Neighbor offered her nanny to me in a way I don't want (bus stop "supervision")

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is your son walking to/from the bus stop with the nanny? Like he sees her on the way with her charges and he joins them? Is he waiting until they are walking past to leave your house?

If so, she might feel obligated to watch him, too, and doesn't feel right providing a service to you for free that she charges her employer money for.

If your kid is walking to/from the bus stop by himself, then the nanny is being sort of pushy.

Next time I go to the mall, I'm just going to start walking alongside kids. Obviously, if something bad were about to happen to one of them, I would intervene; therefore, I'm going to demand payment from their parents based on where I'm walking.

Terrible analogy

Seems spot on to me. DP.

[Anonymous]

If this is real it's ridiculous. Stand firm. It'll pass. Maybe when the weather is nice take baby and walk with kiddo to bus stop every few times to make sure things are good (I know you can see, but just as a demonstration).

[Anonymous]

Ignore them. You were clear. They were pushy and annoying.

[Anonymous]

I think everyone agrees the request was ridiculous. The issue here is explaining the change of attitude after your refusal. The nanny doesn’t want to deal with another squirrelly 7 year old and asked her kids to not engage with him because it had become more work for her (in her mind). Nobody is saying what she asked was right but some of us do realize it’s consistently more work and explaining why he is being left out now.

[Anonymous]

this story has to be fake

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your overthinking it.

If you ever need help they are offering the nanny at a low rate.

They are not asking for money for the bus stop.

I agree.

[Anonymous]

Ridiculous. Just ignore.

[Anonymous]

The nanny is there anyways. You don't pay anything

I bet the nanny was just trying to be nice since yall became friends. She probably mentioned something to her boss "Oh I offered to stand with Larlo too!", and she is the one who then decided to split a cost with you

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is your son walking to/from the bus stop with the nanny? Like he sees her on the way with her charges and he joins them? Is he waiting until they are walking past to leave your house?

If so, she might feel obligated to watch him, too, and doesn't feel right providing a service to you for free that she charges her employer money for.

If your kid is walking to/from the bus stop by himself, then the nanny is being sort of pushy.

Next time I go to the mall, I'm just going to start walking alongside kids. Obviously, if something bad were about to happen to one of them, I would intervene; therefore, I'm going to demand payment from their parents based on where I'm walking.

+1 nanny and employer are trying to hustle OP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You don't need to pay the nanny. Ridiculous.

This.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is the nanny providing bus stop supervision for your child? Is your child running around the trees in a way that could be dangerous and need adult supervision?

If yes - pay the nanny.

If no - ignore.

Incorrect.

[Anonymous]

OP - it sounds like after the first interaction, the nanny told her boss that you were willing to pay for her to watch her child. Just call the neighbor and tell her there was a misunderstanding - you thought the nanny was just offering to keep an eye on your kid, but you don't need paid supervision since you can see him out the window.

It's ridiculous that someone would expect to be paid for 10 minutes at a bus stop. Also please talk to your child and explain new rules for the bus stop - he is to stand and wait quietly, no more playing is allowed.

[Anonymous]

With all the things you see on the news, anything can happen even three houses away. Someone is asking you nicely if they can help and then insisting ... because they care that you don't do your job as a mom.

[Anonymous]

What’s the running around the trees? If they are doing a lot of running around at the bus stop maybe the kids do need supervision? I feel like the neighbor is being weird and rude but I also wonder if she’s trying to tell you she doesn’t think what you’re doing is safe.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP - it sounds like after the first interaction, the nanny told her boss that you were willing to pay for her to watch her child. Just call the neighbor and tell her there was a misunderstanding - you thought the nanny was just offering to keep an eye on your kid, but you don't need paid supervision since you can see him out the window.

It's ridiculous that someone would expect to be paid for 10 minutes at a bus stop. Also please talk to your child and explain new rules for the bus stop - he is to stand and wait quietly, no more playing is allowed.

What's wrong with running around the trees? OP can see her kid, so evidently she is fine with whatever he does at the bus stop. Personally, I think burning off some energy is great before school.