For the men on here in relationships

[Anonymous]

This would be completely unacceptable. It is not “casual”, it is invasive and distrustful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You must have done something at some point to raise suspicion. Be honest.
Did you ever cheat? Even back when you were dating? Even on another GF?
Have you recently friended an old GF on social media and you’re interacting a lot with her?
Are you paying a lot of attention to a new young hire at work while your wife is at home with young kids? Going on regular lunches with a female colleague or old friend at work? Getting home late from work a lot?

You can argue about the rationalization for a wife doing covert investigative work til you're blue in the face but that doesn't have anything to do with the question. The question was would it bother the men on here in relationships and the consensus is pretty much yes. Save the "But...but...but..." excuses they don't change anything.

[Anonymous]

Yes, it would bug me because she would find out about my AP...

[Anonymous]

Agree with the other people on here thatbif you have done something to cause her to snoop then it’s different. I was checking his phone last year because of a friendship with one of his colleagues in which they were texting all the time, late in the evenings and on weekends. They also spend a lot of time together at work. I had confronted him and he was in complete denial that it was anything inappropriate. She’s also his subordinate, which made it even more inappropriate. Because of his not understanding my point of view I had to make sure he wasn’t continuing the contact.
So yes if you’re doing something that makes her suspicious and you don’t see what’s wrong, then she might be snooping.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Agree with the other people on here thatbif you have done something to cause her to snoop then it’s different. I was checking his phone last year because of a friendship with one of his colleagues in which they were texting all the time, late in the evenings and on weekends. They also spend a lot of time together at work. I had confronted him and he was in complete denial that it was anything inappropriate. She’s also his subordinate, which made it even more inappropriate. Because of his not understanding my point of view I had to make sure he wasn’t continuing the contact.
So yes if you’re doing something that makes her suspicious and you don’t see what’s wrong, then she might be snooping.

Wow. You've completely rationalized your total lack of respect for his privacy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You must have done something at some point to raise suspicion. Be honest.
Did you ever cheat? Even back when you were dating? Even on another GF?
Have you recently friended an old GF on social media and you’re interacting a lot with her?
Are you paying a lot of attention to a new young hire at work while your wife is at home with young kids? Going on regular lunches with a female colleague or old friend at work? Getting home late from work a lot?

Nope, nope, nope. It is the opposite. She is suspicious and paranoid because she is cheating.

When someone is suddenly pointing the finger at you, getting jealous over things that didn’t used to bother them, and acting suspicious of your behavior, then he or she may be trying to distract you from their own shortcomings. By focusing all their energy on your perceived failings there will be less time for you to focus on what they’re doing. If you notice a change in your relationship’s level of trust, don’t take on the guilt — it may be a clever way that your partner is shielding himself or herself from getting caught.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Agree with the other people on here thatbif you have done something to cause her to snoop then it’s different. I was checking his phone last year because of a friendship with one of his colleagues in which they were texting all the time, late in the evenings and on weekends. They also spend a lot of time together at work. I had confronted him and he was in complete denial that it was anything inappropriate. She’s also his subordinate, which made it even more inappropriate. Because of his not understanding my point of view I had to make sure he wasn’t continuing the contact.
So yes if you’re doing something that makes her suspicious and you don’t see what’s wrong, then she might be snooping.

And here's another one who can't read. The question was posed to the men and the question was, "Would it bother you" and the consensus from the men is yes. If you feel the need to explain your actions and defend yourself then tell it to your husband cause I'm betting your "checking up" bothered him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Agree with the other people on here thatbif you have done something to cause her to snoop then it’s different. I was checking his phone last year because of a friendship with one of his colleagues in which they were texting all the time, late in the evenings and on weekends. They also spend a lot of time together at work. I had confronted him and he was in complete denial that it was anything inappropriate. She’s also his subordinate, which made it even more inappropriate. Because of his not understanding my point of view I had to make sure he wasn’t continuing the contact.
So yes if you’re doing something that makes her suspicious and you don’t see what’s wrong, then she might be snooping.

And here's another one who can't read. The question was posed to the men and the question was, "Would it bother you" and the consensus from the men is yes. If you feel the need to explain your actions and defend yourself then tell it to your husband cause I'm betting your "checking up" bothered him.

+1

And to you, snooping PP, you didn’t “have to” do anything than believe your spouse, or not. If you didn’t believe him (which you didn’t, as you snooped on him), you then had the choice to continue in the relationship or not. He was not beholden at any time to “see your point of view”, and his disagreement with it did not allow yiu to snoop.

[Anonymous]

No one likes an invasion of privacy. Except people that own Alexa.

[Anonymous]

Different people have differences in borders. My husband and I always know where we are. We are para-normal. He is vacuuming our flat right now. I told him to. ENOUGH.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Different people have differences in borders. My husband and I always know where we are. We are para-normal. He is vacuuming our flat right now. I told him to. ENOUGH.

Alexa... is that you?

[Anonymous]

If you're not having sex, whether that's because of him or because of her, she probably wants to know if he is having sex with someone else.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You must have done something at some point to raise suspicion. Be honest.
Did you ever cheat? Even back when you were dating? Even on another GF?
Have you recently friended an old GF on social media and you’re interacting a lot with her?
Are you paying a lot of attention to a new young hire at work while your wife is at home with young kids? Going on regular lunches with a female colleague or old friend at work? Getting home late from work a lot?

You can argue about the rationalization for a wife doing covert investigative work til you're blue in the face but that doesn't have anything to do with the question. The question was would it bother the men on here in relationships and the consensus is pretty much yes. Save the "But...but...but..." excuses they don't change anything.

Well, it would bother me less if there was a reason for it. Introspection is warranted here.
Crowdsourcing? Not so much.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You must have done something at some point to raise suspicion. Be honest.
Did you ever cheat? Even back when you were dating? Even on another GF?
Have you recently friended an old GF on social media and you’re interacting a lot with her?
Are you paying a lot of attention to a new young hire at work while your wife is at home with young kids? Going on regular lunches with a female colleague or old friend at work? Getting home late from work a lot?

Nope, nope, nope. It is the opposite. She is suspicious and paranoid because she is cheating.

When someone is suddenly pointing the finger at you, getting jealous over things that didn’t used to bother them, and acting suspicious of your behavior, then he or she may be trying to distract you from their own shortcomings. By focusing all their energy on your perceived failings there will be less time for you to focus on what they’re doing. If you notice a change in your relationship’s level of trust, don’t take on the guilt — it may be a clever way that your partner is shielding himself or herself from getting caught.

Smoke less weed please.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You must have done something at some point to raise suspicion. Be honest.
Did you ever cheat? Even back when you were dating? Even on another GF?
Have you recently friended an old GF on social media and you’re interacting a lot with her?
Are you paying a lot of attention to a new young hire at work while your wife is at home with young kids? Going on regular lunches with a female colleague or old friend at work? Getting home late from work a lot?

You can argue about the rationalization for a wife doing covert investigative work til you're blue in the face but that doesn't have anything to do with the question. The question was would it bother the men on here in relationships and the consensus is pretty much yes. Save the "But...but...but..." excuses they don't change anything.

Well, it would bother me less if there was a reason for it. Introspection is warranted here.
Crowdsourcing? Not so much.

Call it whatever you want but the consensus from the men on here in relationships is, "Yes", it'd bother them.