DH all of sudden a lot less interested in having sex...what to do?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DH has always enjoyed having sex. Nothing crazy but expressed interest at least several times a week. Was often playful and flirty. For nearly the past year this has changed. Initiates maybe once every two weeks. Not flirty or fun. I find myself having to ask, which is something new. Sometimes he takes me up on my offer but other times he doesn't want to do anything. No other changes in habits, though he no longer gives my nice gifts for birthday or Christmas (used to give jewelry, for my last birthday I got a cookbook and nothing for mother's day). When I jokingly make a comment, he tells me he's just getting old. He is 49 years old. Is this typical for men in their late 40s?

He’s getting his knob polished elsewhere. Sorry, OP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DH has always enjoyed having sex. Nothing crazy but expressed interest at least several times a week. Was often playful and flirty. For nearly the past year this has changed. Initiates maybe once every two weeks. Not flirty or fun. I find myself having to ask, which is something new. Sometimes he takes me up on my offer but other times he doesn't want to do anything. No other changes in habits, though he no longer gives my nice gifts for birthday or Christmas (used to give jewelry, for my last birthday I got a cookbook and nothing for mother's day). When I jokingly make a comment, he tells me he's just getting old. He is 49 years old. Is this typical for men in their late 40s?

Hate to say it, he’s having an affair. Take it from a guy the same age as your husband because I was your husband.

Good luck

[Anonymous]

He is a dog like most men. Wants to prove he can get it elsewhere. Mid life crisis.

[Anonymous]

I've asked (jokingly) about porn. He never answers. Maybe I need to have another conversation about that. I have also considered he could be having an affair. Low libido was something I thought guys in their 60s might face. DH seems too young and the change has occurred suddenly in the past year.

[Anonymous]

I had more libido when I was having an affair. I miss those days....

[Anonymous]

Girl friend somewhere, most likely work

[Anonymous]

I’m sorry but I really think it’s an affair. Can you track his phone?

[Anonymous]

He won't give me the password to his phone. Refused.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He won't give me the password to his phone. Refused.

Of course he did. And you know why

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He won't give me the password to his phone. Refused.

Welp, there you go. Wasn’t that hard to figure out. Case closed.

Actually, it’s one of 3 things In order of likelihood:

- his phone is full of porn
- there are texts that show he’s having an emotional affair
- full blown affair

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DH has always enjoyed having sex. Nothing crazy but expressed interest at least several times a week. Was often playful and flirty. For nearly the past year this has changed. Initiates maybe once every two weeks. Not flirty or fun. I find myself having to ask, which is something new. Sometimes he takes me up on my offer but other times he doesn't want to do anything. No other changes in habits, though he no longer gives my nice gifts for birthday or Christmas (used to give jewelry, for my last birthday I got a cookbook and nothing for mother's day). When I jokingly make a comment, he tells me he's just getting old. He is 49 years old. Is this typical for men in their late 40s?

IF this is not a troll post, then maybe he's just not that attracted to you. have you put on weight? dress frumpy? have you been rejecting him in the past? what are you doing to make yourself attractive to him?

why do you immediately think it's him? the real problem could be staring at you in the mirror,

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've asked (jokingly) about porn. He never answers. Maybe I need to have another conversation about that. I have also considered he could be having an affair. Low libido was something I thought guys in their 60s might face. DH seems too young and the change has occurred suddenly in the past year.

I think he doesn’t answer bc he knows you’re onto him. He thinks “uh oh, it won’t take her long to find out I’m having an affair.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He won't give me the password to his phone. Refused.

Giant.Red.Flag.

[Anonymous]

You should lose weight.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He won't give me the password to his phone. Refused.

Giant.Red.Flag.

Yup, case closed. Sorry, OP. In what context did you ask him for his password? How did it come up? It sounds like you were suspicious and trying to rationalize your way out of it. He’s very likely hiding something that is impacting your marriage and causing the changes you described, whether it be an affair or something else.