DW angry and stone-walling me after I stayed out until midnight.

[Anonymous]

You are lucky she didn't change the locks and put your crap outside.

[Anonymous]

You don’t sound ready to be a father.

[Anonymous]

She texted you at 7 and you didn’t “get” the text until 9?? Lol dude. As others above have said, you’re about to be a father. Be better.

[Anonymous]

OP, come back and respond to some of these criticisms. Or are you avoiding them, like you avoided your wife’s texts? Classic immature male behavior.

[Anonymous]

Lack of communication is what tanks most marriages and relationships, OP. You REALLY need to be more attentive to how you communicate.

Your wife’s reaction is over the top, but she’s 30 weeks. Not much you can do except apologize and make sure to stay in constant contact with her.

[Anonymous]

Classic troll. Post but then never come back. OP sucks

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Classic troll. Post but then never come back. OP sucks

More like classic loser who can’t bear the idea that he might not be perfect and hides from any critical feedback.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She texted you at 7 and you didn’t “get” the text until 9?? Lol dude. As others above have said, you’re about to be a father. Be better.

Yeah... your wife is 30 weeks pregnant and you're not paying closer attention to your phone OP??

I'm giving your wife a pass on her childish antics. She deserves this time to act out.

[Anonymous]

No, her behavior isn't helping reconnect, but you are the one who owes her a heartfelt "I really do get why you are upset" (or at least a "please help me understand what I did so we don't have this problem again").

This is NOT the time to point out what she could have done better - that can be part of a separate discussion. First things first, own that you clearly effed up and listen to her concerns. You don't say this specifically, but it sure sounds like she had no idea your visit with your buddies was going to be all night - that should be discussed ahead of time.

[Anonymous]

I always loathe the “she’s hormanal” thing. I didn’t “get hormonal” (although some women do.

This woman is already a 24/7 parent, and it’s time you step up too. She has to watch what she eats, what she drinks, what she does, go to doctors appointments, etc. She’s quietly doing kick counts, planning her hospital bag, and worrying about how she’s going to handle a newborn.

I’m guessing you kind of presented your outing like you were going to Jim Bobs for a quick visit, or a beer or two. That’s why she texted to see when you’d be home. Of course, you already knew you’d be out all evening. You want to play the “she won’t let me anymore” card, rather than “I won’t grow up” card.

Here’s the thing. Yes, you’re “allowed” to go out until midnight still. BUT - your communication about it needs to change, and your expectations about how and how often you do it has to change. Like it or not... you have a child, and you have a child NOW. What if your wife had gone into labor and you missed the text for two hours? I know you’re thinking it’s unlikely - but like it or not, it’s far off the realm. You need to step up your game in favor of your wife and family, starting now.

So, like I said, I wasn’t normal during pregnancy. I’m pretty easy going about nights out, etc. But, if you were vague on an outing, then failed to respond to texts, and CONTINUED to be vague, Especially when I was 30 weeks pregnant, id fail to be impressed too. You dropped a major ball.

I’m curious to know how many times this has happened in the past, or recently, or a whole bunch of other things.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I always loathe the “she’s hormanal” thing. I didn’t “get hormonal” (although some women do.

This woman is already a 24/7 parent, and it’s time you step up too. She has to watch what she eats, what she drinks, what she does, go to doctors appointments, etc. She’s quietly doing kick counts, planning her hospital bag, and worrying about how she’s going to handle a newborn.

I’m guessing you kind of presented your outing like you were going to Jim Bobs for a quick visit, or a beer or two. That’s why she texted to see when you’d be home. Of course, you already knew you’d be out all evening. You want to play the “she won’t let me anymore” card, rather than “I won’t grow up” card.

Here’s the thing. Yes, you’re “allowed” to go out until midnight still. BUT - your communication about it needs to change, and your expectations about how and how often you do it has to change. Like it or not... you have a child, and you have a child NOW. What if your wife had gone into labor and you missed the text for two hours? I know you’re thinking it’s unlikely - but like it or not, it’s far off the realm. You need to step up your game in favor of your wife and family, starting now.

