Think my wife is cheating with a woman?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Congratulations. This is better than winning the lottery

You missed the part about the wife's friend not being attractive.

But in general I would be totally fine with this set-up. My wife has a girlfriend, they spend time together, she gets her emotional needs met by a woman, they chat and commiserate together, and I get the occasional threesome. A man can dream.

“To dream, the impossible dream ... “

A tip for you dreamers - be sure to take Viagra so your dream can last more than one brief moment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Me again— could a woman just all of a sudden be into other women?

No.

Actually, yes, I have seen this happen, particularly if the woman in question has been a "rule follower" most of her life and feels the need to explore.

Listen to your gut OP. They may just be friends, but your intuition is warning you your wife may be tempted.

Yes ! This was my exDW. Claims to have been completely into guys before she became friends with lesbian work colleague. They were having an affair within 8 months of meeting. We had been married 11 years with 2 kids. I have since discovered Women becoming lesbians once they have kids is very common.

Is the amount of contact consistent with being just a friend ? My ex was a lying pos so I would say trust but verify.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Congratulations. This is better than winning the lottery

You missed the part about the wife's friend not being attractive.

But in general I would be totally fine with this set-up. My wife has a girlfriend, they spend time together, she gets her emotional needs met by a woman, they chat and commiserate together, and I get the occasional threesome. A man can dream.

“To dream, the impossible dream ... “

A tip for you dreamers - be sure to take Viagra so your dream can last more than one brief moment.

There’s a DCUM harpie - straight to the personal attack.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Congratulations. This is better than winning the lottery

You missed the part about the wife's friend not being attractive.

But in general I would be totally fine with this set-up. My wife has a girlfriend, they spend time together, she gets her emotional needs met by a woman, they chat and commiserate together, and I get the occasional threesome. A man can dream.

“To dream, the impossible dream ... “

A tip for you dreamers - be sure to take Viagra so your dream can last more than one brief moment.

LOL! This is so true! My 48 year old husband is wonderful in bed but he is one and done until the following morning.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Congratulations. This is better than winning the lottery

You missed the part about the wife's friend not being attractive.

But in general I would be totally fine with this set-up. My wife has a girlfriend, they spend time together, she gets her emotional needs met by a woman, they chat and commiserate together, and I get the occasional threesome. A man can dream.

“To dream, the impossible dream ... “

A tip for you dreamers - be sure to take Viagra so your dream can last more than one brief moment.

LOL! This is so true! My 48 year old husband is wonderful in bed but he is one and done until the following morning.

My 52 year old husband does not have ED but he takes Viagra because it restored his natural size and he lasts longer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Me again— could a woman just all of a sudden be into other women?

No.

Actually, yes, I have seen this happen, particularly if the woman in question has been a "rule follower" most of her life and feels the need to explore.

Listen to your gut OP. They may just be friends, but your intuition is warning you your wife may be tempted.

Yes ! This was my exDW. Claims to have been completely into guys before she became friends with lesbian work colleague. They were having an affair within 8 months of meeting. We had been married 11 years with 2 kids. I have since discovered Women becoming lesbians once they have kids is very common.

Is the amount of contact consistent with being just a friend ? My ex was a lying pos so I would say trust but verify.

Often because they are very disappointed with men, and resentful. Likely went back to their childhood imo. While married they start experimenting and seeking out similar women. People are people and if life isn't perfect they'll think nothing of destroying their families over strangers. Doesn't matter what their sexual preference is. Flawed is flawed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Congratulations. This is better than winning the lottery

You missed the part about the wife's friend not being attractive.

But in general I would be totally fine with this set-up. My wife has a girlfriend, they spend time together, she gets her emotional needs met by a woman, they chat and commiserate together, and I get the occasional threesome. A man can dream.

“To dream, the impossible dream ... “

A tip for you dreamers - be sure to take Viagra so your dream can last more than one brief moment.

My tongue is pretty reliable.

[Anonymous]

This has given me a lot to think about... I think trust but verify (who said that—thanks) is appealing, but this nagging feeling...

As for a threesome, no. I don’t think I could watch her with another person even a girl . I would be pissed.

So if the women on here, you think you’d text all the time with a new lesbian friend? And I mean as soon as we get the kids to bed and until after I’ve fallen asleep and in the morning pretty much when I leave. It just feels like a lot. I guess I should ask to see her phone. But I don’t want to be an asshole.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Congratulations. This is better than winning the lottery

You missed the part about the wife's friend not being attractive.

But in general I would be totally fine with this set-up. My wife has a girlfriend, they spend time together, she gets her emotional needs met by a woman, they chat and commiserate together, and I get the occasional threesome. A man can dream.

“To dream, the impossible dream ... “

A tip for you dreamers - be sure to take Viagra so your dream can last more than one brief moment.

LOL! This is so true! My 48 year old husband is wonderful in bed but he is one and done until the following morning.

My 52 year old husband does not have ED but he takes Viagra because it restored his natural size and he lasts longer.

I’m not sure I’d want my husband to have the size and stamina of his youth. I’m 56 and it’s just not as easy as it once was and I’m very happy with what he has.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This has given me a lot to think about... I think trust but verify (who said that—thanks) is appealing, but this nagging feeling...

As for a threesome, no. I don’t think I could watch her with another person even a girl . I would be pissed.

So if the women on here, you think you’d text all the time with a new lesbian friend? And I mean as soon as we get the kids to bed and until after I’ve fallen asleep and in the morning pretty much when I leave. It just feels like a lot. I guess I should ask to see her phone. But I don’t want to be an asshole.

First see how how she reacts when you ask her to stop the texting after you both get home. Nicely explain how it's cutting into your time together. It's obviously invasive, would be for anyone.

If she gives you a hard time then yes you have a problem. Not sure I would "ask" to see her phone. Can you get into it for a quick look if she sets it down?

[Anonymous]

OP: does DW's breath smell like she has been eating tuna fish sandwiches?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This has given me a lot to think about... I think trust but verify (who said that—thanks) is appealing, but this nagging feeling...

As for a threesome, no. I don’t think I could watch her with another person even a girl . I would be pissed.

So if the women on here, you think you’d text all the time with a new lesbian friend? And I mean as soon as we get the kids to bed and until after I’ve fallen asleep and in the morning pretty much when I leave. It just feels like a lot. I guess I should ask to see her phone. But I don’t want to be an asshole.

If the new friend was a man, this would be an emotional affair. I think you could have that on your hands here.

I would call myself heterosexual, but I can also see being attracted to a woman. I don't think it's outside the realm of possibility.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Me again— could a woman just all of a sudden be into other women?

No.

Actually, yes, I have seen this happen, particularly if the woman in question has been a "rule follower" most of her life and feels the need to explore.

Listen to your gut OP. They may just be friends, but your intuition is warning you your wife may be tempted.

Uh, she was homosexual from the get go but dated/married a man because that was the standard norm for "good girls". It's the same thing as a married (to a woman) man who "suddenly" starts to have gay sex.

Heterosexual adults do not suddenly become homosexual and vice versa.

Yeah well I’m bisexual but have never had a real relationship with a woman so

You are bisexual. That is not the same thing as a heterosexual person suddenly becoming homosexual or bisexual.

[Anonymous]

Is the ‘friend’ currently in a good LTR? Does she have kids ? Maybe she wants your kids.

[Anonymous]

The girl has a girlfriend but no kids... I doubt it’s about my kids. Right?