My teen ranaway

[Anonymous]

Hugs for you. It is very hard to parent a teen, I frequently cry because I don't have answers for what to do with mine. Stay strong, sending you good thoughts.

[Anonymous]

There is only one thing that has results you can count on -- and that's neglect.
Anything else, all you can do it try -- you can love your kids 100%, and they can still struggle. You can do everything the books tell you, and they can still struggle. You can set a good example, take them to church, get them involved in volunteer work, and they can still struggle. You just gotta keep trying, because you never know what's going to work. Hang in there.



NP here. I love this. True, neglect would have terrible consequences and that's something you could count on. Anything else is just the best you can think of to do at the moment. Keep parenting because your stability in the midst of her chaos is like a lighthouse. It's something to count on, even if seen from a distance.

And please make it your job to do anything which constitutes self care for you. Something each day. My kid was in a similar crisis last year at Christmas. I feel what you are going through. And I was a teenage runaway who stayed gone and incommunicado for months, who is now a middle aged soccer mom with a great relationship with both parents.

Don't worry if you can't see how life can ever feel ok again. Just keep taking care of yourself, keep parenting, and know that things can truly get much better.

My love and prayers are with you.

[Anonymous]

OP here - This was a pretty bad Christmas. My DD is still missing after a week, and because of the holiday, the detectives were at home instead of looking of her. I had to go through the motions of cooking dinner, going to church and opening presents for the sake of my other child, but I truly just wanted to stay in bed. Back to work this morning to keep my mind busy, otherwise, it will go to pretty dark places.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here - This was a pretty bad Christmas. My DD is still missing after a week, and because of the holiday, the detectives were at home instead of looking of her. I had to go through the motions of cooking dinner, going to church and opening presents for the sake of my other child, but I truly just wanted to stay in bed. Back to work this morning to keep my mind busy, otherwise, it will go to pretty dark places.

I'm not sure if this helps, but I am happy to have another child -- I bet keeping your focus on that child will really help you get through this. I put my parents through some tough times and they have told me afterwards that if it hadn't been for knowing that they needed to keep it together for my little sister they would have completely lost it. Hang in there!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here - This was a pretty bad Christmas. My DD is still missing after a week, and because of the holiday, the detectives were at home instead of looking of her. I had to go through the motions of cooking dinner, going to church and opening presents for the sake of my other child, but I truly just wanted to stay in bed. Back to work this morning to keep my mind busy, otherwise, it will go to pretty dark places.

I'm not sure if this helps, but I am happy to have another child -- I bet keeping your focus on that child will really help you get through this. I put my parents through some tough times and they have told me afterwards that if it hadn't been for knowing that they needed to keep it together for my little sister they would have completely lost it. Hang in there!!

Sorry-- I meant to say I'm happy YOU have another child. Good luck!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here - This was a pretty bad Christmas. My DD is still missing after a week, and because of the holiday, the detectives were at home instead of looking of her. I had to go through the motions of cooking dinner, going to church and opening presents for the sake of my other child, but I truly just wanted to stay in bed. Back to work this morning to keep my mind busy, otherwise, it will go to pretty dark places.

I'm sorry OP. I have a difficult green who suffers from mental illness. He's always either come home or been found within half a day. But I know the panic, fear and dark places you can go. I was hoping that by now you'd have better news. I will continue to keep you and your family in my thoughts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here - This was a pretty bad Christmas. My DD is still missing after a week, and because of the holiday, the detectives were at home instead of looking of her. I had to go through the motions of cooking dinner, going to church and opening presents for the sake of my other child, but I truly just wanted to stay in bed. Back to work this morning to keep my mind busy, otherwise, it will go to pretty dark places.

I'm so sorry - praying for you and your family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here - This was a pretty bad Christmas. My DD is still missing after a week, and because of the holiday, the detectives were at home instead of looking of her. I had to go through the motions of cooking dinner, going to church and opening presents for the sake of my other child, but I truly just wanted to stay in bed. Back to work this morning to keep my mind busy, otherwise, it will go to pretty dark places.

I'm so sorry - praying for you and your family.

So so sorry, OP. Will keep your daughter in prayer. Hugs for you and family. Please keep us posted.

[Anonymous]

Once you do meet up again, tell the kid it is time to learn indepence. Assist in finding a room to rent and in getting some furniture, find a job that pays enough for basics.
Living at home is not working out

At least this way you will know where she is

[Anonymous]

OP, my heart aches for you. I pray she is found safe and you find peace through this. You are a good parent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, my heart aches for you. I pray she is found safe and you find peace through this. You are a good parent.

What?? You don’t know this . She could be abuser, her new husband might be sexually abusing the girls - anything could be going on.
We have no information about this family but everything is sending ‘hugs’ and ‘prayers’ - sounds like a GoFundMe will be coming soon

[Anonymous]

I'm so sorry, OP. My best wishes that your daughter is safe and happy. Stay strong!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
I'm so sorry, OP. My best wishes that your daughter is safe and happy. Stay strong!

She might be safe and happy now!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, my heart aches for you. I pray she is found safe and you find peace through this. You are a good parent.

What?? You don’t know this . She could be abuser, her new husband might be sexually abusing the girls - anything could be going on.
We have no information about this family but everything is sending ‘hugs’ and ‘prayers’ - sounds like a GoFundMe will be coming soon

OP - I'll take the gofundme page
I am not the abuser and I am divorced, so put those negative thoughts out of yoru head/

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, my heart aches for you. I pray she is found safe and you find peace through this. You are a good parent.

What?? You don’t know this . She could be abuser, her new husband might be sexually abusing the girls - anything could be going on.
We have no information about this family but everything is sending ‘hugs’ and ‘prayers’ - sounds like a GoFundMe will be coming soon

OP - I'll take the gofundme page
I am not the abuser and I am divorced, so put those negative thoughts out of yoru head/

Who is the abuser then? You are implying that there is an abuser.
Why has your daughter left? What is bothering her? In all of these pages you have not explained what the problem is.


What would you do with a GoFundMe ?