My apologies, I'll wait the 6 weeks until our wedding is done to figure this out while the kids have nowhere to stay in our home and I've already bought guest furniture. Sounds like a great way to welcome them to our new family |
I do like the idea of the captains beds for extra storage. The rooms are 12'x12' so not tiny, but not large either. |
You've already decided so what response are you looking for. Why would you buy guest furniture vs. furniture for the kids first? These kids are an afterthought. You buy a set of twin beds or bunkbeds and dressers for the kids. How hard is that? Where is all the drama? You don't need a guest room and that sounds absurd if you have three bedrooms and a bonus room and three kids. So, at this point, one kid gets the guest room since they are guests and another can get an air mattess on the floor. Done. You never said you were getting married in 6 weeks nor may that even be possible with the virus. How is this even a question? Cancel the guest room furniture. You don't need it. |
That is issue number one. Two kids only a few years apart and probably large child support payments. Oldest gets the top bunk or get two twin beds. You can get a good closet organizer for the clothes and two tall narrow dressers. Really its not that hard. Or, the adults take the bonus room, girls take the master bedroom, 3 year old has a room and then they have a guest room. This was a lousy choice of a house. You don't buy a 3 bedroom house for 4-5 kids. |
Are you serious? I stated my plan in the OP. You're the one telling me not to play step mom to my "boyfriend's" kids and make these kinds of decisions. If I'm following your advice, I'd be buying guest furniture and the kids just don't get a place to live. That's when they'd be an afterthought. Lots of people have gotten married during the virus. The world hasn't ended. It may not be the weddings us spring and summer brides had planned, but that's life. |
Agree. OP you sound like an awesome person, but your fiancé has some red flags. In addition to those mentioned above, the two of you seem to be on completely different wavelengths in terms of lifestyle and spending, which could eventually come back to bite you. |
You said you already bought furniture for the guest room. So, you have a guest room, your child has a room, you have a bedroom and the kids either sleep in the guest room or play room. There aren't any real options for these kids. What response are you looking for? Your best bet is to take the bonus room as your bedroom, master bedroom if its bigger for the girls, your child in a bedroom and make the extra bedroom into a guest/playroom and that can be converted later on to a nursery/bedroom for your next set of kids. |
The step kids aren’t even siblings though. How would you like to share a room with a stranger when you were an 11 year old girl. Don’t move in together. |
They are half siblings with two different moms being raised in two different homes visiting Dad. One has more visitation with Dad than the other one does. OP doesn't have the space if she wants a playroom for her child and a guest room. She has three bedrooms and a bonus room. How is this even an issue? Girls get at least a shared bedroom. |
Bedrooms are the least of your problems. Suggest you spend more mental bandwidth on why you are selecting this man as your husband. You owe it to your own child to make sure you are making a choice that wont negatively affect her for the rest of her life (mentally, emotionally, and financially)
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OP, why doesn't Dad keep his current place and he can go over there when he has the girls and that way you don't need to worry about space in your new house. You can have your playroom and guest room and then it will not be an issue with having more kids as you'll have the space. And, girls can get alone time with Dad and not have to compete with your and your child's attention. |
How is that a family? |
Define family. Dad's focus needs to be on his girls during his visitation time. So, it could work well. OP gets to keep the space in her house and the girls can keep their room at Dad's place. |
OP here. PP is correct that the older two are half siblings. They are not strangers, are good friends, FaceTime a few times a week, make big plans for when they’re together. To be clear, I don’t need a dedicated guest room. I’m just considering all the factors that play into who goes where. I have no issue booting my kid from their room for a few nights when my brother wants to visit, but I am considering where kid goes and what furniture would be able to work for a visiting adult (reason why I’m skipping a twin and going to a full/Queen). Due to the layout of the house, I’m not comfortable putting any of the kids in the bonus room and it’s really not a great bedroom option in general. |
+1000 OP bought a house in her name to accommodate children that are not hers by an unmarried father that is not responsible enough to have good credit. |