Update regarding Ukranian adopted daughter (now with Indiana family)

[Anonymous]

Is that what the current documentary found. That she was a child at the time?

I thought the mom said she had public hair and her period when she was supposed to be 6.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wait I thought bone scans showed she was definitively like 30, lol why did they put her with a new couple????

Good luck to the new parents, they're gonna need it.

She had bone scans in 2010 and 2012 and they places her age as being 8 and 11.

She LOOKS like a late teen. She has breasts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is that what the current documentary found. That she was a child at the time?

I thought the mom said she had public hair and her period when she was supposed to be 6.

Children with disabilities very often experience precocious and/or delayed puberty. It's really kind of shocking that her adopted family did not know or care to find out about this common phenomenon. When a child's brain is affected by a disability, the internal puberty clock can be affected as well. Among my daughter and her friends, girls got pubic hair and periods from a range of Age 3 to Age 19. It was a topic that was frequently discussed among the Special Needs Moms (puberty age range) and frankly I find it suspicious that the adoptive mother did not inform herself about this issue. It speaks to the neglect of this child.

[Anonymous]

This whole case is so gross.

As an adoptee from Belarus, these parents honestly disgust me as the folks making fun of a traumatized disabled child.

The parents wanted to look like a good, loving Christian family so wanted to adopt a foreign child.

Like so many adoptive parents they were ignorant of what they were getting into. I do believe she was older than 6, probably 9 or 10. This is not uncommon when adopting out of Eastern Europe. Before my parents came to get me, they were sent old pictures and told I was at most, 18 months old. They ended up meeting me at 3 and I came home at 3.5-years of age.

Having spent my formative years in a neglectful orphanage, I had significant developmental and emotionally issues. This is going to be the case with any adoptee that isn’t fresh out the womb.

There is tons of trauma involved before the child is adopted and the very act of adoption is traumatic. The child is taken out of their home, into a new culture with a new language.

Being that she was probably 8-10, she’s going to have a hard time adjusting and have significant behavior issues. Yes. Including acting out violently. Too many adoptive have zero business adopting. They do it for the image and aren’t prepared to care for traumatized kids.

I’m not anti-adoption by any means. I am lucky and ended up in a loving home with loving parents but I know so many international adoptees who were neglected and abused and/or placed back into the system once in America.

There’s a definite need for reform and it disgusts me that people have treated this girl the way she’s been treated solely because her disability makes it difficult to know her age.

Her adoptive parents abandoned her. The should rot in hell. I hope she is able to get the care she needs now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This whole case is so gross.

As an adoptee from Belarus, these parents honestly disgust me as the folks making fun of a traumatized disabled child.

The parents wanted to look like a good, loving Christian family so wanted to adopt a foreign child.

Like so many adoptive parents they were ignorant of what they were getting into. I do believe she was older than 6, probably 9 or 10. This is not uncommon when adopting out of Eastern Europe. Before my parents came to get me, they were sent old pictures and told I was at most, 18 months old. They ended up meeting me at 3 and I came home at 3.5-years of age.

Having spent my formative years in a neglectful orphanage, I had significant developmental and emotionally issues. This is going to be the case with any adoptee that isn’t fresh out the womb.

There is tons of trauma involved before the child is adopted and the very act of adoption is traumatic. The child is taken out of their home, into a new culture with a new language.

Being that she was probably 8-10, she’s going to have a hard time adjusting and have significant behavior issues. Yes. Including acting out violently. Too many adoptive have zero business adopting. They do it for the image and aren’t prepared to care for traumatized kids.

I’m not anti-adoption by any means. I am lucky and ended up in a loving home with loving parents but I know so many international adoptees who were neglected and abused and/or placed back into the system once in America.

There’s a definite need for reform and it disgusts me that people have treated this girl the way she’s been treated solely because her disability makes it difficult to know her age.

Her adoptive parents abandoned her. The should rot in hell. I hope she is able to get the care she needs now.

Didn't she try to murder the mom? I agree there needs to be adoption reform and there is a lot of corruption, but she was pretty disturbed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This whole case is so gross.

As an adoptee from Belarus, these parents honestly disgust me as the folks making fun of a traumatized disabled child.

The parents wanted to look like a good, loving Christian family so wanted to adopt a foreign child.

Like so many adoptive parents they were ignorant of what they were getting into. I do believe she was older than 6, probably 9 or 10. This is not uncommon when adopting out of Eastern Europe. Before my parents came to get me, they were sent old pictures and told I was at most, 18 months old. They ended up meeting me at 3 and I came home at 3.5-years of age.

Having spent my formative years in a neglectful orphanage, I had significant developmental and emotionally issues. This is going to be the case with any adoptee that isn’t fresh out the womb.

There is tons of trauma involved before the child is adopted and the very act of adoption is traumatic. The child is taken out of their home, into a new culture with a new language.

Being that she was probably 8-10, she’s going to have a hard time adjusting and have significant behavior issues. Yes. Including acting out violently. Too many adoptive have zero business adopting. They do it for the image and aren’t prepared to care for traumatized kids.

I’m not anti-adoption by any means. I am lucky and ended up in a loving home with loving parents but I know so many international adoptees who were neglected and abused and/or placed back into the system once in America.

There’s a definite need for reform and it disgusts me that people have treated this girl the way she’s been treated solely because her disability makes it difficult to know her age.

Her adoptive parents abandoned her. The should rot in hell. I hope she is able to get the care she needs now.

Didn't she try to murder the mom? I agree there needs to be adoption reform and there is a lot of corruption, but she was pretty disturbed.

According to them.

Regardless, many older adoptees will act out violently. Many from orphanages have reactive attachment disorder and will not act like normal children. I don’t say this to scare anyone, it’s just the truth.

It’s truly a massive task to care for a highly traumatize child. Not many can do it, which is why people don’t need to be adopting just because their church did a fundraiser.

It is a very serious decision. You must think of EVERY child in your home before making the decision.

[Anonymous]

I don't understand how their hasn't been a lawsuit and an investigation into this whole disaster?