How do you handle your kids being around unvaccinated children?

[Anonymous]

I would avoid situations where my fully vaccinated 4 year old would be around unvaccinated kids because I'm pregnant, thus immunosuppressed, and don't want even a minimal risk picking up a teratogenic disease. It's not worth the stress given recent outbreaks.

I am fully vaccinated and have received all the appropriate vaccines that were available/recommended at various points of my life (born early 1980s). I also work in direct patient care and am sure I come into contact with (and am probably colonized with) all sorts of unrecognized microbes. That said, I know from personal experience that it's possible to once be immune then become non-immune to certain diseases despite previous exposure/illness, vaccination, or immune titers.

For example, I needed a MMR booster upon discharge from the hospital when my first child was born because my previously "immune" titer from pre-patient care job came back "non-immune" during my first trimester. Likewise, I had shingles in my 20s after having 2 moderate cases of chickenpox as a child. YMMV.

[Anonymous]

I can’t be around people who are anti science. My friend blew up at me bc I dared to challenge her for n her anti fluoridated water and anti antibiotic stance. * I am an effin scientist!!**

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I loathe people who are bullies and take and all or nothing approach as their methods are always right - you have to breast feed, you have to vaccinate (regardless of the child's needs), you have to redshirt your kid, .....

Those things aren't the same, but you know that. Or you don't and you really are as dumb as you sound.

[Anonymous]

Related: https://www.nytimes.com/2019/05/02/us/measles-babies-vaccine.html

[Anonymous]

Here’s one for you.
-my oldest dd played with a group of friends from age 1+
-when dd was 3.5 I had baby 2. Vaccinated but obviously over the first year didn’t have everything
-when dd was 4, mom in the group says “yeah Larla is grumpy today. We had to go twice to the doctor recently to catch her up on shots. Wasn’t a fun experience for her. But you know, the school wanted her shots done. And she hasn’t had any so we have a lot of catching up to do.”

Stunned.
I had never asked “hey, do you have a gun in your house?” Because I find it embarrassing. It’s hard for me to do. But at least I know I should ask. *it never occurred to me that these parents did not care to vaccinate their child* and that they played all the time with my kids. And they also had a younger baby.

Good for the schools who require it!!!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I loathe people who are bullies and take and all or nothing approach as their methods are always right - you have to breast feed, you have to vaccinate (regardless of the child's needs), you have to redshirt your kid, .....

So you're saying formula feeding and choosing to redshirt is the same as not vaccinating? That these things can lead to severe illness or even death from preventable diseases? Hahahaha no.

[Anonymous]

OP - Why don't you just take your kid in and get the second MMR shot? This doesn't have to be so hard or something to freak out about. If your child couldn't get the vaccine (or was an infant) that would be different. But, this isn't a big deal for you under the circumstances.

[Anonymous]

If I had an under year old baby, I would avoid. My kid is DER, so I wod just shrug and go along.

I do know a few anti vaxxers, and as long as we don't talk about it, we get along. Generally, they are not bad people, just people who have been persuaded by bad ideas.

While I am firmly pro vax, I don't have to make all the same choices as my friends, even if I think they're really bad ones. They don't preach to me and we all good.

[Anonymous]

Meh, I have enough to worry about and other people's parenting choices are reallllly low on the list. I just don't engage on the topic and let the kids be kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well...if your kid is vaccinated, then you have nothing to be concerned about. It’s not like being unvaccinated is catching or anything.

+1. Of your kid is fully vaccinated, then he/she doesn’t have an issue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well...if your kid is vaccinated, then you have nothing to be concerned about. It’s not like being unvaccinated is catching or anything.

The diseases that unvaccinated people can carry are “catching” even to some people who have been vaccinated. Jeezus, people who don’t vaccinate (by choice) are so painfully dumb when it comes to actually understanding the science behind how vaccines work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If I knew the people weren't vaccinated, I'd probably find ways to never be around them. If I didn't know, and then found out, I'd be PISSED.

+1

Plus 2

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm aware it can't always be helped. If, however, I am aware, I don't allow it. I just ghosted an old coworker I was looking forward to seeing (she quit to SAH) in the middle of scheduling a playdate for our toddlers because she added me on FB and I saw all the antivaxx garbage she was posting. a) I also have a 6 month old who hasn't had all their shots yet, and b) I generally just do not care to associate with people who embrace that ignorant ideology. I am not going to be hostile but I will avoid you like the plague.

Lol. Literally. Or “like the measles.”

[Anonymous]

I would also out the anti vaxxer to everyone I know.

[Anonymous]

If I knew people didn’t vaccinate, I would not associate with them ever.