How to handle wife getting hit-on in front of you

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Omg - what does “my wife’s behavior made him think he had an opening” mean?
You are a psycho!!!

What it means is she was frowning and was visibly angry and was refusing to talk to me. She broke her phone and she went crazy demanding that I get it fixed for her. I was not the one acting psycho. I figured the guy saw she was angry and figured that was his opening.

Because that is usually what guys do who are young, at their job, in front of their supervisor, and in front of some woman's husband.

Yep.

It's such a cliché.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Honestly? This reads like some weird cuckold fetish story-thing.

If someone is hitting on your wife in front of you, you raise an eyebrow, give a slight smile, and either lean back to watch what she does (if she likes to take care of herself) or (if she is giving signals she is okay, and you are exasperated) turn around and occupy yourself with something else.

If she is intimidated or flustered, you back her in any way she wants. You don't take over unless she asks you too. Presumably she is not a toddler.

OP: this is the self-assured man answer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here....

I hope you people are trolls.

do you people really think it is OK for someone at a store to use an OS update as a pretext to type a message that says "if you're unhappy with him I can make you happy?"


And yes, I controlled myself because I did not raise my voice, I did not say anything rude and I did not act like a lunatic. I acted like someone who expected to be treated with respect.

I thought you didn’t find any messages on the phone?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here....

I hope you people are trolls.

do you people really think it is OK for someone at a store to use an OS update as a pretext to type a message that says "if you're unhappy with him I can make you happy?"


And yes, I controlled myself because I did not raise my voice, I did not say anything rude and I did not act like a lunatic. I acted like someone who expected to be treated with respect.

I thought you didn’t find any messages on the phone?

she told me what the message said

[Anonymous]

OP, you feel humiliated because you put yourself in a position to be humiliated. Why engage with the store employees about this at all? You're acting like a teenager. Stop.

[Anonymous]

Uhm, crazy. Really?

[Anonymous]

So they want each other. Is that really a big deal? Let her have some fun!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here....

I hope you people are trolls.

do you people really think it is OK for someone at a store to use an OS update as a pretext to type a message that says "if you're unhappy with him I can make you happy?"


And yes, I controlled myself because I did not raise my voice, I did not say anything rude and I did not act like a lunatic. I acted like someone who expected to be treated with respect.

I thought you didn’t find any messages on the phone?

she told me what the message said

Your behavior sounds like it was terrifying to her. Telling you about a message so you’d direct your anger at that guy was safer than trying to convince you he didn’t message her and risking you beating the crap out of her because you think she’s lying.

[Anonymous]

Is your wife upset, or just you?

If it didn't upset your wife, or she didn't ask you to set things right then let it go.

Are you feeling insecure? Other issues?

[Anonymous]

What the fresh hell is this thread?

[Anonymous]

Op, ignore the haters

Of course that guy was way out of line

I would have done worse than you

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What the fresh hell is this thread?

+100
I didn't even get it. I mean, what?

[Anonymous]

She isn't your property. IF she was offended by his behavior is is her place to do something about it, not yours. If she wasn't, then your issue is with her, not the store.

But, yes, you sound nuts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You sound like a controlling weirdo.

+1

[Anonymous]

what the hell did I just read