Happily married with a crush on neighbor

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is why from behind is best...we can all picture our fantasies a little bit better!

Men and women feel the same way about from behind!

That is just fine.

[Anonymous]

It is nice when someone notices you, especially if your spouse doesn’t really anymore.

[Anonymous]

Been there, from two different vantage points. First was when a friend of ours became attracted to my husband. I could tell from her body language, and then she started subtle-y trying to be alone with him.

Second was when I became attracted to a neighbor.

in the first case, i cut that person out of our life and still don't trust her. She has no access to our family anymore.

in the second case, I became boggled by the crush, never flirted in front of the wife or even looked at him, but enjoyed our time alone together. but felt super guilty and let lots of time go by without seeing him and the crush faded.

It must be so, so, so common.

[Anonymous]

You all seriously have the time for this kind of melodrama?

99 times out of 100 I find myself feeling grateful that I've got the life that I've got.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband is a halfway public figure. The younger woman never reveal a crush... but older ladies sometimes tell him how cute he is! It’s very awkward.

He is so grossed out by the idea of someone who barely knows him crushing on him. It’s flattering and funny. But, yeah, they don’t know him really. And it doesn’t feel nice to be superficially attractive to others. You don’t really know the neighbor. I’m sure he does gross stuff and/or has super annoying habits. Just recognize that and keep distance

Lol, you wish! Of course he enjoys being “superficially” attractive to other women. I seriously doubt he is grossed out by this. Doesn’t mean he’ll act on it, but yeah, he enjoys that other women find him attractive. Sorry.

+1000

Being outright called cute is awkward, though. There's a plus side if the complimenter is good looking, but it's still uncomfortable.

Suuuure......

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You all seriously have the time for this kind of melodrama?

99 times out of 100 I find myself feeling grateful that I've got the life that I've got.

Yes. I have time to think about my neighbor’s incredible body and how she goes out of her way to talk to me when I’m driving, doing dishes, etc

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You all seriously have the time for this kind of melodrama?

99 times out of 100 I find myself feeling grateful that I've got the life that I've got.

I guess that we’re not all as perfect and enlightened as you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You all seriously have the time for this kind of melodrama?

99 times out of 100 I find myself feeling grateful that I've got the life that I've got.

I guess that we’re not all as perfect and enlightened as you.

I guess I sowed enough wild oats before I got married to know that my own grass is pretty green.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You all seriously have the time for this kind of melodrama?

99 times out of 100 I find myself feeling grateful that I've got the life that I've got.

I guess that we’re not all as perfect and enlightened as you.

+1,000.
No melodrama, and if course I appreciate what I've got. But when somebody find me attractive and interesting ... It is easy to get carried away.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You all seriously have the time for this kind of melodrama?

99 times out of 100 I find myself feeling grateful that I've got the life that I've got.

I guess that we’re not all as perfect and enlightened as you.

I guess I sowed enough wild oats before I got married to know that my own grass is pretty green.

Like that time at band camp when you got tipsy on wine coolers and went to first base with the trombonist?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You all seriously have the time for this kind of melodrama?

99 times out of 100 I find myself feeling grateful that I've got the life that I've got.

I guess that we’re not all as perfect and enlightened as you.

I guess I sowed enough wild oats before I got married to know that my own grass is pretty green.

Like that time at band camp when you got tipsy on wine coolers and went to first base with the trombonist?

Like between the ages of 18-25. Then I met dh.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You all seriously have the time for this kind of melodrama?

99 times out of 100 I find myself feeling grateful that I've got the life that I've got.

I guess that we’re not all as perfect and enlightened as you.

+1,000.
No melodrama, and if course I appreciate what I've got. But when somebody find me attractive and interesting ... It is easy to get carried away.

I'm saving myself for Aquaman. He comes my way and all bets are off .

[Anonymous]

I could have written your post word for word, OP! We even both have boys who play together. I’m pretty sure there is a mutual attraction, so I’m just careful not to be alone with him and definitely don’t text etc. One time at a party we had both had a few drinks and there was a bit of mutual arm touching between us and it was a wake up call that I need to be careful and distance myself a bit. We’ll go through times when we don’t see each other for weeks and I find that the crush fades a bit - out of sight, out of mind. I think we’re both happy with our spouses and lives and wouldn’t put anything at risk, but yeah - attraction is a crazy thing! Enjoy the sexual energy and take it home to your husband. Just be very very careful not to cross any lines.

[Anonymous]

meet him for drinks and fun up at anal point -

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I started crushing on one of my son’s friends moms this weekend. She hot, single and flirty. Nothing will come of it but it brightened up my day for sure.

Why? Because you think you’re going to stay away? What if she comes on to you?