Facial hair on teen DD

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Anonymous wrote:I did electrolysis in my 20s. It was expensive and painful and seems to have made no difference. Has the treatment changed?

Anyone have specific recommendations in Maryland for a South Asian threader. My DD and I could both use it!

This is not in Maryland, but maybe you could get to one of the DC locations?
We are South Asian, the owner is South Asian, and we have had good luck at the Dupont Circle location.

Sorry, forgot the link...
http://www.dupontthreading.com

Thank you! Do you find that it lessens a lot over time, or do you keep having to go year after year? And can I also ask how often you go (we are South Asian also).

I do think it lessens a bit over time, but we still have to go regularly. I'd say about once a month or so. We've only been going for about a year, so I can't say yet about the long term.
One thing about threading or any hair removal if you're South Asian, as I'm sure you well know, is that there can be some facial hair lower on the forehead than Caucasians typically have, and/or on the sides of the face. So then rather than just doing mustache and brow areas, they may do "whole face" threading so there's not a weird line where the hair has been removed around brows and mustache, with fuzz remaining. You can also do waxing depending on the situation. But honestly it helps having it done by pros who have the same hair issues themselves, and know how to work with this situation.
But hey, our consolation is beautiful thick hair on the head!

Yes, this has been my problem in the past with hair removal, particularly waxing. Along with the damage to my skin, there was such a clear line of demarcation between waxed an unwaxed areas that it was a worse overall result. I've been cutting the hair over my lips with a nail scissors for decades, but would love a better solution and would love less hair on my chin. Thanks again for the advice. Hallelujah for the hair on the head!

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Threading should do it, but you have to get it done every month. I would honestly get it lasered off.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I was in the same situation as you -- pre-teen daughter with noticeable "mustache" but no expressed interest in doing anything about it. I basically kept my mouth shut. Once, when she was about the same age as your daughter is now, I mentioned to her that if it ever bothered her, there were ways to deal with it and that she could ask me any time.

She also has lots of dark hair on her legs, which she was not interested in shaving. This fall, when she was 15, she said she wanted to try waxing her legs, and I got her an appointment. She was fine with it. About two months later, when she went back a second time for her legs, she said she wanted to get her upper lip done as well. And that too went fine.

Bottom line -- I did not impose grooming standards on her, but informed her of the options. She took me up on it when she was ready.

+1 I think this is such a thoughtful way to support. I think I would present it in a general discussion of puberty rather than something to bring up as an issue specific to her. In puberty you get hair, some girls and women decide to remove etc. This allows you to still be the mom who finds her absolutely beautiful AND them mom who is on her side to help her adjust to world's expectations to the extent and in the ways that she wants.