitlement or genuine cluelessness?

I think things have gotten a bit meaner now that tuition is up to nearly 50k a year and some families with 3 kids who have HHI in 1-2 million dollar a year range feel resentful because they are maybe working 60 hours -90 hours a week and so is their husband and they are sweating college for 3 kids plus care for aging parents a little

So maybe they think teachers who send their kids their should be working two jobs instead of getting some FA not realizing that the additional income would just all go to taxes

[Anonymous]

The idle Facebook posting is what drives me up a wall. Obviously you’re not too busy with household work or anything else important if you leave a documented cyber trail of doing literally nothing all day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I love this forum!

“Isn’t our school wonderful with giving sooo much FA!”
“We don’t even know who gets FA. It doesn’t matter since we are such a supportive community!”
“All the kids are treated the same regardless of FA.”

lol

You figure out who gets FA, you gossip about it and you treat FA families differently. Guaranteed your kids pick up on your attitude and take it to school with them.

FA families are different - they get the same product for less than what we pay for it. And a reminder, private school is a luxury good. There are FREE school available to everyone. If you can't afford private school, DON'T GO.

If you don't believe that financial aid should exist, DON'T GO TO A SCHOOL THAT OFFERS IT.

Easy!

OP, they typically impute $40k of income to non-working parents.

It doesn't sound like you like this family much, so you should find different friends.

My child's big 3 imputes $20K. I do not think any schools impute $40K in the DMV and you are exaggerating.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The idle Facebook posting is what drives me up a wall. Obviously you’re not too busy with household work or anything else important if you leave a documented cyber trail of doing literally nothing all day.

Why are you reading so much of her FB?!

The #1 hobby of DCUM is counting other people's money.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We're not a financial aid family but we're close with a family who is. I went to college with the mom, who constantly complains about private school's aid offer. She doesn't work and her husband isn't making big bucks. It was understandable when the youngest was a toddler, I guess, but youngest is now in 2nd grade, so there's no excuse that she can't work a part-time job. I wasn't sure how or if private schools nudge aid families that it's expected both work? Is it just written on forms or do they come out and tell you directly? Because clearly she hasn't gotten the hint.

For the record, her pre-Corona routine was spent posting all day on Facebook, Starbucks visits, walking neighborhood with another (far wealthier) SAHM, and aimlessly browsing Target, Whole Foods and Trader Joes until the kids needed to be picked up from school.

I just don't get how someone could be so clueless that the rest of her girlfriends are working all day (to pay for private), while she's idle, yet thinks her kids deserve a full boat of aid. It's bugs me so much. Is it entitlement or genuine cluelessness?

I think things have gotten a bit meaner now that tuition is up to nearly 50k a year and some families with 3 kids who have HHI in 1-2 million dollar a year range feel resentful because they are maybe working 60 hours -90 hours a week and so is their husband and they are sweating college for 3 kids plus care for aging parents a little

So maybe they think teachers who send their kids their should be working two jobs instead of getting some FA not realizing that the additional income would just all go to taxes

Then the family making $2 million a year should quit their jobs. Then they’ll get aid.

[Anonymous]

You can tell who the scamming SAHMs are in this thread.

[Anonymous]

Still waiting to hear how everyone knows who gets aid or not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We're not a financial aid family but we're close with a family who is. I went to college with the mom, who constantly complains about private school's aid offer. She doesn't work and her husband isn't making big bucks. It was understandable when the youngest was a toddler, I guess, but youngest is now in 2nd grade, so there's no excuse that she can't work a part-time job. I wasn't sure how or if private schools nudge aid families that it's expected both work? Is it just written on forms or do they come out and tell you directly? Because clearly she hasn't gotten the hint.

For the record, her pre-Corona routine was spent posting all day on Facebook, Starbucks visits, walking neighborhood with another (far wealthier) SAHM, and aimlessly browsing Target, Whole Foods and Trader Joes until the kids needed to be picked up from school.

I just don't get how someone could be so clueless that the rest of her girlfriends are working all day (to pay for private), while she's idle, yet thinks her kids deserve a full boat of aid. It's bugs me so much. Is it entitlement or genuine cluelessness?

I think things have gotten a bit meaner now that tuition is up to nearly 50k a year and some families with 3 kids who have HHI in 1-2 million dollar a year range feel resentful because they are maybe working 60 hours -90 hours a week and so is their husband and they are sweating college for 3 kids plus care for aging parents a little

So maybe they think teachers who send their kids their should be working two jobs instead of getting some FA not realizing that the additional income would just all go to taxes

Then the family making $2 million a year should quit their jobs. Then they’ll get aid.

Then the lazy housewife won’t get any because of lack of full pay. You’re not thinking this through, which isn’t surprising for someone that doesn’t work.

[Anonymous]

I hope FA families are taking note. No matter how good the rhetoric at your school, this is what people really think. Wow.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I hope FA families are taking note. No matter how good the rhetoric at your school, this is what people really think. Wow.

Has there been another thread about this? There must be, but I haven’t seen it. The OP sounds very petty and bitter. I’m not a SAHM, but my mother was and she worked so hard to take care of us and our home. I couldn’t put a dollar figure on what she did for all of us. If there was a Target back then, I’m sure she would have been there getting us what we needed (you said that was one of this woman’s common activities). I quit FB because I find it stressful, but when I did do it, it didn’t take any time to throw up a post.
OP, this SAHM might be an extreme case. I don’t know any who don’t clean, cook, run all errands, and a myriad of other things.