DNA Test Results Drama

[Anonymous]

My sibling did a home DNA test. We discovered a half-sibling we didn’t know about. Anyone have this happen? Is there a happy story out there?

[Anonymous]

I'm adopted and did a DNA test. I suspect I will be a surprise to someone eventually.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, these things are dangerous. Yes I know someone who KNEW her dad had other kids after her but the other kids did not (he literally never communicated with the first kids anymore after the divorce). It took a long time for all of the new kids to accept the fact that their father had had this whole other family and life, but they did come around, and they all do see each other now.

[Anonymous]

Not to mention that private companies now have your most private and confidential family information. Don't do DNA testing unless there is a dire need for it.

[Anonymous]

Suspected someone close to me didn't have a bio kid from another woman. They were stupid and never established paternity when the woman claimed he was the dad. I could see it, he was completely scammed. DNA test ended up proving what I already knew. He paid child support for someone else's kid, probably happens a lot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not to mention that private companies now have your most private and confidential family information. Don't do DNA testing unless there is a dire need for it.

OP here. Agree with you completely. As I noted sibling did it against my advice.

[Anonymous]

I thought these tests basically said what countries you’re from. And also you can ask if you have any markers for certain diseases.

Please let me know how is it that they tell you that you have long lost siblings? I am in the dark on that. Thanks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I thought these tests basically said what countries you’re from. And also you can ask if you have any markers for certain diseases.

Please let me know how is it that they tell you that you have long lost siblings? I am in the dark on that. Thanks.

They connect you with people who are dna matches.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not to mention that private companies now have your most private and confidential family information. Don't do DNA testing unless there is a dire need for it.

Go take a Xanax and stop being so bossy and paranoid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not to mention that private companies now have your most private and confidential family information. Don't do DNA testing unless there is a dire need for it.

Go take a Xanax and stop being so bossy and paranoid.

Or maybe don’t be so rude, PP.

PPP is right. Your data is exploited everyday, and you have good reason to be paranoid about it.

[Anonymous]

If you ever watch shows like Finding Your Roots, they do really impressive things with the DNA results from 23andme. There was one with Charlayne Hunter-Gault (a journalist) where they were able to confirm a family story that her great-grandmother had been impregnated as a teen while working at the home of a white family and was Kicked out after becoming pregnant. Through census records and dna tests they were able to find the family (but couldn’t identify which of the males in the house had impregnated her). The show is super fascinating as a window into American history.

[Anonymous]

There are many happy endings. Bringing closure and answers to people who have lived with uncertainty or a hole in their lives. Getting everything out in the open and not needing to have secrets has been freeing for many people.

Get in touch with the half sibling and see if they want to connect. If they do, someone needs to reach out to your dad and have a conversation about it. Let him then lead next steps with anything with regards to him. You can still have your own relationship with half sibling as well.

There is a UK show that reunites half sibs, adoptees, abandoned kids etc with their families. These are obviously the ones who want to reconnect but it is pretty amazing to see how much just establishing that reconnection means to some people.

[Anonymous]

Happy story? It depends on what you want out of it. If I had half siblings, I wouldn’t care enough to connect. If they reached out to me, I would accept enough to answer any questions they have but not to establish a bond.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not to mention that private companies now have your most private and confidential family information. Don't do DNA testing unless there is a dire need for it.

Go take a Xanax and stop being so bossy and paranoid.

PP you replied to. Are you affiliated with one of these companies? Because like many activities today, DNA testing is not regulated correctly and there are serious confidentiality issues with is. I'm a geneticist, and I KNOW.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not to mention that private companies now have your most private and confidential family information. Don't do DNA testing unless there is a dire need for it.

Go take a Xanax and stop being so bossy and paranoid.

PP you replied to. Are you affiliated with one of these companies? Because like many activities today, DNA testing is not regulated correctly and there are serious confidentiality issues with is. I'm a geneticist, and I KNOW.

OP here. There are huge privacy and security issues that really haven’t played out. Private commercial companies don’t have regulations like the government. They’re out to make money, not to protect any interests in the people submitting their DNA.