whats the core issue in your marriage

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That my husband is mentally ill and denies it.

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Same here but it was XW who was mentally ill.

I learned that you can't fix it and it doesn't go away.

My husband gloats over his bipolar disorder but refuses any help. He likes/ loves the highs, and has no idea what hell he out us through. Actually he does, but it matters more to him than we do. We haven't had any regular sex in 6 yrs, and no sex at all in two. He wont get help for that either.

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I can help you with that if he won't.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That my husband is mentally ill and denies it.

I

Same here but it was XW who was mentally ill.

I learned that you can't fix it and it doesn't go away.

My husband gloats over his bipolar disorder but refuses any help. He likes/ loves the highs, and has no idea what hell he out us through. Actually he does, but it matters more to him than we do. We haven't had any regular sex in 6 yrs, and no sex at all in two. He wont get help for that either.

I

I can help you with that if he won't.

Please... I am 5’6”, 295lbs. How can I contact you?

[Anonymous]

Lack of sex. She would point to reasons for that I am sure but we have no connection through sex. She knows it is a need of mine and utterly disregarded. And yes, I do chores and child care snd all that

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:His idea of dividing all the family responsibilities: I’ll do my best and she’ll do the rest.

This. He's my 3rd child.

[Anonymous]

For me, I think there is this nagging feeling that he will not put up with me for long if I were to get sick or infirm.

I say this because at times I've been sick, it's like, on day 2, "oh, you're STILL sick?" after I have to remind him.

This summer we were away on vacation for a week, and he had to leave the latter part of the week for his childhood friend's second wedding (we are in our 50s). One of our kids had been sick and had explosive vomiting and diarrhea. She got better just as the second kid caught it. I was up day and night with kids and mopping up messes. Then, the day before he was due to leave, I said, "Larlo, I'm worried; I think I might be getting sick," and he blurted, "oh that sucks for me!"

I was like, "for YOU? You're getting on a plane tomorrow and I'm stuck with the kids!"

And I just thought, "wow, it's all about him, all the time."

He's got some really great other qualities, and loves me and I love him, but this thing niggles at me. I don't think it's something you can change.

[Anonymous]

Planner versus non-planner (investor, non-investor). I don’t just mean money. Husband is only concerned with getting through the day. Refuses to teach kids to do chores (because it is time consuming and he just wants to get it done), is not interested in taking a step towards any long term goals, retirement, college savings ect. No tax planning, would rather hand over and Ipad to a kid versus being creative to manage their boredom.

It drives me nuts!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Planner versus non-planner (investor, non-investor). I don’t just mean money. Husband is only concerned with getting through the day. Refuses to teach kids to do chores (because it is time consuming and he just wants to get it done), is not interested in taking a step towards any long term goals, retirement, college savings ect. No tax planning, would rather hand over and Ipad to a kid versus being creative to manage their boredom.

It drives me nuts!

It must be very anxiety filled way to live. Wish you well as good health. How old are the kids?

[Anonymous]

in law drama

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Does everyone have an issue?

I can’t think of any

+ 1

Both are easy going, content and grateful. No drama. We just do not sweat the small stuff.

[Anonymous]

Money, financial stress and medical expenses. In some order.

[Anonymous]

Money, I make it and she spends it. But she will happily spend more than I make. I’m doing everything I can to control it but she is very smart. Thankfully we don’t have children so my soon to come exit will not be painful. I’m thankful I have a prenup because when I do file she will face reality.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Money, I make it and she spends it. But she will happily spend more than I make. I’m doing everything I can to control it but she is very smart. Thankfully we don’t have children so my soon to come exit will not be painful. I’m thankful I have a prenup because when I do file she will face reality.

I hope you guys are on birth control cause I can just see her get pregnant the week before you serve her papers.

[Anonymous]

Accepting there are things we don't like about each other. How to not let those things keeping us not like being around each other on a daily basis.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Untreated anxiety and depression

X10000

From an abusive family.

[Anonymous]

Damn, just read the first 3 pages and I'd have to say...All of the above!