Facial hair on teen DD
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| OP here. Thank you all. My daughter has not mentioned this at all to me and is generally not overly concerned about her appearance. Should I bring it up with her or wait for her to approach me? I don’t know if she really doesn’t care or if she is to embarrassed to bring it up. |
Anonymous
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I’m the PP whose daughter doesn’t care about this yet. It’s so tricky to know whether to bring it up! I struggled with that for my older daughter because I didn’t want to make her self-conscious or suggest that she’s not beautiful as she is.
What I ended up doing for her and for my younger one is trying to be matter of fact and explain that many women remove hair (as do I) but that it is natural to have hair and it is her choice. I told them I can help them figure out how to beat remove it if they wanted and to just let me know. |
Anonymous
| Take her to get it vaxed, repeat when needed, hair will die out. I was really hairy on my legs as a teen, like nuts and pale skin like feta cheese! So gross, I am so glad my mom took me to vax it all the time, by 20 it was much better and now I barely have any hair on legs. |
Anonymous
| When she brings it up, do electrolysis. It's not going to go away and waxing isnt permanent. If she has light skin and dark hair, layers may work but require multiple treatments vs electrolysis. |
Anonymous
| NADS wax strips are great |
Anonymous
| Try the tinkle face razors on amazon. I used jolen in high school (repeatedly burned my skin which was even more awkward), waxed lip from college until recently. Highly recommend. |
Anonymous
Electrolysis actually works if you can find a really good technician. Waxing can damage the skin and won’t solve the problem long term. |
Anonymous
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I did electrolysis in my 20s. It was expensive and painful and seems to have made no difference. Has the treatment changed?
Anyone have specific recommendations in Maryland for a South Asian threader. My DD and I could both use it! |
Anonymous
| My 14yo uses the finishing touch. Don't let the infomercial-ness scare you, it's a great little tool and totally painless. I went this direction with her because her skin is so sensitive and I was worried about depilatory burns or irritation from waxing. |
Anonymous
This is not in Maryland, but maybe you could get to one of the DC locations? We are South Asian, the owner is South Asian, and we have had good luck at the Dupont Circle location. |
Anonymous
Sorry, forgot the link... http://www.dupontthreading.com |
Anonymous
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OP, I was in the same situation as you -- pre-teen daughter with noticeable "mustache" but no expressed interest in doing anything about it. I basically kept my mouth shut. Once, when she was about the same age as your daughter is now, I mentioned to her that if it ever bothered her, there were ways to deal with it and that she could ask me any time.
She also has lots of dark hair on her legs, which she was not interested in shaving. This fall, when she was 15, she said she wanted to try waxing her legs, and I got her an appointment. She was fine with it. About two months later, when she went back a second time for her legs, she said she wanted to get her upper lip done as well. And that too went fine. Bottom line -- I did not impose grooming standards on her, but informed her of the options. She took me up on it when she was ready. |
Anonymous
Thank you! Do you find that it lessens a lot over time, or do you keep having to go year after year? And can I also ask how often you go (we are South Asian also). |
Anonymous
+1 These work great! |
Anonymous
I do think it lessens a bit over time, but we still have to go regularly. I'd say about once a month or so. We've only been going for about a year, so I can't say yet about the long term. One thing about threading or any hair removal if you're South Asian, as I'm sure you well know, is that there can be some facial hair lower on the forehead than Caucasians typically have, and/or on the sides of the face. So then rather than just doing mustache and brow areas, they may do "whole face" threading so there's not a weird line where the hair has been removed around brows and mustache, with fuzz remaining. You can also do waxing depending on the situation. But honestly it helps having it done by pros who have the same hair issues themselves, and know how to work with this situation. But hey, our consolation is beautiful thick hair on the head! 
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