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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I always loathe the “she’s hormanal” thing. I didn’t “get hormonal” (although some women do.

This woman is already a 24/7 parent, and it’s time you step up too. She has to watch what she eats, what she drinks, what she does, go to doctors appointments, etc. She’s quietly doing kick counts, planning her hospital bag, and worrying about how she’s going to handle a newborn.

[b]I’m guessing you kind of presented your outing like you were going to Jim Bobs for a quick visit, or a beer or two. That’s why she texted to see when you’d be home. Of course, you already knew you’d be out all evening.[/b] You want to play the “she won’t let me anymore” card, rather than “I won’t grow up” card.

Here’s the thing. Yes, you’re “allowed” to go out until midnight still. BUT - your communication about it needs to change, and your expectations about how and how often you do it has to change. Like it or not... you have a child, and you have a child NOW. What if your wife had gone into labor and you missed the text for two hours? I know you’re thinking it’s unlikely - but like it or not, it’s  far off the realm. You need to step up your game in favor of your wife and family, starting now.

So, like I said, I wasn’t normal during pregnancy. I’m pretty easy going about nights out, etc. But, if you were vague on an outing, then failed to respond to texts, and CONTINUED to be vague, Especially when I was 30 weeks pregnant, id fail to be impressed too. You dropped a major ball.

I’m curious to know how many times this has happened in the past, or recently, or a whole bunch of other things. [/quote]

This.  The reason she thought you might be home for dinner is because you did NOT make clear that you were planning to spend seven hours at your friend's house.  Which is totally inconsiderate.  And it took you two hours to get a text?  Not cool.  THEN you said you'd be home in a few hours, which actually was three hours.  The "I love you" was just fuel to the flames, buddy.  You were out drinking and having fun, while she's home alone and pregnant.  And you can't even commit to being home by a certain time?

I have no issue with my husband going out with friends, etc.  But it's common courtesy to tell the person you live with where you're going and when you plan to be back, and to let them know if there are any changes.  [/quote]

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