So, like I said, I wasn’t normal during pregnancy. I’m pretty easy going about nights out, etc. But, if you were vague on an outing, then failed to respond to texts, and CONTINUED to be vague, Especially when I was 30 weeks pregnant, id fail to be impressed too. You dropped a major ball.

I’m curious to know how many times this has happened in the past, or recently, or a whole bunch of other things.

This. The reason she thought you might be home for dinner is because you did NOT make clear that you were planning to spend seven hours at your friend's house. Which is totally inconsiderate. And it took you two hours to get a text? Not cool. THEN you said you'd be home in a few hours, which actually was three hours. The "I love you" was just fuel to the flames, buddy. You were out drinking and having fun, while she's home alone and pregnant. And you can't even commit to being home by a certain time?

I have no issue with my husband going out with friends, etc. But it's common courtesy to tell the person you live with where you're going and when you plan to be back, and to let them know if there are any changes.

[Anonymous]

You messed up. Gravel and do something big for Valentine's day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You messed up. Gravel and do something big for Valentine's day.

Yeah, gravel seems kind of harsh, especially if she’s not sleeping well already.

[Anonymous]

MAGA troll

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I always loathe the “she’s hormanal” thing. I didn’t “get hormonal” (although some women do.

This woman is already a 24/7 parent, and it’s time you step up too. She has to watch what she eats, what she drinks, what she does, go to doctors appointments, etc. She’s quietly doing kick counts, planning her hospital bag, and worrying about how she’s going to handle a newborn.

I’m guessing you kind of presented your outing like you were going to Jim Bobs for a quick visit, or a beer or two. That’s why she texted to see when you’d be home. Of course, you already knew you’d be out all evening. You want to play the “she won’t let me anymore” card, rather than “I won’t grow up” card.

Here’s the thing. Yes, you’re “allowed” to go out until midnight still. BUT - your communication about it needs to change, and your expectations about how and how often you do it has to change. Like it or not... you have a child, and you have a child NOW. What if your wife had gone into labor and you missed the text for two hours? I know you’re thinking it’s unlikely - but like it or not, it’s far off the realm. You need to step up your game in favor of your wife and family, starting now.

So, like I said, I wasn’t normal during pregnancy. I’m pretty easy going about nights out, etc. But, if you were vague on an outing, then failed to respond to texts, and CONTINUED to be vague, Especially when I was 30 weeks pregnant, id fail to be impressed too. You dropped a major ball.

I’m curious to know how many times this has happened in the past, or recently, or a whole bunch of other things.

This. The reason she thought you might be home for dinner is because you did NOT make clear that you were planning to spend seven hours at your friend's house. Which is totally inconsiderate. And it took you two hours to get a text? Not cool. THEN you said you'd be home in a few hours, which actually was three hours. The "I love you" was just fuel to the flames, buddy. You were out drinking and having fun, while she's home alone and pregnant. And you can't even commit to being home by a certain time?

I have no issue with my husband going out with friends, etc. But it's common courtesy to tell the person you live with where you're going and when you plan to be back, and to let them know if there are any changes.

3 is a few. It’s hard to take people seriously when they act like it’s an outrage that someone said they’d be home in a few hours and didn’t get home for 3 hours.

Yes he should’ve been more explicit. Yes, he could’ve communicated better. But she’s no angel in this situation either. Couples shouldn’t spend every moment together at the exclusion of outside friendships. She’s hormonal and uncomfortable I’m sure, but she shouldn’t get away with overreacting and not communicating any more than he should.

And so what if he goes out drinking while she’s pregnant? Really? He can’t have fun while she’s pregnant? I’m sure she had input on that choice. If she wants to go out and have fun, the only thing stopping her is herself. You can’t say it’s okay to have friends but then try to make the other person feel guilty for spending time with them. What kind of adult can’t entertain herself alone for one night?