“Ask 3 before me”

[Anonymous]

If that’s the teachers rule, then kids shouldn’t be penalized for getting something wrong because a classmate gave them incorrect instructions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If that’s the teachers rule, then kids shouldn’t be penalized for getting something wrong because a classmate gave them incorrect instructions.

+1,000

[Anonymous]

They really shouldn’t do this for class work instructions. My kids teachers have this rule but only for things like,”I lost my pencil, do you have one I can borrow?”. It would not be expected for class work instructions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If that’s the teachers rule, then kids shouldn’t be penalized for getting something wrong because a classmate gave them incorrect instructions.

It's first grade. Kids aren't "penalized" or marked down for incorrect worksheets.

How old are your kids?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So this is where kids with adhd (inattentive type) begin being left behind by the school system. Good to know.

The teacher may not have even followed her own rule here! Did he ask 3? We don’t know, but he did ask 1! Building confidence in the classroom is so important in the early years. This is a bad teacher who may be teaching kids to be too afraid to go to the teacher for help in the later years.

Yep, exactly what’s happening to my son.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So this is where kids with adhd (inattentive type) begin being left behind by the school system. Good to know.

The teacher may not have even followed her own rule here! Did he ask 3? We don’t know, but he did ask 1! Building confidence in the classroom is so important in the early years. This is a bad teacher who may be teaching kids to be too afraid to go to the teacher for help in the later years.

Yep, exactly what’s happening to my son.

So get him evaluated for ADHD!

[Anonymous]

OP you should tell your kid that it is very important to pay attention when the teacher is explaining what to do. If he still doesn't understand he should think about who among the other students is most likely to have been paying attention and understands what to do. Maybe even look around and see who is actually doing the work already. Ask them.

If you can teach your child this important concept your child will likely not have this problem again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So this is where kids with adhd (inattentive type) begin being left behind by the school system. Good to know.

The teacher may not have even followed her own rule here! Did he ask 3? We don’t know, but he did ask 1! Building confidence in the classroom is so important in the early years. This is a bad teacher who may be teaching kids to be too afraid to go to the teacher for help in the later years.

Yep, exactly what’s happening to my son.

So get him evaluated for ADHD!

We already have, you idiot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not acceptable at that grade level. Teacher needs a better way to communicate with students. He should feel comfortable to ask questions at any time. She can say many things before her crazy rule of "3 before me".

Disagree. It teaches empowerment and self-reliance.

—Kindergarten mom & K teacher

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If that’s the teachers rule, then kids shouldn’t be penalized for getting something wrong because a classmate gave them incorrect instructions.

K teacher and mom again. Working together (even if the answer is incorrect) is more important than the actual answer.

[Anonymous]

I have been wondering why my teens aren't very good self-advocates - and this thread now explains why!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So this is where kids with adhd (inattentive type) begin being left behind by the school system. Good to know.

The teacher may not have even followed her own rule here! Did he ask 3? We don’t know, but he did ask 1! Building confidence in the classroom is so important in the early years. This is a bad teacher who may be teaching kids to be too afraid to go to the teacher for help in the later years.

Yep, exactly what’s happening to my son.

So get him evaluated for ADHD!

We already have, you idiot.

Then he has or will soon have accommodations and this post doesn’t apply to you.

[Anonymous]

As a teacher, this is nearly always because kids were not listening while I give very specific instructions multiple times. From the child’s perspective, he was playing, having fun, talking to friends, and then all of a sudden magically he was asked to do something and didn’t know how. So of course he will come home to complain. Give him the tools to succeed by helping him pay attention when instruction is being given.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:'NP here. Exactly— he had a real question & felt he couldn’t ask the teacher for help. My kid has a teacher who does this, and I think it’s lazy teaching at some point. Sure, there are things kids could legitimately ask a peer, but kids shouldn’t be relying on peers to teach them how to do the schoolwork. That is ridiculous. Also, my kid has gotten frustrated when the teacher won’t answer a question that clearly none of the kids can answer. It’s the teacher’s job to address kids’ legitimate questions."



+1000 percent

I think it’s brilliant. Teacher needs to teach and kid learns that when you don’t listen you have to figure it out on your own. If you don’t, the teacher will attend to you after she finishes with the kids who are where they are supposed to be and doing what they are supposed to be doing. Those kids don’t get short changed because of another kid’s misbehavior. And the misbehaving kid gets what he needs, just not on his timeframe. Hopefully lesson learned. Pay attention when the teacher tells you to listen.

+1

It teaches kids to use their own resources to figure out what they need to do. We don’t need more of the learned helplessness crap.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So this is where kids with adhd (inattentive type) begin being left behind by the school system. Good to know.

The teacher may not have even followed her own rule here! Did he ask 3? We don’t know, but he did ask 1! Building confidence in the classroom is so important in the early years. This is a bad teacher who may be teaching kids to be too afraid to go to the teacher for help in the later years.

Yep, exactly what’s happening to my son.

So get him evaluated for ADHD!

We already have, you idiot.

Then he has or will soon have accommodations and this post doesn’t apply to you.

It does apply, Bc this was the start of him getting left behind.