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[quote=Anonymous]This whole case is so gross.

As an adoptee from Belarus, these parents honestly disgust me as the folks making fun of a traumatized disabled child.

The parents wanted to look like a good, loving Christian family so wanted to adopt a foreign child.

Like so many adoptive parents they were ignorant of what they were getting into.  I do believe she was older than 6, probably 9 or 10.  This is not uncommon when adopting out of Eastern Europe.  Before my parents came to get me, they were sent old pictures and told I was at most,  18 months old.  They ended up meeting me at 3 and I came home at 3.5-years of age.

Having spent my formative years in a neglectful orphanage, I had significant developmental and emotionally issues.  This is going to be the case with any adoptee that isn’t fresh out the womb.

There is tons of trauma involved before the child is adopted and the very act of adoption is traumatic.  The child is taken out of their home, into a new culture with a new language.

Being that she was probably 8-10, she’s going to have a hard time adjusting and have significant behavior issues.  Yes.  Including acting out violently.  Too many adoptive have zero business adopting.  They do it for the image and aren’t prepared to care for traumatized kids.

I’m not anti-adoption by any means.  I am lucky and ended up in a loving home with loving parents but I know so many international adoptees who were neglected and abused and/or placed back into the system once in America.

There’s a definite need for reform and it disgusts me that people have treated this girl the way she’s been treated solely because her disability makes it difficult to know her age.

Her adoptive parents abandoned her.  The should rot in hell.  I hope she is able to get the care she needs now. [/quote]

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