DNA Test Results Drama

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I thought these tests basically said what countries you’re from. And also you can ask if you have any markers for certain diseases.

Please let me know how is it that they tell you that you have long lost siblings? I am in the dark on that. Thanks.

They connect you with people who are dna matches.

Only if you opt IN to that. You don't have to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not to mention that private companies now have your most private and confidential family information. Don't do DNA testing unless there is a dire need for it.

Go take a Xanax and stop being so bossy and paranoid.

PP you replied to. Are you affiliated with one of these companies? Because like many activities today, DNA testing is not regulated correctly and there are serious confidentiality issues with is. I'm a geneticist, and I KNOW.

You are not a geneticist. If you were, you would understand how DNA is used and how it isn't used. Secondly, if someone wants your DNA, they can get it. No one needs to assume nefarious practices. I'm calling you out on your ignorance as well as your lie.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not to mention that private companies now have your most private and confidential family information. Don't do DNA testing unless there is a dire need for it.

Go take a Xanax and stop being so bossy and paranoid.

Or maybe don’t be so rude, PP.

PPP is right. Your data is exploited everyday, and you have good reason to be paranoid about it.

I'm laughing at the idea that it's "paranoid" to worry about a private company possessing your DNA information. How many of you have free credit monitoring due tot he Equifax breach. It's only a matter of time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My sibling did a home DNA test. We discovered a half-sibling we didn’t know about. Anyone have this happen? Is there a happy story out there?

I know two people this has happened to, actually.

I don't know about the second one. But the first, they've met and are friendly. Nothing more.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm adopted and did a DNA test. I suspect I will be a surprise to someone eventually.

Awesome answer lol!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I dont know why people put themselves through this, especially if you already have an established family. Just because you now have a first cousin who is a lovechild of your aunt/uncle doesnt make them family.

Of course it does. By definition, they are family. You can choose to be cold or unwelcoming, but they are family. I would certainly be warm and welcoming and seek a relationship with a first cousin who was rececly found to be a member of the family.

[Anonymous]

Who needs this drama in their lives?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow. Lots of cold people on here! I connected with a half-sibling through Ancestry and it has been great for our lives, we have vacationed together and our kids now have cousins.

It isn’t cold. How is a half sibling you meet when you’re 40 that lived an entirely different life any different from the person in front of you at Starbucks? Maybe you’d be best friends with them if the two f you decided to take your coffee together and sit and have a chat, then meet up again in a week.

What makes a sibling bond special is you grow up together in the same household. You share the same childhood and many of the same memories.

I do have a half siblings. They where born when I was away in college. Between the age difference, another set of parents divorcing, and not spending much time together regularly, the relationship is no where near the same level as my relationship to my sibling I grew up with. Sharing DNA is not enough to make a relationship.

I sorry your parents’ divorce was painful for you. But there is something deeply unusual about you feeling like a half sibling is no different than a stranger in Starbucks. My half sisters and I have a powerful genetic connection was beyond the connection I have with a stranger. My sister’s daughter looks just like my mom. Our hands look the same. We click. I dobt think blood always means connection (I have one brother who I grew up with who is an awful person and I mostly loathe) but there IS something significant to shared DNA. Huge something. To see my niece’s face when she saw hers in pictures of my mom, to know their interest in family history, to enjoy the ease of their company and love.. we are family. It’s a shame you have closed yourself off to that because of your parents’ choices.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm adopted and did a DNA test. I suspect I will be a surprise to someone eventually.

Awesome answer lol!

I am a surprise to an enormous family group who had no idea that their father had an affair (s?). I am their half sibling- adopted at birth. Some of them did a DNA tests, and many of their children have. Not one has asked who I am. A couple of 2nd cousins have inquired, but then, radio silence.

I am, of course, not expecting anything from them, nor do I need anything. However, the DNA is out there, now in subsequent generations, so it is just naive to pretend it doesn't exist and that this didn't happen. We all grew up within miles of each other...I went to college with some of my siblings. We could have actually dated, etc.

