For the men on here in relationships

[Anonymous]

Man here. I wouldn't put up with that shit for a minute. You trust me, or you don't. If you don't, talk to me about it but you don't get to track me, spy on me, read my private messages, or go through my phone.

That said, when a long-term girlfriend gave me every reason not to trust her, and lied about it every time I confronted her, I got the proof I needed by tracking her and snooping. Incredibly, she still doubled down on her lies and I ended it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Man here. I wouldn't put up with that shit for a minute. You trust me, or you don't. If you don't, talk to me about it but you don't get to track me, spy on me, read my private messages, or go through my phone.

That said, when a long-term girlfriend gave me every reason not to trust her, and lied about it every time I confronted her, I got the proof I needed by tracking her and snooping. Incredibly, she still doubled down on her lies and I ended it.

Interesting, you basically did the same thing to her that you wouldn’t put up with for a minute.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Man here. I wouldn't put up with that shit for a minute. You trust me, or you don't. If you don't, talk to me about it but you don't get to track me, spy on me, read my private messages, or go through my phone.

That said, when a long-term girlfriend gave me every reason not to trust her, and lied about it every time I confronted her, I got the proof I needed by tracking her and snooping. Incredibly, she still doubled down on her lies and I ended it.

You be crazy, bro.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Man here. I wouldn't put up with that shit for a minute. You trust me, or you don't. If you don't, talk to me about it but you don't get to track me, spy on me, read my private messages, or go through my phone.

That said, when a long-term girlfriend gave me every reason not to trust her, and lied about it every time I confronted her, I got the proof I needed by tracking her and snooping. Incredibly, she still doubled down on her lies and I ended it.

Interesting, you basically did the same thing to her that you wouldn’t put up with for a minute.

He talked to her about it. She kept lying. He caught her. She kept lying. He dumped her. Sounds like he did exactly the right thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Man here. I wouldn't put up with that shit for a minute. You trust me, or you don't. If you don't, talk to me about it but you don't get to track me, spy on me, read my private messages, or go through my phone.

That said, when a long-term girlfriend gave me every reason not to trust her, and lied about it every time I confronted her, I got the proof I needed by tracking her and snooping. Incredibly, she still doubled down on her lies and I ended it.

Interesting, you basically did the same thing to her that you wouldn’t put up with for a minute.

Yep. Because she gave me every reason not to trust her and I was right. I tried talking to her and giving her the chance to be honest with me, but she only told more lies on top of the other lies. So she lost her right to privacy. I wasn't going to accept her lies and she wasn't going to admit them so I got the proof I needed and came back at her with exactly what I knew. She still tried to lie and tell me my facts were wrong.

If I am ever that untruthful with a woman, then yes, I deserve for her to find the truth any way she chooses.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Man here. I wouldn't put up with that shit for a minute. You trust me, or you don't. If you don't, talk to me about it but you don't get to track me, spy on me, read my private messages, or go through my phone.

That said, when a long-term girlfriend gave me every reason not to trust her, and lied about it every time I confronted her, I got the proof I needed by tracking her and snooping. Incredibly, she still doubled down on her lies and I ended it.

Interesting, you basically did the same thing to her that you wouldn’t put up with for a minute.

He talked to her about it. She kept lying. He caught her. She kept lying. He dumped her. Sounds like he did exactly the right thing.

That is exactly how it went down.

[Anonymous]

So it’s okay when the instincts are right. Got it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So it’s okay when the instincts are right. Got it.

It's OK when you know you are being lied to. Not just an instinct, or a feeling, but when you know it. Then you are entitled to the truth. I'd rather hear the truth than have to uncover it myself but I'll do have to in that case.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So it’s okay when the instincts are right. Got it.

It's OK when you know you are being lied to. Not just an instinct, or a feeling, but when you know it. Then you are entitled to the truth. I'd rather hear the truth than have to uncover it myself but I'll do have to in that case.

You don’t know until you verify. If the truth is verified without snooping, there is no need for further verification. Unless you’re married and you need it for leverage in court around assets.

[Anonymous]

Psycho is as psycho does.

[Anonymous]

Yes, and if I found out I would consider divorce.

[Anonymous]

I think people who have that 360 app and track their partner are creepy. - signed a woman

[Anonymous]

Man here. I was lying to my wife and had a very close relationship to a few women in my office. Wife started questioning my whereabouts. She used my phone and found some things that weren’t good. She demanded to see my phone and emails. I said no, had everything deleted off my phone and then gave it to her. I don’t like anyone looking at my stuff. It’s private. None of her business.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think people who have that 360 app and track their partner are creepy. - signed a woman

We have it and it’s a real convenience. My DH as an almost one hour commute so it’s easy for me to see when he might be getting home. He doesn’t like to be texted or called when he’s driving. I have no reason to track him or be suspicious of anything - that would be creepy.

[Anonymous]

You MADE IT her business when you lied to her and cheated (at least emotionally) on her. You deserve everything she now gives you, hopefully including a divorce. She has every right to know what’s going on in her own marriage.