Best friends, sex is great, not "in love" = divorce?
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Anonymous
Is sounds about right. She’s either daydreaming and flirting with someone else or she’s in the early stages of an affair. |
Anonymous
| So, you're secretly in love with your brother-in-law? |
Anonymous
| Alas, your sister is immature. Who wouldn't want to be in love with their best friend? She should know by now that marriage (with kids) can be pretty boring and routine, and being in love is about recreating the affection and intimacy often. In sounds like she wants a fling with a lothario... |
Anonymous
| The initial whoosh of romance isn't supposed to last - it ideally makes way for a deeper intimacy and connection that grows in a partnership over time. People who expect to be able to coast through several decades on that initial jolt are in for a bad surprise |
Anonymous
Double this. Except not sexless ... the repulsed variety. |
Anonymous
Or she's priming herself for one. I'll never forget my exDW one time telling me "I don't believe humans are meant to be monogamous." At the time I laughed it off and engaged in the conversation a bit but looking back, it should have been a huge red flag that the affair was going to happen soon. |
Anonymous
Yeah, she'll start to resent him for not providing that magical "spark". She'll fall for some guy either at work or somewhere else where sparks will fly and she'll mistake it for "love" or "romance". She'll shack up with the guy, wreck her marriage, and then find out later that the romance with that one fades as well. Seen this movie many times over and know how it ends. |
Anonymous
| OMG talk her out of this. A 6 and a 4 year old? Ugh. |
Anonymous
My ex DW said something similar to a friend at a party when I was within ear shot. "Marriage is great but the spontaneity you had in dating was delicious" - burned in my memory now. About a year after that I learned she was sleeping with her ex BF at a Hilton by Dulles while she was supposedly on travel in Boston. |
Anonymous
Agree that this is the most likely reason. She needs to get her head out of her a$$, and think of her kids. |
Anonymous
+ 1 !!!!! |
Anonymous
| I seriously would have award time not telling my sister, what you are planning is stupid, ammoral, and selfish beyond all reason. |
Anonymous
| It’s stupid and short sighted. Newness wears off any relationship. Romantic or new friend ones. What remains the the close bond and trust and some physical attraction since the person knows you like no one else. I’ve been married 6 years with one toddler. I’m not “in love” with my husband in ge butterfly sense. But I love him deeply, we have satisfying sex, sometimes exciting, we trust eatchotber and he’s the person that I want to tell everything to and want in my space next to me for everything. And when the toddler is with grandma we get a chance to reignite a little bit it’s based on how we know we felt when it was super new and unknown. |
Anonymous
But she doesn't have that, you do. |
Anonymous
Abuse, addiction or A PROVEN affair are the only reasons to divorce. The two of you need to grow up and become decent human beings. |