whats the core issue in your marriage

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That my husband is mentally ill and denies it.

I

Same here but it was XW who was mentally ill.

I learned that you can't fix it and it doesn't go away.

[Anonymous]

One extreme introvert or possible asperger. The other ADD. Two different cultures. Disagree on literally everything in life.

[Anonymous]

Stress and time - kids and work demanding a lot

[Anonymous]

Deciding which would result in the least amount of resentment...being the nag or martyr.

[Anonymous]

Does everyone have an issue?

I can’t think of any

[Anonymous]

Being the default parent.

[Anonymous]

He wants me to be more involved with the kids. I told him I didn't want kids at all. I feel like he should have known what he was getting into.

[Anonymous]

His idea of dividing all the family responsibilities: I’ll do my best and she’ll do the rest.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My libido is lower than his and I feel bad about it. (We have a baby, a preschooler, and a first grader and have had sex four times in the last week including twice last night, but he’d happily be daily.)

I'm sorry, but that's more than enough by just about any measure.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He wants me to be more involved with the kids. I told him I didn't want kids at all. I feel like he should have known what he was getting into.

Yikes!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My libido is lower than his and I feel bad about it. (We have a baby, a preschooler, and a first grader and have had sex four times in the last week including twice last night, but he’d happily be daily.)

You can’t be serious. If you really think this is an issue you actually need therapy. Or friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That my husband is mentally ill and denies it.

I

Same here but it was XW who was mentally ill.

I learned that you can't fix it and it doesn't go away.

My husband gloats over his bipolar disorder but refuses any help. He likes/ loves the highs, and has no idea what hell he out us through. Actually he does, but it matters more to him than we do. We haven't had any regular sex in 6 yrs, and no sex at all in two. He wont get help for that either.

[Anonymous]

We are retired but I’m compulsive about being community engaged and busy and he is happy to live a life of leisure. I can’t complain about it because we would not be living the life we do if it had not been his 40 years of hard work. He truly hates it when at 7am and I know I have a busy day and I ask him what are you doing today? It’s my problem, not his.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He doesn’t worry about my needs, ever.

Anonymous wrote:Untreated anxiety and depression

+1 to both of these. Because of his anxiety, he is unable to tend to my needs and even resentful that I would have any. His "need" is for me to not have needs. It seems unfixable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One extreme introvert or possible asperger. The other ADD. Two different cultures. Disagree on literally everything in life.

Um.... how did you not know that before you got married?

SMH