Best friends, sex is great, not "in love" = divorce?

[Anonymous]

She’s bored and misses the excitement of dating and getting boned by random studs.

I wouldn’t be surprised if there’s a budding emotional affair with a coworker at the very least.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s stupid and short sighted. Newness wears off any relationship. Romantic or new friend ones. What remains the the close bond and trust and some physical attraction since the person knows you like no one else. I’ve been married 6 years with one toddler. I’m not “in love” with my husband in ge butterfly sense. But I love him deeply, we have satisfying sex, sometimes exciting, we trust eatchotber and he’s the person that I want to tell everything to and want in my space next to me for everything. And when the toddler is with grandma we get a chance to reignite a little bit it’s based on how we know we felt when it was super new and unknown.

What if you want all that PLUS the giddy, butterflies, I can't keep my hands off you feeling?

Is that realistic for any long term couple?

[Anonymous]

I hope her husband gets the kids.

[Anonymous]

You should support your sister. It takes courage for women to put themselves first in this world. She deserves to be happy. Would you rather she stay subjugated in a loveless marriage?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You should support your sister. It takes courage for women to put themselves first in this world. She deserves to be happy. Would you rather she stay subjugated in a loveless marriage?

I'm not OP, but WTF? The sister has two small children and she isn't subjugated; it's just not exciting anymore. She needs to put on her big girl panties and work to inject some excitement into her marriage if she wants to be happy.

[Anonymous]

I dont buy the reasons the sister gave.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You should support your sister. It takes courage for women to put themselves first in this world. She deserves to be happy. Would you rather she stay subjugated in a loveless marriage?

A marriage with someone described as a "best friend' and having a reasonably active sex life is not a "loveless marriage". I agree with the others that sis probably has her eye on someone else and is looking for a way out. If it were my sister I'd be giving her a Jethro Gibbs-style head slap and a stern talking to, with the hopes that she would come to her senses.

[Anonymous]

Pretty offensive description of a loveless marriage to those of us that have actually endured genuine loveless and abusive relationships...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She’s bored and misses the excitement of dating and getting boned by random studs.

I wouldn’t be surprised if there’s a budding emotional affair with a coworker at the very least.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s stupid and short sighted. Newness wears off any relationship. Romantic or new friend ones. What remains the the close bond and trust and some physical attraction since the person knows you like no one else. I’ve been married 6 years with one toddler. I’m not “in love” with my husband in ge butterfly sense. But I love him deeply, we have satisfying sex, sometimes exciting, we trust eatchotber and he’s the person that I want to tell everything to and want in my space next to me for everything. And when the toddler is with grandma we get a chance to reignite a little bit it’s based on how we know we felt when it was super new and unknown.

What if you want all that PLUS the giddy, butterflies, I can't keep my hands off you feeling?

Is that realistic for any long term couple?

No, that is fantasy. As someone who thinks my spouse is the hottest thing I've ever seen, its not always butterflies and giddy. Sure sometimes going out for the night, they look great and you can't wait to get them home. But there is a bunch of days with sweat pants and being tired and sick kids/spouse in between that don't get your stomach all tied up

[Anonymous]

She may be having a mid-life crisis.

Was he her first love?
Perhaps she wants to experience that “giddy, schoolgirl...Butterflies in the stomach feeling” that usually happens when a romance is brand-new.

But considering there are two young children in the equation, her life isn’t all about her and only her.

Plus what if the other side consists of nothing but weeds + dead grass......??!
She would have broken up an entire family already.

[Anonymous]

She is crazy. She is still having great sex once a week and they are best friends. It does not get better than this.

-from someone in a truly loveless and sexless marriage who has been living as if separated for years (no dates, little communication, no sex for years, etc.)

[Anonymous]

Yo sista is a fu@ktard.

[Anonymous]

Another dream in the sky unable to accept life female. Really?

[taketothebank]

The sister is (or soon will be) taking a ride on the bone train. She will ride the train until she finds a man who loves to cheat on his partner.

Then, she will marry him and bitch (likely on this site) about his cheating. He will dump her and she will get back on the train and ride until she finds another of the same type.

Meanwhile, her kids get to watch mommy get on and off the train with as many stops as she can fit in.