When you apologize and spouse doesn't accept it

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is he accusing you of theft or asking about where his dad’s testicles are or what?

No, he just wants me to magically tell him where his belongings are, while he's sitting on the couch, and I'm scrambling to put dinner together.

You do know that family jewels aren’t an actual item, right? It’s a euphemism for testicles. Your DH wanted you to pay attention to his.

Which is just as obnoxious, ha.

[Anonymous]

Just to be clear, he was talking about his “father’s family jewels,” apparently some family jewels he received after his father passed away.

Guess he lost them and thought I should help find them, while he was sitting on the couch drinking wine and I was making dinner.

And yes, I think making dinner after nine hours of work IS a big deal, especially when I‘m the only one doing the cooking and cleaning. Meanwhile DH spent a couple hours at the gym, then plopped on the couch sipping wine inquiring about his family jewels.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like he's fed up with you. I can't say I blame him. Hope you get served divorce papers for Christmas.

Obviously ignoring you is a childish thing. But considering how you overreact and are insane, I can't blame him for wanting to avoid you

Honestly at this point I would sign anything that was put in front of me! This is what I get for rushing home after a full day of work and trying to make a nice dinner for us? (he made it clear he did not want to go out)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just to be clear, he was talking about his “father’s family jewels,” apparently some family jewels he received after his father passed away.

Guess he lost them and thought I should help find them, while he was sitting on the couch drinking wine and I was making dinner.

And yes, I think making dinner after nine hours of work IS a big deal, especially when I‘m the only one doing the cooking and cleaning. Meanwhile DH spent a couple hours at the gym, then plopped on the couch sipping wine inquiring about his family jewels.

Remember when you asked him if he wanted to get dinner and he said no, so you offered to cook? And then, while you were cooking, he asked if you needed help, but you let him off the hook because he was daunted by what you asked of him? You abdicated any right to complain about being the only one cooking after 9 hours of work. Why did his question set you off? It was unreasonable for you to curse and complain under your breath rather than telling him you couldn’t concentrate on where the jewels might be while cooking, and asking if you could discuss it over dinner. I’m glad you apologized, as that was the right thing to do, but if this isn’t an isolated incident, then you two have some real issues to work on. You’re both engaging in behavior that is damaging to a marriage. If you don’t have kids yet, do not introduce a baby to the equation until these issues are resolved, because dinner will still have to be prepared after 9 hours of work, but you’ll have much many more domestic chores and also be much more exhausted.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just to be clear, he was talking about his “father’s family jewels,” apparently some family jewels he received after his father passed away.

Guess he lost them and thought I should help find them, while he was sitting on the couch drinking wine and I was making dinner.

And yes, I think making dinner after nine hours of work IS a big deal, especially when I‘m the only one doing the cooking and cleaning. Meanwhile DH spent a couple hours at the gym, then plopped on the couch sipping wine inquiring about his family jewels.

Remember when you asked him if he wanted to get dinner and he said no, so you offered to cook? And then, while you were cooking, he asked if you needed help, but you let him off the hook because he was daunted by what you asked of him? You abdicated any right to complain about being the only one cooking after 9 hours of work. Why did his question set you off? It was unreasonable for you to curse and complain under your breath rather than telling him you couldn’t concentrate on where the jewels might be while cooking, and asking if you could discuss it over dinner. I’m glad you apologized, as that was the right thing to do, but if this isn’t an isolated incident, then you two have some real issues to work on. You’re both engaging in behavior that is damaging to a marriage. If you don’t have kids yet, do not introduce a baby to the equation until these issues are resolved, because dinner will still have to be prepared after 9 hours of work, but you’ll have much many more domestic chores and also be much more exhausted.

Yeah, no. I’m smart enough to not have a child with a man baby AND work full time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just to be clear, he was talking about his “father’s family jewels,” apparently some family jewels he received after his father passed away.

Guess he lost them and thought I should help find them, while he was sitting on the couch drinking wine and I was making dinner.

And yes, I think making dinner after nine hours of work IS a big deal, especially when I‘m the only one doing the cooking and cleaning. Meanwhile DH spent a couple hours at the gym, then plopped on the couch sipping wine inquiring about his family jewels.

Remember when you asked him if he wanted to get dinner and he said no, so you offered to cook? And then, while you were cooking, he asked if you needed help, but you let him off the hook because he was daunted by what you asked of him? You abdicated any right to complain about being the only one cooking after 9 hours of work. Why did his question set you off? It was unreasonable for you to curse and complain under your breath rather than telling him you couldn’t concentrate on where the jewels might be while cooking, and asking if you could discuss it over dinner. I’m glad you apologized, as that was the right thing to do, but if this isn’t an isolated incident, then you two have some real issues to work on. You’re both engaging in behavior that is damaging to a marriage. If you don’t have kids yet, do not introduce a baby to the equation until these issues are resolved, because dinner will still have to be prepared after 9 hours of work, but you’ll have much many more domestic chores and also be much more exhausted.

And yes, I do remember letting him off the hook about dinner. But does that give him carte Blanche to ask me about his “family jewels”, which by the way, are his, not “ours”?

[Anonymous]

Wtf are you even talking about?

[Anonymous]

Was he referring to his testicles or his fathers?

[Anonymous]

The question set me off because I was told they were family jewels passed down on his father’s side to the wives of sons. But apparently when it got to me, they did not. But DH was gifted them at some point and he kept them in his drawers until we got new bedroom furniture, when he apparently lost them (and decided to ask me about them).

To be clear, I’m in no way trying to get this jewelry (I make my own money, and if I was a gold-digger, I certainly would have gone after someone with a lot more money). But
the fact that they purposefully did not give them to Me is just another indication they don’t think I’m good enough for him, which has always been a source of tension

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wtf are you even talking about?

Why are you even responding if you don’t understand any of
This?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wtf are you even talking about?

Why are you even responding if you don’t understand any of
This?

You sound like a pita with too much time on your hands. Grow up

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wtf are you even talking about?

Why are you even responding if you don’t understand any of
This?

You sound like a pita with too much time on your hands. Grow up

And you sound like neglectful b spending your time on the internet ignoring your family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The question set me off because I was told they were family jewels passed down on his father’s side to the wives of sons. But apparently when it got to me, they did not. But DH was gifted them at some point and he kept them in his drawers until we got new bedroom furniture, when he apparently lost them (and decided to ask me about them).

To be clear, I’m in no way trying to get this jewelry (I make my own money, and if I was a gold-digger, I certainly would have gone after someone with a lot more money). But
the fact that they purposefully did not give them to Me is just another indication they don’t think I’m good enough for him, which has always been a source of tension

...what?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The question set me off because I was told they were family jewels passed down on his father’s side to the wives of sons. But apparently when it got to me, they did not. But DH was gifted them at some point and he kept them in his drawers until we got new bedroom furniture, when he apparently lost them (and decided to ask me about them).

To be clear, I’m in no way trying to get this jewelry (I make my own money, and if I was a gold-digger, I certainly would have gone after someone with a lot more money). But
the fact that they purposefully did not give them to Me is just another indication they don’t think I’m good enough for him, which has always been a source of tension

Okay, so these jewels are an emotional powder keg for you. Have you discussed your feelings about them with dh?

[Anonymous]

This is so bizarre.