Happily married with a crush on neighbor

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, of course throughout your life you will be attracted to others.

What is up with you that you don't know that? Did you marry your first love? Are you super young?

Relax, don't act on it.

FFS, is this really a question?

What a peach you are....

[Anonymous]

For ten years I've had a crush on a guy I do business with even though he's 20 years older than me. But over the ten years I've gotten married and had three kids so I found a way to deal with it. It's my secret thing and it would never go anywhere so I just live with it. If having a fantasy crush is the dumbest thing I ever do I'll be ok.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Man here, I have them all the time, sometimes just sexual, sometimes more. I can tell you that he almost for sure has the same for you, at least sexually.

You can easily enjoy it without it becoming more as long as you dont: 1) start texting with him, and/or 2) be alone with him with alcohol involved. I speak from experience when I tell you it can get really messy in first a good then a really bad way if you let it progress to either of these.

Enjoy

We picture most attractive women we encounter naked anyway, so an attractive woman who pays attention to us as well? Yup.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband is a halfway public figure. The younger woman never reveal a crush... but older ladies sometimes tell him how cute he is! It’s very awkward.

He is so grossed out by the idea of someone who barely knows him crushing on him. It’s flattering and funny. But, yeah, they don’t know him really. And it doesn’t feel nice to be superficially attractive to others. You don’t really know the neighbor. I’m sure he does gross stuff and/or has super annoying habits. Just recognize that and keep distance

Lol, you wish! Of course he enjoys being “superficially” attractive to other women. I seriously doubt he is grossed out by this. Doesn’t mean he’ll act on it, but yeah, he enjoys that other women find him attractive. Sorry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband is a halfway public figure. The younger woman never reveal a crush... but older ladies sometimes tell him how cute he is! It’s very awkward.

He is so grossed out by the idea of someone who barely knows him crushing on him. It’s flattering and funny. But, yeah, they don’t know him really. And it doesn’t feel nice to be superficially attractive to others. You don’t really know the neighbor. I’m sure he does gross stuff and/or has super annoying habits. Just recognize that and keep distance

Lol, you wish! Of course he enjoys being “superficially” attractive to other women. I seriously doubt he is grossed out by this. Doesn’t mean he’ll act on it, but yeah, he enjoys that other women find him attractive. Sorry.

+1000

Being outright called cute is awkward, though. There's a plus side if the complimenter is good looking, but it's still uncomfortable.

[Anonymous]

I started crushing on one of my son’s friends moms this weekend. She hot, single and flirty. Nothing will come of it but it brightened up my day for sure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I get skeptical when I read "(I would never act on it)" because it strikes me as disingenuous. You are THRILLED by the feelings you have ... yet you think you won't act on it (even in a small way?).

OP here- This is totally fair. I guess I want to believe I would never act on it by being sexual in some way with him. But you are right- in small ways - I notice myself thinking about what I’m wearing more when I know I’ll see him, smiling more with him, offering to pick the kids up there when I think I may see him.... so yes, I have acted already. Thanks for pointing it out.

No problem. I've been there. And those are EXACTLY the little changes I was thinking about ... and they can slide you on forward where you don't think you'd ever go.

[Anonymous]

Man here and If he senses you’re interested, I guarantee he fantasizes. I heard one of my neighbors thought I was hot - she was about 100 pounds heavier than what I would normally prefer, but I still couldn’t stop thinking about doing naughty things with her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Man here and If he senses you’re interested, I guarantee he fantasizes. I heard one of my neighbors thought I was hot - she was about 100 pounds heavier than what I would normally prefer, but I still couldn’t stop thinking about doing naughty things with her.

OP here- that’s awesome! I sometimes am amazed at the
male mind around sexuality. I don’t know if he senses anything. I’m a friendly person in general so maybe not. I just feel a charge if that makes sense but I also feel kind of nervous around him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband is a halfway public figure. The younger woman never reveal a crush... but older ladies sometimes tell him how cute he is! It’s very awkward.

He is so grossed out by the idea of someone who barely knows him crushing on him. It’s flattering and funny. But, yeah, they don’t know him really. And it doesn’t feel nice to be superficially attractive to others. You don’t really know the neighbor. I’m sure he does gross stuff and/or has super annoying habits. Just recognize that and keep distance

Either he is odd or giving you the reaction you expect.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I get skeptical when I read "(I would never act on it)" because it strikes me as disingenuous. You are THRILLED by the feelings you have ... yet you think you won't act on it (even in a small way?).

This. Be careful. 10 years into a relationship is when things have become routine and the mind starts wandering.

[Anonymous]

OP, you having "a feeling" is unimportant

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Man here and If he senses you’re interested, I guarantee he fantasizes. I heard one of my neighbors thought I was hot - she was about 100 pounds heavier than what I would normally prefer, but I still couldn’t stop thinking about doing naughty things with her.

OP here- that’s awesome! I sometimes am amazed at the
male mind around sexuality. I don’t know if he senses anything. I’m a friendly person in general so maybe not. I just feel a charge if that makes sense but I also feel kind of nervous around him.

Nice that some women appreciate our outrageous horniness. -NP

[Anonymous]

This is why from behind is best...we can all picture our fantasies a little bit better!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is why from behind is best...we can all picture our fantasies a little bit better!

Men and women feel the same way about from behind!