It's time to recognize, accept, and acknowledge. That's all. . .we don't need a Christmas gift, a relationship, or even a hug. Since the information is there- just deal with it. Secrets belong in the past and no one owns the right to keep it a secret.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow. Lots of cold people on here! I connected with a half-sibling through Ancestry and it has been great for our lives, we have vacationed together and our kids now have cousins.

It isn’t cold. How is a half sibling you meet when you’re 40 that lived an entirely different life any different from the person in front of you at Starbucks? Maybe you’d be best friends with them if the two f you decided to take your coffee together and sit and have a chat, then meet up again in a week.

What makes a sibling bond special is you grow up together in the same household. You share the same childhood and many of the same memories.

I do have a half siblings. They where born when I was away in college. Between the age difference, another set of parents divorcing, and not spending much time together regularly, the relationship is no where near the same level as my relationship to my sibling I grew up with. Sharing DNA is not enough to make a relationship.

It's sad you can't bond with people unless you lived with them as a child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not to mention that private companies now have your most private and confidential family information. Don't do DNA testing unless there is a dire need for it.

Go take a Xanax and stop being so bossy and paranoid.

Or maybe don’t be so rude, PP.

PPP is right. Your data is exploited everyday, and you have good reason to be paranoid about it.

Agree. Im pretty laid back on social media, app permissions all that shit bc I think it's largely unavoidable if you want to function in society but giving my DNA info to a private company not bound by any laws is a no. Maybe paranoid but who knows what kind of nightmare scenarios this might lead to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow. Lots of cold people on here! I connected with a half-sibling through Ancestry and it has been great for our lives, we have vacationed together and our kids now have cousins.

It isn’t cold. How is a half sibling you meet when you’re 40 that lived an entirely different life any different from the person in front of you at Starbucks? Maybe you’d be best friends with them if the two f you decided to take your coffee together and sit and have a chat, then meet up again in a week.

What makes a sibling bond special is you grow up together in the same household. You share the same childhood and many of the same memories.

I do have a half siblings. They where born when I was away in college. Between the age difference, another set of parents divorcing, and not spending much time together regularly, the relationship is no where near the same level as my relationship to my sibling I grew up with. Sharing DNA is not enough to make a relationship.

It's sad you can't bond with people unless you lived with them as a child.

Of course you can- you can bond with anyone. You don't need to share DNA with them to bond. But what makes a sibling special and unique isn't the DNA connection it is the growing up together.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not to mention that private companies now have your most private and confidential family information. Don't do DNA testing unless there is a dire need for it.

Go take a Xanax and stop being so bossy and paranoid.

Or maybe don’t be so rude, PP.

PPP is right. Your data is exploited everyday, and you have good reason to be paranoid about it.

I'm laughing at the idea that it's "paranoid" to worry about a private company possessing your DNA information. How many of you have free credit monitoring due tot he Equifax breach. It's only a matter of time.

So what? What will be done with it? Worried about health insurance? If they will deny you based on DNA, it won't be because they stole your info- they won't have to. You'll have to give it up. You know all that DNA at your blood draw lab(?) -no different. You already gave that up. If you have a tumor, that will be DNA tested.

Do you know how they caught the BTK killer? The police court ordered his daughter's pap smear test without her knowledge. They caught the Golden State killer by using a public DNA sharing site to get a distant match, and then worked the family tree. That means your DNA is kind of out there if you have any 1st or 2nd degree relative who did their DNA. That's how most people find relatives.

Meta DNA data is used to help in disease research, medications, and general health care. Your name isn't on it. When someone needs your DNA for nefarious reasons, they arent interested in these kits.

DNA research is a good thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I thought these tests basically said what countries you’re from. And also you can ask if you have any markers for certain diseases.

Please let me know how is it that they tell you that you have long lost siblings? I am in the dark on that. Thanks.

They connect you with people who are dna matches.

You can choose not to be connected to anyone. I did the test and received notice there were five connections for me. I chose not to allow connections so they were unaware of me and I was unable to see their info or contact them

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not to mention that private companies now have your most private and confidential family information. Don't do DNA testing unless there is a dire need for it.

Idiot

Totally agree. The person having the testing done has total control over what’s given out or displayed. Vast majority of people doing these tests have a positive experience. Stop being a negative person.

This is so not true.