Can’t afford to take care of my child anymore

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hi friends! OP, truly sorry if this is not the case, but there was a poster very similar to this a couple of years ago. Eventually the thread turned toward people trying to send gift cards to the OP. It was determined the person was a fraud. I remember the moderator (Jeff?) saying this. So please proceed with caution.

Yeah sounds like the no money for Christmas poster.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Lost a lot of sympathy for OP when it came out she doesn't have/want credit cards. I know people who can't afford their kids due to no fault of their own AND have maxed on credit cards. oP has options even if they aren't great.

Ok now this is as backwards as can be. You have sympathy for those who spend money they don't have, but not for those who don't.

[Anonymous]

9- year old should be at school. There are lots of restaurants that hire you on the spot as a waiter, host, busser or dishwasher. Many even have extra food you can take home. I don't understand why you can't afford your child though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Lost a lot of sympathy for OP when it came out she doesn't have/want credit cards. I know people who can't afford their kids due to no fault of their own AND have maxed on credit cards. oP has options even if they aren't great.

Ok now this is as backwards as can be. You have sympathy for those who spend money they don't have, but not for those who don't.

I'm guessing OP meant she can't afford after-care or before-care for her child. At 9, she could theoretically be latch-key...not ideal, but not terrible.

I think you guys should have more sympathy on the credit cards. Some people have trouble getting credit cards, especially if they had a previous bankruptcy and were unemployed. I know at least two people who had serious credit problems due to a former spouse that was mentally ill or addicted to something, who maxed out all the credit cards and forced them into bankruptcy. Really hard to get credit after that, particularly if you don't have a job (and OP indicated she just got hired into this position). I agree it's really important to get credit cards and build up your credit. OP, don't know your situation, but when you get a minute to breathe, try getting a low limit credit card and try to rebuild your credit.

[Anonymous]

What is it that you can't afford?

[Anonymous]

OP, please update. What kind of help do you need? paying for rent/mortgage, food?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Lost a lot of sympathy for OP when it came out she doesn't have/want credit cards. I know people who can't afford their kids due to no fault of their own AND have maxed on credit cards. oP has options even if they aren't great.

I’m not asking for your sympath or money . I just don’t own any credit cards.

OP, i'm sorry you are going through this, but what is it you're asking for if not sympathy (online support) or money/resources? Your original post simply says you can't take care of your child. the gov shutdown broke you and you have no one.

Please come out and simply ask for what you are looking for? A lot of us can guide you and help you figure out what to do. But you're not telling us - just saying you're not asking for anything.

[Anonymous]

I’m so sorry OP.

People, OP did not say she doesn’t want credit cards. She said she does not own. There are many reasons why one may not own one even if they want to.

[Anonymous]

OP, yes you can. Trust me. It sucks, but you can. FIND RESOURCES. What is it you need. We can help you find resources. Signed single mom whose husband stole her money and left her and her child without any financial resources and I had no family around and barely any friends thanks to xDH lies. Years later, we're OK. We lived on canned black beans for the longest time. But it didn't last.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, yes you can. Trust me. It sucks, but you can. FIND RESOURCES. What is it you need. We can help you find resources. Signed single mom whose husband stole her money and left her and her child without any financial resources and I had no family around and barely any friends thanks to xDH lies. Years later, we're OK. We lived on canned black beans for the longest time. But it didn't last.

Good for you PP. You must be very proud of the life youve built for yourself and family. I hope your children see what a great role model you are.

[Anonymous]

OP, several people have asked what you need and you won’t respond. How can anyone help you if you are too lazy to give details?

[Anonymous]

I agree with the posters who suggest talking to the school social worker or counselor. They can provide you with information and resources that are available to your family. If your child doesn't already receive Free/Reduced lunch and breakfast, they can help with that paperwork. In VA, the before/after care fees are charged on a sliding scale based on income, so there may be some options there for you. Our ES has a food pantry for kids that need food -- they send a bag home with each eligible child for the weekend. If your school has something similar, you can talk to the school social worker about getting on that list.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, several people have asked what you need and you won’t respond. How can anyone help you if you are too lazy to give details?

Lazy? You know nothing about this person. Maybe she's not on DCUM because she's swamped with work, depressed, whatever. Of all adjectives, you chose lazy? You sound delightful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, please update. What kind of help do you need? paying for rent/mortgage, food?

Op here

I don’t know what I’m going to do

I need a crisis line , need someone to talk to

Yes I’m about to face eviction, I’m trying to get help, yes i Have a job and no I don’t trust my child to fend for herself.

I just don’t have outside resources.

I just don’t want this life anymore, tired being a single mom with all responsibility on me at all times and I’m barely making it

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, several people have asked what you need and you won’t respond. How can anyone help you if you are too lazy to give details?

Lazy? You know nothing about this person. Maybe she's not on DCUM because she's swamped with work, depressed, whatever. Of all adjectives, you chose lazy? You sound delightful.

Op here

Yes I’m extremely depressed, I’m not always on here every minute of the day

I have a long commute, which is another stressor that I must deal with.