DW angry and stone-walling me after I stayed out until midnight.
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As the title says, DW is angry and not talking to me. I told her last night I would be going over to a friends house for a bonfire and beers and left around 5. At 7PM, she asked if I would be coming home for dinner at 8.
I didn't get her text until 9, when it was too late and just said I love her and would be home in a few hours. At 10:30, she calls me, angry, asking what i'm doing. I tell her I'm hanging out with some of my guy friends and she asks me if I'm going to be spending the night at my friends house. I came home around midnight and she had locked the door to the bedroom and is now not talking to me. She told me to go "hang out with my friends" since I can talk to them and not her. I understand she's angry, but the dramatics are so unnecessary. She's slamming doors, stone-walling me, refusing to talk. I feel like i'm being punished for hanging out with my friends. She's 30 weeks pregnant with our first child and has been extra hormonal lately. |
Anonymous
| Dude. You f-up. Live and learn. |
Anonymous
| You're being punished for not communicating. What did you discuss about dinner/your return time before you left? |
Anonymous
| Troll |
Anonymous
Ignore her. Don’t argue with crazy. She’ll get over it soon. And next time know that she wants to know specifics on how long you’ll be out. If that changes while you are out, you should let her know. |
Anonymous
| How often do you do this? If it's weekly, that's a problem. She is worried she'll be stuck at home with a screaming newborn while you're off having fun with her friends. |
Anonymous
| Yeah, I would have been pissed and worried if you hadn't answered my text and clearly you didn't set expectations of a return time before you left. Not cool. Not something you will want to pull once your child is here. This is the kind of things that breaks relationships once children come, when one person--often the dad--doesn't figure out that they cannot and should not come and go as they please anymore. This isn't about hormones, it's about being a team and a family. Wake up. |
Anonymous
| What would have happened if you had been clearer about your intentions: “I am going drinking with my friends; don’t wait up.” |
Anonymous
| Why didn’t she go with you? Why didn’t you clarify dinner plans before you left? |
Anonymous
Or bonfire at Billy Bob's be home at 11. And be home at 11! |
Anonymous
| Cold night even for bonfire |
Anonymous
Agree. If she thought you might be home by 8, you could have been more clear about the time frame. |
Anonymous
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You're right that her dramatics were unnecessary and immature but you're wrong for not communicating.
The two of you need to get on the same page for communicating. What would have happened if she went into labor early and needed a ride to the hospital ASAP but you weren't checking your messages? She would be stuck calling 911 or a friend, and you would have arrived home to an empty house. How would you have felt then? You're about to be a father. You need to man up and start acting more responsibly. And your wife needs to learn how to control her emotions better. (I wouldn't tell her all of this, just keep it under your hat for now unless you start to see a pattern for either/both of you, in which case you both will need to begin couples therapy and possibly parenting classes.) |
Anonymous
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Apologize. Tell her you realize you should have been more specific. Next time be more specific.
And please don't leave her home with your newborn while y ou go out drinking. That's a recipe for divorce. |
Anonymous
Lol how can I get an invite to to Billy Bob’s bonfire? Sounds like fun |