I am resentful of women who got a leg up in life because of who they married

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As I watch couples pair up it becomes evident how much of a difference who women marry makes a difference in their general life circumstances. Even successful career women when paired with equally successful men end up with twice the privilege and perks.

I’m jealous that I missed out.

This works both ways, you know. I love my wife, she's an awesome partner and mother, and I can't imagine my life without her. But she makes less than a tenth of what I do, and it's unquestionable that we'd have very different circumstances if she was in a more professionally remunerative field.

[Anonymous]

Troll post! Stop feeding the troll!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What an absolute waste of time and energy.

Focus on YOU: what you can do to increase your earning capacity, making deeper and better friendships, finding activities you love, drawing a great partner to you, and above all shifting your mindset to one of contentment.

HAHAHAHAAA You new here?

[Anonymous]

Me Too!

I wish I had done better marrying up also. Sadly I didn't really figure out the game until after I married my college BF. Now I know I should have played the game better. He doesn't have a super great job so if I divorce him the outcome will not be as good for me as it might be for some of my friends who have husbands that earn more.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Me Too!

I wish I had done better marrying up also. Sadly I didn't really figure out the game until after I married my college BF. Now I know I should have played the game better. He doesn't have a super great job so if I divorce him the outcome will not be as good for me as it might be for some of my friends who have husbands that earn more.

For sure! Some girls just have a knack for weeding out the right kind of guys early on and zero innon them. I was too naive and clueless. I look around my friend circle and realize why certain women ended up with their husbands. Love is there sure but it was also about what other attributes they brought to the table such as the right family, social circle, earning potential etc.

I saw how they looked down on and rejected men who didn’t meet certain standards.

[Anonymous]

Why the hate on OP? It's a totally reasonable regret to look at others around you and wonder what could have been. It is statistically proven that higher income leads to higher rates of happiness. Sure, lots of unhappy rich people, and lots of happy poor people. But all things being equal, i'd rather have a great spouse *with* money than the same great spouse *without* money. It's not crazy for OP to express that sentiment.

[Anonymous]

I don’t understand how women can still think this way. You want money- you are allowed to work! Go make big money! And if you can’t for whatever reason... why would a rich guy want you? What do you bring to the table?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand how women can still think this way. You want money- you are allowed to work! Go make big money! And if you can’t for whatever reason... why would a rich guy want you? What do you bring to the table?

I'm the person who said that people are hating too much on OP. OP didn't say she didn't make any money, or had a lower income. Even if OP makes a lot of money, her financial situation looks very different than people with only a single high income. My DH and I both in the multiple six figures. So both of us have very high incomes. But if he made only $40k, and I continued to make $300k, our HHI would look very different, and our financial comfort would be very different, than what it currently is. $340k in DC puts you comfortably upper middle class. But our income ($700k) leaves us comfortably rich.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand how women can still think this way. You want money- you are allowed to work! Go make big money! And if you can’t for whatever reason... why would a rich guy want you? What do you bring to the table?

I'm the person who said that people are hating too much on OP. OP didn't say she didn't make any money, or had a lower income. Even if OP makes a lot of money, her financial situation looks very different than people with only a single high income. My DH and I both in the multiple six figures. So both of us have very high incomes. But if he made only $40k, and I continued to make $300k, our HHI would look very different, and our financial comfort would be very different, than what it currently is. $340k in DC puts you comfortably upper middle class. But our income ($700k) leaves us comfortably rich.

If OP has the ambition to make lots of money, who says she cannot make 700k on her own? If there is a will, there is a way.

She just wants all that work to be done for her, by her husband. Too late for that! Too bad, so sad.

[Anonymous]

I feel you, OP. As you become more successful careerwise, it's harder and harder to find a mate. You realize the importance of marrying well when you are young.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Me Too!

I wish I had done better marrying up also. Sadly I didn't really figure out the game until after I married my college BF. Now I know I should have played the game better. He doesn't have a super great job so if I divorce him the outcome will not be as good for me as it might be for some of my friends who have husbands that earn more.

For sure! Some girls just have a knack for weeding out the right kind of guys early on and zero innon them. I was too naive and clueless. I look around my friend circle and realize why certain women ended up with their husbands. Love is there sure but it was also about what other attributes they brought to the table such as the right family, social circle, earning potential etc.

I saw how they looked down on and rejected men who didn’t meet certain standards.

So your friends are all shallow gold diggers?

[Anonymous]

odd ball poster

[Anonymous]

meaning OP is an odd ball poster

[Anonymous]

You can try to change your situation OP and stop being a victim. Both my DH and I grew up poor. We were both determined to change our situation. There is luck involved but you also have to gauge how hard a worker someone is and whether they have any drinking or drug problems. We are multi-millionares now. And we thank our lucky stars every single day. We still use coupons and look for deals. We enjoy life and want others to do well too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As I watch couples pair up it becomes evident how much of a difference who women marry makes a difference in their general life circumstances. Even successful career women when paired with equally successful men end up with twice the privilege and perks.

I’m jealous that I missed out.

Who you marry matters. It matters for men too. Don't deny reality, and if you have kids tell them the TRUTH - i.e. to be very mindful and ambitious about picking a high quality mate.