How to handle wife getting hit-on in front of you

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What the fresh hell is this thread?

+100
I didn't even get it. I mean, what?

+ 1,000,000

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: what the hell did I just read

performance art

[Anonymous]

You sound insecure. Does the age difference bother you? Do you look old?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here....

I hope you people are trolls.

do you people really think it is OK for someone at a store to use an OS update as a pretext to type a message that says "if you're unhappy with him I can make you happy?"


And yes, I controlled myself because I did not raise my voice, I did not say anything rude and I did not act like a lunatic. I acted like someone who expected to be treated with respect.

I thought you didn’t find any messages on the phone?

she told me what the message said

Your behavior sounds like it was terrifying to her. Telling you about a message so you’d direct your anger at that guy was safer than trying to convince you he didn’t message her and risking you beating the crap out of her because you think she’s lying.

[Anonymous]

Woman here. Your wife sounds like a majorly spoiled brat. What a stupid waste of energy reading this.

[Anonymous]

What's your wife number? I'd like to text her later tonight.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wife cracked the screen on her phone and became very angry about it. We have damage insurance through our cell carrier so we went to the phone store to get the phone fixed.
Because wife was upset she was refusing to participate in the conversation I was having with the guy at the cell store about getting her phone fixed.
The guy looked up our family plan check our damage insurance spoke with me about calling the repair shop. After I called and set up a repair appointment the guy said that the phone needed to have the OS updated. I asked my wife is she wanted the OS updated and she walked over and handed the guy her phone. He stood next to her and started doing stuff on the phone. I watched for a minute and then I turned to look at one of the displays. As I turned back around I saw the last part of some interaction between him and my wife. She was smiling and slightly blushing. I didn't think much because right at that moment he said "all done!" It felt like a very quick OS updated because it was only a minute or two but I was preoccupied thinking about the repair appointment we just made. As we walked out of the store she told me that he had opened some text program on her phone and started typing some messages to her and didn't not update her OS.

I turned around and walked up to the guy and asked if he had updated her OS or whether he was typing her messages behind my back. He kind of smiled and said "you won't find any messages from me." I asked for the manager. The manager was standing right there and I'm sure she overheard the interaction but instead of handling the situation immediately when I directly addressed her she made me wait for about 5 minutes while she typed on the stores ipad. I told the manager about the situation and asked if what the policy was when employees use their position and personally identifiable information obtained from their job to make advances towards women. I asked her if she, as a woman, would feel comfortable and safe if someone used her service plan to try and pick her up especially right in front of her husband. She wouldn't give a direct answer and said the situation would be addressed IF it was true.

I got all the employees business cards but I don't know how to handle the situation. I really controlled myself while I was there. I'm feeling humiliated and disrespected. This guy was late teens or early twenties.

I'm sure my wife's behavior gave this guy the impression he had an opening but her stepped out of bounds especially because he did this while at work and used his job duties as a pretext.

I'm upset with her about this but I'm more angry with him. She was being bratty but didn't intend for this to happen. He, on the other hand, knew what he was doing.

Do you think the company will do anything if I write a letter to them?

(a letter is the only recourse because men are no longer allowed to fight...)

Your wife is unhappy with you because you are a dick. You're one of those super insecure guys who walks around acting macho and pretending like you'd kick everyone's ass but would back down the second it escalated to actual blows. Keep it up, and one day she will take up another man's offer.

A secure man doesn't care if men hit on their wife because he treats his wife well and knows she's not going to leave. If I was hit on in front of my DH, he'd probably slap my butt, tell the guy he has good taste, then tease me mercilessly on the way home about getting hit on by a teenager.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Omg - what does “my wife’s behavior made him think he had an opening” mean?
You are a psycho!!!

What it means is she was frowning and was visibly angry and was refusing to talk to me. She broke her phone and she went crazy demanding that I get it fixed for her. I was not the one acting psycho. I figured the guy saw she was angry and figured that was his opening.

You both sound immature

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Omg - what does “my wife’s behavior made him think he had an opening” mean?
You are a psycho!!!

What it means is she was frowning and was visibly angry and was refusing to talk to me. She broke her phone and she went crazy demanding that I get it fixed for her. I was not the one acting psycho. I figured the guy saw she was angry and figured that was his opening.

I don't buy this. I have a ridiculously hot sister who behaves like this at cell phone stores, and never has it resulted in a guy hitting on her. Usually they find an excuse to stop helping her, or flat out tell to leave.

[Anonymous]

It sounds like you’re crazy and the guy was trying to see if she needed actual help. He was probably gay too. You’re a freak

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you feel humiliated because you put yourself in a position to be humiliated. Why engage with the store employees about this at all? You're acting like a teenager. Stop.

OP here... yes, this but there is more to it. I was totally polite to the people at the store before he did that. I introduced myself, said please, shook his hand and said thank you at the end. Then after leaving the store I find out I essentially said thank you to a guy after he hit on my wife. That is humiliating.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you feel humiliated because you put yourself in a position to be humiliated. Why engage with the store employees about this at all? You're acting like a teenager. Stop.

OP here... yes, this but there is more to it. I was totally polite to the people at the store before he did that. I introduced myself, said please, shook his hand and said thank you at the end. Then after leaving the store I find out I essentially said thank you to a guy after he hit on my wife. That is humiliating.

So you decided to leave the rest of your dignity there as well?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you feel humiliated because you put yourself in a position to be humiliated. Why engage with the store employees about this at all? You're acting like a teenager. Stop.

OP here... yes, this but there is more to it. I was totally polite to the people at the store before he did that. I introduced myself, said please, shook his hand and said thank you at the end. Then after leaving the store I find out I essentially said thank you to a guy after he hit on my wife. That is humiliating.

So you went back?

[Anonymous]

I fail to see how someone hitting on your wife is so humiliating. This isn’t at all about the store employees, but about the weird, unhealthy dynamic with your wife.

You both sound pretty immature.

[Anonymous]

OP, tbh you sound a little scary. You describe your wife as being an angry nutcase who seeks sexual attention in random places right in front of you. Based on other things you have said here, I find this description of your wife unlikely. I think it's more likely that you're abusive- controlling, demeaning, possessive, and angry. Your wife doesn't belong to you. Nothing you described should have made you feel "humiliated". Possibly a little miffed, but nothing more. There is something wrong with your thought process and your insane beliefs. Seek help, before you end up in prison for the things that men like you do to women.